This week's question comes from Sheri:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
How can I shift/release/realign the incredibly painful belief that "I'm not wanted"?! Recently I had this pain triggered again by a man that I KNOW I don’t want a relationship with when I discovered he’s in touch with another woman. I'm afraid I'm sabotaging my relationships again.
I’ve done a ton of work on this belief and I’ve become clear how I’m the one who sabotaged my past relationships because of this fear. I really feel discouraged that this belief was triggered again despite all the healing I’ve done.
Part of me feels like I will never have the kind of relationship I want. Now, I know that
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Overcome Self Sabotage
Truth About Love Blocks
This week's question comes from Rebecca:
"Hey Orna and Matthew,
I just love you two! You’re always sharing the best of the best through your own experience and with your clients. I find it refreshing and truly awesome.
I hear from all over the place about “love blocks.” I’ve heard them called road blocks, subconscious blocks, blocks you’re not aware of, blocks to love, etc.
It appears there are all kinds of solutions to these blocks from having conversations with your parents (if they are alive), getting closure from speaking with an ex, to writing things down and burning them, etc.
What’s the deal with these so-called blocks? How can I get rid of something
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Addicted to drama?
This week's question comes from Marybeth:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have been reading your weekly love notes for years. There so much great information you two share. I love getting both a male and female perspective. Today I’m reaching out because despite the fact that I’ve done a lot of personal growth work on myself I can’t seem to settle in with a nice guy.
Everything starts off great, there’s chemistry, and I enjoy the getting to know each other part of the relationship, but then things get very boring for me. I get restless. I start thinking about my exes…. not that I want any of that drama back in my life.
My mind wanders… I start to wonder if there is
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Pushing away good men?
This week's question comes from Tracy:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really love reading your newsletter. It gives me so much hope that I can figure out my crazy love life.
I’ve done a lot of work to identify my patterns and I hope you can help me break them. I feel like I push away good men because deep inside I don’t really love myself. Also, I stay too long with nice men who just aren’t right for me.
How do I figure out how to love myself more/enough such that I don’t continue to be stuck in this pattern? I am trying to say nice things to myself like, “I deserve love,” but it doesn’t seem to be making a difference.
Please share your thoughts and
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Does Love Equal Sacrifice?
This week's question comes from Ramada:
"Hi Orna and Matthew, I have a really wrong concept of love. I keep thinking that it means to sacrifice oneself and one's own interests and giving in to another person just to be nice. It is just very subconscious but I can feel that is just what I believe, so I have discovered that if I just change that word and stop using it at all, it becomes easier to me to know what I am feeling. I decided to change love for FUN. Because fun is always good and always the best for me and that way I can easily notice what I would like as opposed to what I think I should do. Do you have any suggestions on how to let go of the fusion I (and
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Craving what you can’t have?
This week's question comes from Bridget:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hear you when you say that I am the common denominator in all of my relationships. I understand that like attracts like so that there must be something inside of me that is off because I only seem to be attracted to men I can’t have.
I know that I’m attractive and I have no problem getting dates – it’s just that the guys who like me and want a relationship with me, I’m not very interested in.
Then I meet a guy who I think is HOT – and inevitably, he is unavailable.
Why do I only want what I cannot have? How do I change whatever it is so I can settle down and start a family?
Please
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