This week's question comes from Sonia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I feel rather embarrassed to ask you this, as I am a coach myself. With all the work I’ve done on myself and all the work I do with my clients I am still single and even though I know WHY I am the way I am, and I know WHY I’m having a hard time creating my ideal love relationship, I can’t seem to do it.
What is the secret to removing limiting beliefs?"
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Hi Sonia,
Thank you for reaching out to us. There is no shame in asking a question and we’re thrilled that you asked us this one.
There are great coaches out there, and we have no doubt you do great work with your clients. We all have
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Overcome Self Sabotage
Are You Dating Like A Teenager?
This week's question comes from Rita:
"Orna and Matthew,
I have been divorced for just over 7 years now and I never in a million years thought that I would still be alone… I like myself fine, however I really want to share my life with someone.
It seems that I cannot get past the 3-4 months in with a man. By that time, I’m starting to worry and wonder if it’s going anywhere… and when I have “the talk” it ends.
Clearly I haven’t figured things out yet and I don’t know what it is that I'm doing wrong. Do you have any advice for a young-at-heart 57 year old that is active and adventurous?"
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Hi Rita,
Thank you for sharing your heartfelt struggle. We
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How can I be more visible?
This week's question comes from Niveen:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I do believe that Creating Love On Purpose® is the only way to attract what you need. My biggest problem in love is the men I feel that I deserve I seem invisible to them.
I am very visible in my work and socially but in love I feel I get pushed aside. I am ready to be visible to the men I deserve and to take a leap of faith to good men. I just need guidance.
Thank you."
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Dear Niveen,
We’re so glad to hear you are on board with the idea of Creating Love On Purpose®! We know from the experience we’ve had with thousands of women over the last 8+ years that this is the most effective way
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How do I find my blind spots?
This week's question comes from Yala:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for answering questions, I really think you give the best dating advice. I am an attractive 33 year old woman and I have never had a serious relationship before; just meaningless or meaningful only for me sex. I am looking for a partner that I am sexually attracted to, its not like it has to be Mr. Universe but I DO HAVE TO FIND HIM ATTRACTIVE not in a butterflies way but generally handsome and suitable.
Here is the catch, I was looking at my history and it seems that every guy that I am attracted to barely looks at me or barely even notices me, while all the ugly ones seem pursue me.
I
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How do I move on from a cheater?
This week's question comes from Patricia:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
Your Newsletter is such a blessing to me. You give the best dating advice. Thank you and God bless you for all the great work you do.
My question is how do you move on when you have loved someone for years and he has left me again (the 4th time). I am a forgiving person and always make excuses for his cheating behavior. I am 55 years old and sometimes I feel I cannot find anyone now. Also he was my first boyfriend 30 years ago. After my first husband died, he came back in my life. Sorry for writing so much but I want you to understand how much I am attached to him.
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Dear Patricia,
Thank
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Are you in a ‘convenient’ relationship?
This week's question comes from Helen:
"I've been listening to your interviews and appreciate them so much. Feel I am wiser for them. My question is this: If a man I haven't heard from in one month (he often backs off this long) still has not contacted me, does it constitute chasing to email him and say that the museum exhibit we talked about is over, but there is another one now I would be interested in seeing. (We have talked about the issue that his membership expired, but mine is still in effect and that he could go on my card.)
I would also say I hope he is doing well. No more. I feel he has hurt me by backing away for periods of time before, and I told
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