When you feel like the rug has been pulled out from under you because the relationship you thought would stand the test of time – didn’t – here’s how to get over a breakup and turn the heartbreaker into just someone you used to know. Trust us, it’s better than opening another pint of ice cream and scrolling through your ex’s social media.
Falling in love is the easy part of a relationship. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been with someone for 3 months, 3 years, or 3 decades, getting over a breakup is hard. For some people, the pain is so intense it’s physical.
Heartbreak can feel like it is the end of the world, so it’s important to remind your brain that the world will
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Topic: Heal Your Heart
Help! I Can’t Stop Thinking About My Ex & It’s Ruining My Life
This week’s question comes from Neena:
“Dear Orna and Matthew,
Help! I can’t stop thinking about my ex and it’s ruining my life! I obsess over him to the point that I can’t focus at work. I’m driving all my friends crazy because I keep going over all the details to find out what went wrong.
At night I have trouble sleeping because I can’t stop replaying our arguments over and over in my head or scanning his social media to see what he’s up to. What do I need to do to stop thinking about him? I know that our relationship wasn’t healthy and that we weren’t good together, but part of me really wants him back. It’s like I’m craving him.
Please help me so I can get
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Why Do I Attract Married Men? Is There A Way To Repel Them So They Stop Wasting My Time?
This week’s question comes from Patricia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me break this pattern I seem stuck in. Why do I attract married men? There must be a way to repel them, so they stop wasting my time.
I must confess, when I was younger, I was the other woman in a few relationships, and I feel terrible about it. So, I swore off married men and promised myself that I wouldn’t be part of that kind of situation ever again. I truly want to be in a real relationship.
Six months ago, I met a great guy and we hit it off right away. I had such a strong attraction to him and I thought I’d finally found The One. Then I discovered that he’s married. Of
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5 Reasons Why Soulmate Relationships Are Difficult
This week's question comes from Tamar:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me figure out why soulmate relationships are difficult. It seems that whenever I have a great connection with a man I am easily triggered, and I overthink everything.
Being in my 40s I’ve been around the block; I know relationships take work. I just wonder why the deeper the connection the more I seem off-kilter. Perhaps I should be with a completely different kind of guy than I think…?
Curious about your thoughts on this. I am a long-time reader of your blog.”
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Hi Tamar,
Thank you for asking this common quandary: why are Soulmate relationships difficult. Yes, it’s true
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Why Is Love So Hard To Find? How Getting Over Unrequited Love Can Change Your Love Life For Good
This week's question comes from Jen:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have a question about getting over unrequited love. You see, I met my soulmate a couple of years ago. I knew it the moment I met him. It was like my soul had opened up and I finally knew what love could be.
The problem is he didn’t feel the same way. I don’t really understand how that could be possible. He told me that he had never felt so comfortable with anyone before. Our connection was so strong.
He met someone else, and I heard through a friend that he is engaged. I feel devastated. It’s like my heart is being crushed. How could I meet my soulmate and he not feel the same way as me?
I don’t
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How To Let Go Of Hurt And Betrayal In Ways That Actually Motivate You To Walk Away From Your Ex
Your partner has broken your trust. You struggle to stop spinning about it. It hurts to take a deep breath with that giant pit in your stomach, and your heart feels broken beyond repair. Ever wonder how to let go of hurt and betrayal so you can move on with your life? Is it possible to open your heart so you can love again?
Getting over hurt and betrayal is not something that is going to happen overnight. But if you take a conscious approach to walking away from your ex and healing your heart, you can create a greater love and a stronger partnership than the one you lost.
It is so easy to get stuck between two opposing feelings. On the one hand, you want to get back
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