This week's question comes from Debi:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have been following the two of you for a very long time and I just love seeing how you relate to each other. It’s obvious how much you love each other and I think you’re such a great example of a loving couple.
I’m curious about your thoughts about what men want. I hear from all my friends that because I’m a powerful woman that I intimidate men.
It’s clear that Orna is a powerful woman and since here you both are – one man, one woman – I thought I’d ask you if this is true.
I am so tired of doing it all even though I love my job and my kids, it’d be really great to share my life with one special guy.
Thank you for your time.
Thank you for your sweet email. The good news is that you’re correct – we are “Love Coaches In Love” – we really do love each other. Thanks for noticing.
Since you’ve been following us for a while you’ve probably noticed that Orna is no wallflower. She is a powerful woman, and Matthew would tell you that was a BIG part of his attraction when we met. He thinks that is a super sexy character trait in a woman.
There is no one-size-fits-all or one-size-fits-most when it comes to attraction. Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder, and the same goes for sexy, or what someone finds attractive in another.
What is usually going on when your friends are telling you that you intimidate men is they are parroting back this false belief due to the misconception that when women show up in their masculine energy, men will generally not pursue that kind of woman for a relationship.
This occurs not because men find it intimidating, it’s simply not in their nature to compete with the woman they want to be in a relationship with.
Men compete with one another – it’s why they challenge each other. Competition squashes sexual chemistry – so men will not want to compete with a woman they find attractive, they will simply back away.
Often times powerful women are treated like “one of the boys” which is great in business when you want to be on par with the guys and be part of the group, but it doesn’t work in intimate relationship.
Feminine energy is not passive – rather it is receptive energy. All human beings regardless of gender possess masculine and feminine energy.
One of the goals we have with our powerful female clients is show them how to inspire a man to be their hero. This does not mean they have to show up incapable or as damsels in distress – instead it’s about showing a man appreciation for who he is and all that he has and can accomplish.
A man who wants to be in a relationship with you wants to know how to win with you – meaning he wants to know how to WIN YOUR HEART. He wants to know how to get you to choose him over any other man.
Most often there is a false belief that is at play when a woman thinks she is intimidating men. She believes that she can’t be herself to have the love she desires.
This is why it is so important to know your specific limiting beliefs because you cannot change anything that you are not aware of.
If you want to have a clear grasp of exactly what is blocking you from the love you want, the best place to start is by having a Your Love Imprint® Session with us.
Your Love Imprint® encapsulates the system that is keeping you from the love you want. It is the mismatch between what you experienced as a child in your family of origin and what you desire now, as a grown woman.
Having a Your Love Imprint® Session is like an initial exam at the doctor’s office. We will determine exactly what the issue is, and then offer suggestions about the best course of action for you based on your specific Love Imprint.
What is required for one person won’t be the same as another. Our goal is to be as effective and efficient as we can be with each client and having a Your Love Imprint® Session allows us to focus in and determine exactly what is blocking you from the love you want and how to remove your blocks.
Our client Adryenn was recently named one of the Top 45 Over 45 in business and she had been perplexed why she consistently ended up in the friend-zone. Click here to see what she has to say about her Love Imprint Session.
If you would like to get clear on what is really keeping you from the love you want and how to remove those blocks, book a Your Love Imprint Session by clicking here.
We are here to be your guides to love.
Love and Abundance,