This week's question comes from Amanda:
I’ve been a huge fan for many years, way back when you would host your Love On Purpose Revolution event. I have enjoyed seeing you two interact with each other. You give me hope that I can one day have what you have – a soul partnership.
I’m 47 years old and I haven’t been in a relationship for some time, could be over a decade since my last serious relationship. My friends tell me that I’m a catch, that my guy will find me and there is nothing that I need ‘to do.'
What are your thoughts on this?
I am at a place in my life where I really value myself, I am confident, capable, and it’s not that I need a man in my life – I just really would like to share my life with someone.
Thanks for shining your bright lights out in the world.”
Thank you so much for your thoughtful question and for the lovely feedback. It warms our hearts to know we’re making a difference in the world.
The idea that there is nothing for you to do from your well-meaning friends is directly tied to the myth of “Accidental Love.” It permeates every part of our society.
If you were 25 we’d agree. If you were 35 we’d wonder if that’s true for you. Because you’re over 40 we know that this is just crap advice. It doesn’t help you get any closer to your goal and it leaves you out of your power to create what you really want.
Nothing worth having in life “just magically happens.” The same set of Universal Laws that apply to everything – also apply to love.
Lasting love is no accident. Ask anyone you know who has ever been married and even those who are now divorced.
As a society the myth of Accidental Love is wreaking havoc on our families, our children, and our self-esteem.
We think it’s awesome that you don’t need a man in your life. That is the perfect time for you to create your true soul partnership.
Most people don’t know how to date to identify an ideal match for love to last – instead they meet someone who inspires all the feelings and they go all in. Only to discover that it’s more of the same of what they’ve experienced before. He won’t commit, he disappears, he ___[fill in the blank]__, etc.
It doesn’t matter what you put inside that blank above – what we know for sure is that it is FAMILIAR.
This is where things can really get interesting…
As a species we are programmed to survive.
Unfortunately, we don’t need great love to survive. S*E*X is instinctual, but lasting-love is not. Marriage itself is a social construct.
So the feelings that come at the beginning of a relationship will change. Just like all the feelings you’ve ever had. None of our feelings stick around for very long. They ebb and flow very much like waves crashing to the shoreline.
In other words – selecting an ideal partner based on a feeling is ludicrous.
There is a 100% chance that your feelings for that person will change!
Do we have your attention now?
What is familiar to you is determined by your subconscious mind. This part of you drives all of your behavior.
Your subconscious mind cannot judge (just like you cannot reason with a 4-year old). The ability to reason and judge develops around age 8-9 and that occurs in your big prefrontal cortex.
So when you have the all the feelings for someone you just met that is a signal from your subconscious mind saying, “This is FAMILIAR!”
What really sucks is it cannot inform you on whether it is familiar and will bring you joy or misery – because it is not capable of that analysis.
Your Love Imprint® determines what is familiar to you. It is the lynchpin to the entire system that keeps you attracted to the same kind of man over, and over, and over again.
If you’re ready to move past simply surviving with the same strategies for love you put in place when you were a little girl then apply for a Your Love Imprint® Session with us.
Your Love Imprint was created in your family of origin. It is the system in your subconscious mind that determines who you have the spark of attraction with because that is what is FAMILIAR to you.
Identifying Your Love Imprint is the key to being able to release the way you learned love in your family so you can make a new choice as a grown woman; a choice that is in alignment with your heart’s desire!
Applying for a Your Love Imprint® Session is easy – there’s a short web-form that you fill out as completely as you can, and once you submit that form you’re automatically redirected to our online calendar to schedule the session.
Click here to get Your Love Imprint® Session and you’ll know exactly what there is for you “to do” so you can create the love you want: www.YourLoveImprint.com
We are here to be your guides to love!
Love and Abundance,