This week's question comes from Sad and Single:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m kind of embarrassed to reach out to you two because I am a coach and should be a colleague and yet my secret is that I am not in a relationship…
I know what I’m looking for in a relationship, and even though I’m always helping my own clients call in the one I haven’t been able to do this for myself.
Whew! That was hard to type out… I guess I have a lot of shame because I really believe in the coaching I was trained in and I know it works… it’s worked for a lot of people, but so far, not me.
Can you help me? I feel like I’m really I’m running out of time and that I’m running out of
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Love On Purpose Blog
You are the common denominator…
This week's question comes from Andrea:
"Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for all that you do to help those dating after divorce get back out in the world and date. I’ve been single for the last five years and although I’ve had plenty of interesting experiences with men, I haven’t found my soulmate.
I really want to spend my life with “my man,” I just don’t know why I am having such a hard time finding him. I’m 47 and I’m in great shape. I’m successful in my life and I everyone I know would refer to me as “a catch!”
I really want to know what is in my way and so I’ve been looking through my past relationships and I cannot seem to find what you refer to as The
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How do I recreate my love life?
This week's question comes from Kate:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am reaching out to you because I love how you give straight up answers every single week to all the people who write to you. I really think you give the best dating advice for people who want soul level love, like me!
I really want an authentic connection with someone who really gets me, and yet that is not at all what I find out in the world. I’ve been divorced and dating for the last 5 years and it seems like I end up with guys who show up at the beginning and then they just disappear, or they tell me they’re not looking for a relationship. I’m feeling really frustrated with dating in general and I
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Dating 911 – I deselect everyone!
This week's question comes from Nancy:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Calling Dating 911…. Help me put out this fire… that is burning a hole in my heart.
How do I stop this constant screening in my mind of a guy the minute I see a guy flirt or take an interest in me? I think this tearing people apart the minute I see someone or something happening that I don’t like is hurting my chances for great guys to get into my world or me in theirs.
Honestly, I just want a great guy BUT, I scrutinize the heck out of anyone as my time is too valuable to be hanging with the takers, mushers, needy and lesser, etc.
MY QUALITY TIME IS THE MOST INVALUABLE ASSET more than anything
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What it takes to remove blocks to love…
This week's question comes from Annette:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really like your direct approach in how you answer these questions every week. I must admit I’m a bit addicted to reading your blog. By far, you seem to have the best dating advice.
My question is this: What does it take to remove blocks to love?
I understand why I’m blocked. I think I have all the insights that I’ve searched for over a decade now. Unfortunately, I’m still attracting the same kind of emotionally unavailable men.
The men that I’m attracted to seem different in the beginning, yet all my relationships seem to end up at the same place in the end. At first it was the guy breaking
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Why can’t I let him go?
This week's question comes from Melanie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really hope you can help me. I dated a man for 3 years who I really liked at the beginning. He was kind and affectionate and loving and I felt such an intense attraction to. However, as the years went on I discovered that he was emotionally unavailable. He would constantly blame me and avoid any responsibility for his behavior. I felt like he wanted to punish me by withholding love from me.
The problem is this. We broke up about 6 months ago but I can’t stop thinking about him. I know that he is not good for me but my heart keeps pulling me back.
How do I get over him? I’m exhausted and I want to
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