This week's question comes from Mara:
"My high school sweetheart & I recently started dating again. I never fell out of love with him and it's really wonderful to have him back in my life. He was my "one that got away" & "the love of my life" so that he's back in my life after 10+ years apart & we're going on dates again is pretty amazing.
The reason we broke up the first time, about a month before we left for college, was he didn't have enough time for me. Now we've had three amazing dates & in theory, we're supposed to go on a lunch date sometime this week & meet up in the evening sometime next week, but he hasn't called to lock down which day(s)
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How do I overcome my unhappy childhood?
This week's question comes from Pauletta:
"Why is it harder for people who didn't feel love as children to feel love and trust as adults? Do they ever really overcome the whole thing? If so, what can they do or try to help overcome it?"
Dear Pauletta,
This is a very big question and is the basis for the work we do. It all comes from Your Love Imprint™ and how that affects your relationship choices. You didn't let us know if this question is about you in particular, but we're going to answer it as if it is about you.
When you were born, you had no blocks to love. A newborn baby is able to give and receive love freely without any conditions. But as you grew, you
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How do you tend to a two-year-old broken heart?
This week's dating question comes from Brandon:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
How do you tend to a two-year-old broken heart?
My fiancée and I ended a long-distance relationship just over two years ago. I understood her reasons behind wanting to end it, yet it still hurts in that in my highest hopes I had found the woman I'd spend the rest of my life with. Needless to say, in time, she has found someone else. I am very happy for her (and told her as such), yet there is still the pain of not being able to make the relationship work.
I know in time that I will feel better and know that someone will come along to allow me to move forward. In the meantime, the pain and
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How do you shift the negative beliefs?
This week's relationship question comes from Darya:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
Thanks for your work. I always read your posts!! I have a question for you about negative beliefs or patters that lots of people have. To be honest, love is not so easy for me, even if I shifted lots of inner clutter in my life!
So my question is - how do you shift the negative beliefs? I know, lots of teachers talk about theoretical stuff, but how do you use it in real life, I mean real working techniques?
Thanks in advance for your reply.
Dear Darya,
Thank you for your kind words. We’re so thrilled to hear that you have received benefit from reading our
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How much space should I give him?
This week's question comes from Tiffany:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
First let me say I praise God for you both each day! I recently ended a relationship because it had been over, coincidentally I immediately got into another relationship with another man I care a great deal about. He also has just ended an abusive relationship (she was violent, I've seen this for myself). We have both become so connected but he's decided he must take some time to figure out what he wants. I believe that's true and fair, I'm giving him space. He still is very much intertwined with his ex and I am wondering if I should continue to hope, also should I completely not contact, allowing him to
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My boyfriend smokes too much pot
This week's question comes from Terri:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
I've been dating this guy for about 5 months and for the most part it has been really great. He's really sweet and we talk a lot and I'm really attracted to him. I want it to work out. It's just that he smokes a lot of pot and I don't. I've never really been into it. I don't even drink that much. One drink and I'm pretty much done for the night. He told me he's been smoking for years and it isn't a problem. He's got a great job and makes good money so it's not he's a useless stoner. But, he smokes pretty regularly - at least 5 to 6 times a week. I have asked him to quit numerous times, but he insists that
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