This week's question comes from Helen:
"I've been listening to your interviews and appreciate them so much. Feel I am wiser for them. My question is this: If a man I haven't heard from in one month (he often backs off this long) still has not contacted me, does it constitute chasing to email him and say that the museum exhibit we talked about is over, but there is another one now I would be interested in seeing. (We have talked about the issue that his membership expired, but mine is still in effect and that he could go on my card.)
I would also say I hope he is doing well. No more. I feel he has hurt me by backing away for periods of time before, and I told
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How Do I Handle a New Relationship at Christmas?
This week's question comes from Anne:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I love your weekly emails!! I look forward to them every Monday.
I am in the early stages of a relationship (one month to be exact). I am practicing being the "receiver" and allowing him to do the pursuing. So far everything is going well. My question is this - with Christmas next week, what is the protocol for the woman in a new relationship? He has not invited me out yet to celebrate the holidays, but assuming he does, do you think it would be appropriate to give him a friendly card (not lovey-dovey) and maybe a small box of chocolates?
I tend to "over-give" in my relationships and am cognizant of not
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How Do I Decide If He Is Right For Me?
This week's question comes from Lisa
"Dear Orna & Matthew,
A couple of years back, I attended one of your live workshops in Santa Monica (won the tickets!). At that time I had recently ended a relationship, and your workshop was very valuable and timely.
Since that time I met a wonderful man. It's now been 9 months, and some definite issues have come up, and I'm struggling to decide whether to continue.
This person has been wonderful to me, warm-hearted and generous, has shown concern for my well-being, wants to see me succeed at my new career path, wants me around him especially when he's with family and friends, has made me feel good about myself and
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Feeling stuck… Where do I begin?
This week's question comes from Susan
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thanks so much for all the work you do and for your optimism and support.
At the moment I feel like I have just completely and totally given up hope at all, and even decided I'd be better off on my own, so much to the point that I am now so isolated that I'm scared to go anywhere. I've never been the most social of people anyway and have social anxiety which doesn't help, but this is now ridiculous. I haven't even been seeing my friends.
My last relationship was with a full-blown narcissist who was only with me to get his needs met. It was so horribly hurtful, confusing and draining. It was also very
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Will he love me if I’m sick?
This week's question comes from Tami
"Hi there Orna and Matthew!
I look forward to and love receiving your emails, thank you!
I have a question that may seem odd, but here goes anyway, haha.
I am a single woman, 50 years old, with a fun and active social life. I've, in the past made a few bad man decisions, but have learned a lot from each experience. That being said, I still have one major concern. I'm a very severe type 1 juvenile diabetic. I take very good care of myself, am a runner, play lots, and don't allow it to hold me back. However, it would be a mistake to not acknowledge the fact that at times, due to my life long chronic illness, I get sick. I just
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How do I get him to commit?
This week's question comes from Angel
"Hi Orna & Matthew,
Really enjoying listening to the Love on Purpose Revolution. I would like your advice on something bugging me in my otherwise lovely relationship of one year and 7 months with my boyfriend.
Although he always tells me he loves me and does nice things for me and we spend weekends together and are very compatible. He never makes plans about a future together; he has some concerts and days out arranged for us, I have met his parents and grown up children and slowly introducing me to some of his friends - but we don't socialize with them, and there has been some opportunities to do so. His granddaughter
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