This week's question comes from Missy:
Orna and Matthew,
I have been following you two for years, reading your newsletter and listening to your teleclasses and I find that I’m in the position to really need your help. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and about six months ago he left.
After all that we shared together, he broke up with me and I felt truly devastated. I am a successful woman with a great career, kids from a previous marriage, and a full life. I thought he was the guy… and then he broke my heart.
My question comes from the fact that now he’s back. He wants me back and I feel torn… do I take him back? How will I know he would never
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Should love feel exciting?
This week's question comes from Heather:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
You have talked about the subconscious seeking what is familiar whether good or bad...
I get that. What I don't understand is how that translates into something "EXCITING" ie : "This is familiar, this is familiar!" How is something familiar... exciting?
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Dear Heather,
Thank you for your question. We see how this can be confusing. The simple answer is that the only difference between fear and excitement is the inner dialog we are having about the experience. When we experience either fear or excitement, we have the same physical reaction. Our heart rate increases, our breath
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Should I date men with kids?
This week's question comes from Kris:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
I've long admired your column here and the on point dating advice! Which brings me to the following question...
For some time, I had been in a committed relationship with a man who didn't have/didn't want kids. That was fine with me because I've chosen to not have kids either.
Now that that relationship is over and I'm dating again, I've been meeting divorced men who do have children. That's fine, but I also need to be a priority in my (future) boyfriend's life. For example, I had two phone calls with a man who has young daughters. The conversation was entirely about his children, and he asked me
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Should I wait for him to contact me?
This week's question comes from Mara:
"My high school sweetheart & I recently started dating again. I never fell out of love with him and it's really wonderful to have him back in my life. He was my "one that got away" & "the love of my life" so that he's back in my life after 10+ years apart & we're going on dates again is pretty amazing.
The reason we broke up the first time, about a month before we left for college, was he didn't have enough time for me. Now we've had three amazing dates & in theory, we're supposed to go on a lunch date sometime this week & meet up in the evening sometime next week, but he hasn't called to lock down which day(s)
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How do I overcome my unhappy childhood?
This week's question comes from Pauletta:
"Why is it harder for people who didn't feel love as children to feel love and trust as adults? Do they ever really overcome the whole thing? If so, what can they do or try to help overcome it?"
Dear Pauletta,
This is a very big question and is the basis for the work we do. It all comes from Your Love Imprint™ and how that affects your relationship choices. You didn't let us know if this question is about you in particular, but we're going to answer it as if it is about you.
When you were born, you had no blocks to love. A newborn baby is able to give and receive love freely without any conditions. But as you grew, you
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How do you tend to a two-year-old broken heart?
This week's dating question comes from Brandon:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
How do you tend to a two-year-old broken heart?
My fiancée and I ended a long-distance relationship just over two years ago. I understood her reasons behind wanting to end it, yet it still hurts in that in my highest hopes I had found the woman I'd spend the rest of my life with. Needless to say, in time, she has found someone else. I am very happy for her (and told her as such), yet there is still the pain of not being able to make the relationship work.
I know in time that I will feel better and know that someone will come along to allow me to move forward. In the meantime, the pain and
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