This week's question comes from Nilla
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I receive your inspiring newsletters & every so often think seriously about not only why I am still single, 16 years now, but more importantly why I do not even attract or meet anyone!
Briefly, my background is: Married for 18 years, with 2 wonderful daughters. Then was in a relationship for 12 years, totally head over heels in love with my soul mate, and apparently he felt the same... then things became complicated with his children & ex wife.
Everyone has advice, where to go to meet single men, online etc, but it all feels unnatural. Have met lots of inappropriate matches.
For a long time
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Love On Purpose Blog
Why am I stuck and still alone?
This week's question comes from Eileen
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thanks much for your Love On Purpose Revolution®. I am learning some great tips. But frankly, I am tired of seeking, I feel incapable of really getting it, when I try to use the advice it feels unnatural and contrived, even manipulative, and I am feeling hopeless.
I am 7th of 11 children, while it was fun with all those siblings, my parents were busy and unavailable emotionally. I was married for 20 years, with 2 girls, but communication was not great and it got abusive at the end.
I have been on a spiritual path since then, another 20 years now. I tried everything, The Work, Now, Dyer, Secret, ACIM,
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How do I get out of my masculine to let a man in?
This week's question comes from Maggie
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
A couple of years ago I met a lovely man who I managed to turn into a similar version of all the other men I met, I am very much in my masculine, had a bad abusive relationship with my dad, tried my hardest to be the opposite of everything he wanted of me to defy him and turned into the perfect woman with totally male perspective, I raced motorbikes, did a physical man’s job, etc. everything, but I still attracted men, as I am attractive physically etc. But always ended up with the loser who couldn't look after himself and ended up being nasty and critical to me, because I had basically emasculated him by
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How can I keep having hope?
This week's question comes from Silvia
"Hello to two of the most inspiring people!
I was in a 5 year relationship with a man I loved, I thought he loved me but now I realize maybe it was not love. I could not feel like a woman in that relationship, he always needed more than me emotionally and later financially. When I expressed my needs he left and found somebody else immediately. I still have not been able to find a new partner with whom to create a more equal relationship. I have done a lot of spiritual work and still that special person does not appear. How can I keep having hope?"
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Dear Silvia,
Thank you for sharing your situation so boldly and
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Why Do I Still Struggle?
This week's question comes from Joelle:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have been following you both for some time now and I’ve been doing my best to really get a grasp of my Love Imprint and why I’m still struggling when it comes to having a long-term relationship.
Being successful very young in my career path may have set me up to have disappointment in my love life. I have been married, divorced, I raised two beautiful children who have families of their own, and yet, I find I am unhappy.
I just can’t seem to be the same person when it comes to love. I can make things happen in my business easily and yet feel like such a failure in my relationships. I feel
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How Do I Love Myself More?
This week's question comes from Shannon:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have been working 7 days a week and have just taken the time to go through over 6000 emails. I read your Love Notes Weekly for this week and it stopped me in my tracks.
I am 47 and have been married for almost 6 years. (My 3rd marriage) I'm super embarrassed to tell you that my husband and I have not been intimate for almost 7 years. We live as roommates.
How do I "Be more kind with myself and love myself as I desire to receive love"?
Thank you in advance,
Shannon
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Dear Shannon,
Unfortunately, it sounds like you might be on your way to becoming part of a very
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