This week’s question comes from Janet:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for all that you do for all us struggling out here… I think you give the best dating advice, so that’s why I’m coming to you. After my divorce I took some time to figure out what I want in a relationship and particularly a man however whenever I go out I can’t seem to find a quality man.
I know I’m a “catch” but I cannot seem to find a man who comes anywhere close to what I’m looking for.
Please help me.”
Thank you for your question and we’ll do the best we can to answer it for you. We are a bit perplexed by this label “Quality Man”…. We are wondering where you picked up that phrase.
Recently during a private coaching session with a new client this same phrase came up she used it several times and we asked her the same thing. Let’s be clear you can find “Quality Men” where ever you can find any men… just like you can find “Spiritual Men,” “Conscious Men,” and “Evolved Men” in the same place you find all men.
We don’t think anyone is looking for an Unconscious Man… so we’re not sure of the need for the label… the same is true for these other labels.
When dating, just like in life: LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE!
Are you a Quality Woman? Would you feel good about someone labeling you as such? How are you showing up when you go on a date?
Most men are Quality Men! Most men have big hearts who want to find a woman to share their life with who will love them for who they are and not criticize.
When you start to limit and label people that is filled with judgment and judgment is the opposite of LOVE!
We recommend being clear on an ideal match for you!
This is not about a particular man and making a list of qualities that he possesses, it’s so much better when you craft your unique true soul partnership and all the qualities that will be present in your relationship with one another.
Through the dating process cultivate discernment to identify a good match and also know how to de-select someone who is not a good match with kindness and respect.
The search for love is often convoluted by our past experiences so the most important thing you can do is transform the negative emotions you carry from your past. This allows you to date from a clean slate so you can see the person across the table from you for who they really are and not who you hope/fear them to be.
It is helpful to have a map on this journey to long-lasting, soul-satisfying love. That’s why we created The Soulmate Shortcut™. This DIY program for love leads you step-by-step through the process of uncovering your blocks to love and provides you the tools to overcome them, so that you can become that the woman who can attract her ideal match for soul-satisfying, long-lasting love.
You will discover more about how your subconscious beliefs affect your search for love and what you can do to overcome them. If you are ready to take this journey, then The Soulmate Shortcut™ is for you!
Rest assured, your Beloved will be a match for you so the ‘Quality’ you long for will be there along with so much more!
Love and Abundance,