When a man falls in love with you it won’t be a mystery. He will show his feelings to you in very specific ways. And you won’t have to be a mind reader if you pay attention to his not so subtle way of falling for you.
How many times have you met a great guy and it doesn’t go anywhere? He’s attractive and the two of you have a lot in common and you start to hope you’ll be a match, but then the relationship never goes anywhere. He doesn’t reach out or text you, but responds to you when you reach out. The relationship runs hot-cold until eventually it just fizzles out, and you find yourself single, heartbroken, and confused, yet again.
Do you find yourself constantly trying to interpret the subtle signs that a man is interested in you? If you are paying attention any man you’re dating will show you his true feelings. When a man falls in love, he is not subtle, but you can misinterpret his signals if you aren’t aware of what they are.
For the most part, men are quite obvious and not at all mysterious in their pursuit of a woman they fancy. So stop trying to guess or create meaning out of subtle clues in his behavior. Instead, look for these signs that he is falling for you and actually wants a relationship with you.
He Wants To Impress You
When a man falls in love, he wants you to think that he is special in some way. Like many animals going through a mating dance, he will puff up his feathers and try to impress you. He may try to impress you with his earning ability, his intelligence, his charm, or his fancy toys (like cars, boats, or video games).
He may not always know how to impress you, so you may misinterpret his actions as talking too much and not being interested in you, or showing off and bragging about himself. Underneath his bravado, he just wants to impress you.
Rather than discount a man who is working hard to impress you, let him know what you like and value so he can actually dazzle you instead of missing the mark. Share with him how he can captivate your heart and see if he can make an adjustment.
When a man falls in love, he will work to impress you long after he’s claimed you as long as you acknowledge and appreciate his efforts.
He Claims You And Wants To Take You Off The Market
When a man falls in love, he wants to be exclusive with you so that he won’t lose you to the competition. He clearly sees you as a good match and may rush to take you off the market.
He may be moving a little too quickly for you, but his desire for exclusivity means that he likes you and is serious about you. If he isn’t making moves to claim you, then he may like you but may not be ready for a relationship. Or he may be looking for something convenient and easy with no strings attached.
Most men like companionship and regular sex so spending time with you and having regular sex with you doesn’t mean he wants a relationship. If he isn’t making moves to claim don’t take yourself off the market and continue to date other guys.
When a man falls in love he won’t tolerate you being out with another guy. He will want you to know that he is your man and no one else is.
He Will Wait For You
Just because he is rushing to take you off the market doesn’t mean that he will disappear if you tell him you are not ready to go exclusive yet. He will wait for you to be ready, and he will also be willing to wait for sex.
Don’t make the mistake of rushing in before you know if he is a good match for you. Just because he wants to claim you doesn’t mean that he is your man, it just means that he is interested in a relationship with you. You ultimately have veto power so do not rush things and be sure you know more about him than finding him attractive. It takes more than chemistry to make a relationship last.
If you are interested but not sure or not ready, remember to tell him, “Not yet,” instead of, “No.” You don’t want to discourage him. No means you’re not interested in him which is a world of difference from wanting to take things at a slower pace. You’ll want to let him know how great intimacy will be when you are ready to take things further.
When a man falls in love with you, he is willing to let you set the pace of the relationship and he will be patient with you to decide.
He Listens And Responds To Your Requests
When a man falls in love, he listens to you and makes an effort to please you. Don’t waste your time with a man who isn’t willing to make adjustments to give you what you want.
Many women want to make things easy so they go along to get along. This is not a good strategy for discovering if the guy you’re dating is really into you, or just likes hanging out with you for convenient companionship.
A man who wants a relationship with you is willing to do what it takes. Give him some hurdles to overcome to earn your love. Mr. Convenient Guy will move along if he has to put in too much effort. Rejection is your protection through the dating process. Let the wrong matches deselect themselves so that you’re free to find the guy who is willing to earn your devotion. The man who wants a relationship with you will step up and make an effort to win your heart.
When a man falls in love he will pay close attention to your likes and dislikes and will make an effort to please you.
He Puts On His Superhero Cape
When a man falls in love, he wants to be your hero. He feels a sense of pride in being able to fix things for you and solve your problems. Whether he wants to help fix your car or your problems at work, his efforts to prove himself to you are evidence that he is falling for you.
Acknowledge and appreciate his efforts to help you and you’ll see his confidence grow in your relationship. A man who feels like he can solve your problems will stick by you through thick and thin.
If he doesn’t feel appreciated then he may withdraw, become insecure, or move on to find a woman who does value his efforts.
Instinctually a man will want to provide something for you. So if you’re the career woman, allow him to provide something of value to you even if it’s not financial security.
Let him know that you appreciate his insights, his help with some of your projects or workouts, or that his hugs ground you and leave you feeling safe.
When a man falls in love, he will want to be the only man that you come to with your problems so he can put on his Superman cape and come to your aid.
He Makes An Effort To Repair And Reconnect After A Conflict
All relationships will hit some bumps and endure conflicts. Just because he is falling in love with you doesn’t mean that he won’t make any mistakes. But when a man falls in love, he will be willing to make it up to you when he does.
Love does not come with mind-reading powers. Just because he loves you doesn’t mean he somehow knows exactly what you want and need. Don’t judge a man on his ability to anticipate what you want. Judge him on his ability to clean up his mistakes and do what is necessary to make it up to you.
When a man falls in love he will take responsibility for his errors and will be willing to make amends for when he has let you down.
His Goal Is To Make You Happy
A man who wants a relationship with you will want to make you happy. He knows that a happy wife makes for a happy life. He will take actions that show you he is in it to win it with you and that he has no interest in anyone else.
He will take pride in knowing how to bring more joy into your life. He will pay attention to the little details of your likes and dislikes. A man who doesn’t care what you want or need isn’t interested in something long-term with you.
Make it easy for a man you are interested in to bring you more joy. Tell him what you do and do not like when it comes to food, music, hobbies, and sex. Let him know how to please you. Don’t keep it a secret and then judge him because he doesn’t know.
When a man falls in love, he will deliver to you exactly what you desire as long as you spell it out for him. Make it easy for him to know how to increase your joy.
He Wants To Make You Part Of His Life
When a man falls in love, he wants to include you in his life. He will introduce you to his friends, and he’ll invite you to gatherings with his family.
If he is keeping you to himself and not making you a part of his life, then he may not see you in his future. Having a secret romance can feel exciting but it will not turn into a lasting relationship.
See if he wants to show you off to his friends and family. Does he share with you what is going on at work or ask for your advice about an issue in his life? If you’re in the dark about his life outside of this relationship – beware!
A man who values you in his life will share the details of his life with you. If he is being secretive he is keeping things from you for a reason.
When a man falls in love, he will want to show you off to the people close to him.
He Sees You In His Future
When a man falls in love, he will make a plan for your future together. Whether he is reaching out to you for future dates, planning a trip together, or buying tickets to events three months in advance, he sees the two of you together beyond the present moment.
A man who isn’t moving things forward probably likes you but isn’t falling for you. He may find you attractive and enjoy your company, but he isn’t ready for a relationship.
You can easily discover the difference by leaning back and letting him lead. If he moves things forward, then he is likely falling for you. If he is waiting for you to pursue him, then stop making an effort to see him and he will probably disappear. Better to know now than 3 more months down the road when you’re more attached to him.
When a man falls in love, he will plan a future with you in it.
He’s Willing And Able To Work Through Conflict With You
Conflict is a natural part of all relationships. Just because the two of you love each other doesn’t mean that you will always get along or that you won’t have disagreements. Happily ever after only happens in the movies.
A man who loves you is willing and able to figure it out with you when things get bumpy. Don’t shy away from conflict and smooth over disagreements at the beginning. Instead use conflict to discover if the two of you can navigate life’s challenges together.
If he is unwilling to see your side of things or doesn’t want to address your differences, then he probably isn’t going to be a good match in the long run. Conflict can be a doorway to a deeper connection when you are with a man who isn’t too stubborn or closed off to be authentic with you.
When a man falls in love, he will be willing to work things out with you no matter the challenge at hand.
He Loves Your Weirdness
When a man falls in love with you, it’s because he loves you for who you really are. He loves those things that others may have broken up with you about. He even loves your flaws and your quirkiness.
He won’t ask you to change. He isn’t falling for a fantasy of you, he’s falling for the real actual you and will adore the quirky things about you.
Let your uniqueness shine into the world so that the man who is looking for you can find you.
When a man falls in love, he falls in love with all of you, the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Stop guessing if he likes you. Don’t put effort into men who are not putting effort into you. Follow these signs and you won’t waste your time with Mr. Convenient and instead, you’ll find yourself with your Mr. Right.
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Orna and Matthew Walters are TV’s favorite dating and relationship experts. They uncover subconscious blocks to love so that you can select an ideal partner to share your life with. Follow them on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram.