This week’s question comes from Becky:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
You two have to be the most adorable couple! You give me hope.
I’m writing to you because I think I know what my problem is. I’ve been cheated on by almost every boyfriend, and four years ago that’s exactly what happened with my now ex-husband. Why can’t I just finally meet a man who is faithful?
I’ve done a lot of healing, but I still think every guy will cheat. How do I overcome what must be my #1 block to love?
Can you help me?”
Thank you for the sweet compliments. We feel your pain around your circumstances and understand how hard it must be for you.
When we experience betrayal, it can trigger a lot of emotion inside of us – everything from fear and anger to hurt, shame, guilt, and sadness. As we get older and have more experiences, these negative emotions begin to compound until it becomes impossible to feel the current betrayal without all the past betrayals piling up.
Healing these past hurts is the first step on your journey to long-lasting love.
If you haven’t pulled up the weeds, you can’t plant in the garden. So be sure to pull up your emotional weeds from the roots so that you’re not energetically still caught up in the wounds from your past.
One of the biggest mistakes we see people make is they want to rush past feeling badly in an attempt to feel better. Or worse yet, they rush to forgiveness before feeling all the icky feelings that a betrayal will spark.
When we experience the pain of a betrayal, the most difficult part of moving forward is getting clear on the kind of relationship you want, instead of being focused on what you do not want.
Are you able to picture how your ideal relationship will function without seeing it through the lens of your past betrayals?
Your heart wants much more than just someone who is faithful. Rather than focusing on the minimum of what you need, allow yourself to make decisions about what you truly WANT in a partner.
Most Dating Coaches and Love Coaches have their clients make a list of the qualities of the guy you’re looking for – PLEASE DON’T DO THIS!
Rather, focus in on the KIND OF RELATIONSHIP you desire:
- The dynamic between the two of you
- How you communicate with each other
- The qualities of the relationship
When you create in your mind what you’re looking for that is the first key step toward manifesting what you desire.
However, before you can go to that step, it is imperative that you clear out the emotions that were triggered from these past hurts and betrayals so you are no longer an energetic match to them.
Otherwise, you risk recreating the same misery over and over again, which from what you shared with us in your email it sounds like you’re stuck in this kind of repetitive cycle.
The good news is that releasing the emotions from the events of your past is quite easy to do by accessing your subconscious mind. We have a home-study program that walks you through a deep healing visualization that will allow you to remove all the emotional baggage from these betrayals and much more:
Listening to this program is like pulling the weeds in a garden plot so that once all the things you don’t want are gone you can plant and create what YOU DO WANT.
The Burn Your Baggage Formula™ is not for everyone!
This program will create deep powerful change – so if you need to hold on to your past hurts to wear them as a badge of honor – this program is not for you.
If you have already shifted out of a victim mindset and simply don’t know how to stop being triggered by your past – then this program IS FOR YOU!
The best part about this home-study program is threefold:
- You can do this anywhere – in the comfort of your home or office
- Nothing is shipped, our 100% digital delivery will allow you to get started ASAP… even if it’s the middle of the night
- You own it forever allowing you to refresh if necessary
Mastering your emotional life is a large part of creating the lasting-love you desire.
Purchase The Burn Your Baggage Formula™ to release past hurts – whether those hurts happened yesterday, or decades ago.
Get started here: www.TheBurnYourBaggageFormula.com
We are here to be your guides to love!
Love and Abundance,