Dating over 40 can feel very different than it did when you were younger and carefree. While it was easy to connect when most everyone you met was unmarried and looking, now you may find yourself looking for red flags to protect yourself from heartbreak. You may meet more divorcés, or find yourself worrying and wondering why someone has never been married.
Dating doesn’t have to be an obstacle course where you’re constantly hurdling over or attempting to dodge emotional baggage. Showing up with a positive attitude and a curious mindset can keep dating fun and interesting. However, you can’t afford to let attraction be the deciding factor for whether you enter into a
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Dating 101
How Long Should I Wait For Him?
This week's question comes from Suzie:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
The crux of my question is this: How long should I wait for him?
My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple of years and I love him and yet I don’t know if it is ever going to work out. He is still dealing with his ex and working through custody issues with their 7 yr. old son.
They spend a lot of time together (at events for his kid’s school, at parties and gatherings with their friends from their marriage) sometimes it’s like they aren’t even divorced. I feel excluded from his life in many ways.
He says he still cares for her but that they will never get back together because they fight
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11 Ways To Tap Into Your Feminine Energy Before A First Date Or First Meeting
Are you connected to your feminine energy? Or are you so focused on getting things done in your life that dating and finding love are just another task on your to-do list?
Feminine energy somehow got a bad rap over the last few decades. So perhaps you’re unaware of how important it is to tap into your feminine energy before a first date or first meeting. As a heterosexual woman, one who wants to settle down in a romantic relationship with a man, tapping into your feminine energy before you go out on a date, and through the dating process, will speed up your ability to create the soulmate relationship you are looking for.
The truth is, feminine energy is NOT passive.
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9 Powerful Reminders For Your First Date After Divorce
Are you thinking about dating now that your divorce is final? Your first date after divorce doesn’t have to be stressful. It can be the first step towards a new life with someone who is a better match for you.
You may feel apprehensive about getting back into the dating world. Have the rules for dating changed? Do you have to go online or download an app to meet someone? Are you worried about being taken advantage of? Do you have some fear about opening your heart to someone again?
You don’t have to overthink the whole experience. Taking a few commonsense steps and discovering a new approach to dating can make your first date after divorce easy and enjoyable.
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How To Be More Confident So When You’re Ready To Date, You Have A Better Shot At Finding Love
It can feel daunting to start dating again after taking a break. You don’t know how the rules have changed or what they were to begin with. You might feel intimidated by new technologies. Ultimately, you just want to know how to be more confident when you’re ready to date so that you can show up fully and not afraid of rejection.
The fear of rejection is the biggest concern that stops you from taking action and risking your heart. Love is always a risk, even in the healthiest of relationships. Being open and vulnerable to another person is a gamble, but if you want to be loved for who you really are you have to show up as who you really are.
Having healthy
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Is Conflict With Your Soulmate A Red Flag Or Do All Relationships Experience Power Struggles?
Red flags are something to pay attention to BEFORE committing to a life partner. And a soulmate is just that – someone you choose, who also chooses you, to make it through the tough times together and enjoy the good times of which there will be plenty.
It’s all too easy to imagine that with your soulmate you’ll eternally get along, with zero conflicts. Unfortunately, that is a fantasy because no matter who you choose to partner up with, at times there will be friction and discord.
Red flags are something to look out for through the dating process. Unfortunately, most people are Dating Backwards™ giving a stranger the benefit of the doubt, seeing chemistry as a sign
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