This week's question comes from Nancy:
“Hello Orna and Matthew,
I have questions about how to meet someone for the first time who doesn’t live near me.
Hopefully, I have found the man of my dreams through a dating app. I want to meet him at a special place (like I said, this is a long-distance meeting). I’ve never gone to them first and I don’t usually pursue, but I am feeling like I really want to this time. Is this ok?
I’m not worried about my safety (even though this will be our first meeting). I have two weeks to get my self-esteem together and do the right thing.
I’m so fearful about screwing this up. Please help me!”
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Dear Nancy,
When you
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Dating 101
6 Signs Your Casual Relationship Is Actually Getting Serious
Most dating experiences aren’t straightforward journeys from your first meet to romantic engagement dinner. And many daters don’t have great communication habits, so their intentions and desires aren’t obvious. It can be confusing trying to figure out where things are going or if they’re even going anywhere at all. So, what are the signs that a casual relationship is getting serious, and how do you avoid misinterpreting signals?
The desire to dissect your date’s behavior to discern the subtle shift from casual dating to exclusivity may lead you to make assumptions. Either missing an obvious clue that things are going well or misinterpreting a casual remark to mean
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Are You Depressed About Being Single For So Long?
Feeling blue about being single? When things haven’t gone your way in love it’s easy to get sorrowful, sad, and cynical. Longing for a meaningful connection with another human being is valid and honorable, however, when sorrow consumes your thoughts and daily activities it’s time to admit you are depressed about being single.
This longing can feel a lot like grief; like you’re missing someone who’s not in your life yet. And the most mundane experiences can trigger feelings of loss. Simple activities like going to the movies, out to dinner, biking, or going on a walk, can all feel like they lack something when you don’t have a special someone to share it with.
The
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How To Date For Your Soulmate
This week's question comes from Nora:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m tired of dating and meeting guys who aren’t serious about a relationship. Please tell me how do you date for your soulmate?
I am reaching out, as I’m a hot 40-something-year-old woman who has a lot to give. I know I’m a catch and yet all the men I go out with don’t really pursue me or don’t even seem interested in a relationship. In the beginning, it seems as if they are really into me, but it peters out quickly and I’m left wondering what is going on.
Apparently, there is something I don’t know about how to find the right guy for me. I don’t need a man; I simply want to share my life with my
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How To Tell A Guy You Don’t Like Him Without Being Mean Or Cruel
One of the hardest parts of dating is telling a guy who is asking you out again that you don’t like him. You’re clear that the two of you are not a match, and you don’t want to come across as mean or cruel. How do you tell a guy you don’t like him without hurting his feelings?
Telling someone you don’t like them isn’t the same as being told by someone they aren’t interested in you, but that doesn’t make it any more pleasant. You’ve probably been dumped by someone who didn’t do it in the nicest way, and you don’t want that kind of dating karma on your hands. Mastering the uncomfortable conversation is one of the skills you’ll need to develop for a loving partnership to
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What’s Going On When You Feel Magnetically Drawn To Someone?
There are moments when you feel magnetically drawn to someone that sets you off thinking you may have met your soulmate. So, what’s going on when this happens? Is a feeling really a sign from the universe that you’ve finally met The One, or is there something more important going on?
You know the experience, you walk into a room of people you don’t know, and one person stands out from the rest – like they’ve got a white-hot spotlight on them… And everyone else is just background extras in your own personal movie (they don’t pop for you at all).
You and this stranger connect, and the conversation flows easily – it’s almost as if you’ve known each other forever.
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