Do you notice that your relationships start out with a great connection, but then fall apart before there is exclusivity? Are you always finding fault with the people you date, deselecting them for superficial reasons, and not letting anyone get too close to you? These could be signs that you’re self-sabotaging your chances for love.
Understanding why this keeps happening and what to do about it are the keys to breaking the pattern of self-sabotaging relationships and creating the long-lasting love you desire.
Self-sabotage is a tricky issue because ultimately it is you that is causing the relationship to fall apart, even when it seems like the problem is the other
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Overcome Self Sabotage
Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Men?
This week's question comes from Laura:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am so glad I found you. It’s no doubt the universe pointed me in your direction just as I really need you!
I have been addicted to emotionally unavailable men for 20 years and in the past few years, have pulled myself away – like an alcoholic coming off liquor. But the feelings are still there – like the alcoholic smelling alcohol and being consumed by the longing for it! My current situation involves a male friend, with whom I’ve got close to (as friends) quickly over the last few months. He’s in a difficult emotional situation himself and in a relationship that he does not have much time for (but is
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Am I Destined To Be Alone?
This week's question comes from Maggie:
“Hello Orna and Matthew,
I worry that I am destined to be alone. It’s been so long since I’ve had a relationship that I often think I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life. I have been told by some very good psychics that I made a life contract that is solid, and I am not to have a love partner this lifetime. The only glimmer of hope and the reason for this email is that a few of the psychics said there is someone waiting for me. If that is true, then I want to meet him.
Over the years I have tried to change this contract as some psychics have said it’s possible to do so. I meditate and believe in a higher power and
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How To Be More Confident So When You’re Ready To Date, You Have A Better Shot At Finding Love
It can feel daunting to start dating again after taking a break. You don’t know how the rules have changed or what they were to begin with. You might feel intimidated by new technologies. Ultimately, you just want to know how to be more confident when you’re ready to date so that you can show up fully and not afraid of rejection.
The fear of rejection is the biggest concern that stops you from taking action and risking your heart. Love is always a risk, even in the healthiest of relationships. Being open and vulnerable to another person is a gamble, but if you want to be loved for who you really are you have to show up as who you really are.
Having healthy
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25 Limiting Beliefs That Interfere With Finding True Love (Plus How To Turn Them Around)
Dating is hard. Love doesn’t last. True love is just a fantasy. Whatever your limiting beliefs about love and relationship are, they are interfering in your search for lasting love.
Your limiting beliefs get in the way of you staying positive and motivated about love and dating. They cause you to take self-sabotaging actions and to work against yourself. Ultimately, they leave you feeling hopeless and frustrated about the possibility of ever finding “The One.”
The truth about love is that it is always available to you. Love can be easy while at the same time requiring effort to make it last. Creating lasting love with your soulmate can be one of the most satisfying
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What Are His Intentions? 9 Soulmate Signs You Should Look For In A Man
This week's question comes from Laura:
“Hello Orna & Matthew,
I’m confused by a man I met online a while ago. I wonder what are his intentions for me? How do I even ask about his intentions?
We met on a dating site and he’s an attorney who lives in Michigan, while I live in Indiana.
We exchanged pictures and talked for a few weeks. I felt we had a strong connection and I really thought he could be my soulmate. He talked about driving to meet me, but to make a long story short, it never happened. I didn’t hear from him again until December last year.
He says he wishes he had made the trip, apologizes, and tells me how much he looks at my pictures, and
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