This week's question comes from Mathilda:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I’ve got such a negative attitude about love and relationships these days. I can’t seem to believe that love is in the cards for me and then when I go online I just see a bunch of fake profiles or guys I would never date. I’m sure that people are constantly being scammed on dating sites.
Is there any hope for someone like me? I can’t seem to get over my negative attitude."
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Dear Mathilda,
Thank you for reaching out to us, it’s clear that you are looking for some guidance that will help you feel better. To answer your question, yes it will be more difficult to create lasting love when you
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Overcome Self Sabotage
Why Do I Attract Married Men? Is There A Way To Repel Them So They Stop Wasting My Time?
This week’s question comes from Patricia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me break this pattern I seem stuck in. Why do I attract married men? There must be a way to repel them, so they stop wasting my time.
I must confess, when I was younger, I was the other woman in a few relationships, and I feel terrible about it. So, I swore off married men and promised myself that I wouldn’t be part of that kind of situation ever again. I truly want to be in a real relationship.
Six months ago, I met a great guy and we hit it off right away. I had such a strong attraction to him and I thought I’d finally found The One. Then I discovered that he’s married. Of
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11 Reasons Why Dating Coaches Believe You’re Self-Sabotaging Your Chances At Love (Plus How To Fix It Now)
Do you notice that your relationships start out with a great connection, but then fall apart before there is exclusivity? Are you always finding fault with the people you date, deselecting them for superficial reasons, and not letting anyone get too close to you? These could be signs that you’re self-sabotaging your chances for love.
Understanding why this keeps happening and what to do about it are the keys to breaking the pattern of self-sabotaging relationships and creating the long-lasting love you desire.
Self-sabotage is a tricky issue because ultimately it is you that is causing the relationship to fall apart, even when it seems like the problem is the other
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Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Men?
This week's question comes from Laura:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am so glad I found you. It’s no doubt the universe pointed me in your direction just as I really need you!
I have been addicted to emotionally unavailable men for 20 years and in the past few years, have pulled myself away – like an alcoholic coming off liquor. But the feelings are still there – like the alcoholic smelling alcohol and being consumed by the longing for it! My current situation involves a male friend, with whom I’ve got close to (as friends) quickly over the last few months. He’s in a difficult emotional situation himself and in a relationship that he does not have much time for (but is
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Am I Destined To Be Alone?
This week's question comes from Maggie:
“Hello Orna and Matthew,
I worry that I am destined to be alone. It’s been so long since I’ve had a relationship that I often think I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life. I have been told by some very good psychics that I made a life contract that is solid, and I am not to have a love partner this lifetime. The only glimmer of hope and the reason for this email is that a few of the psychics said there is someone waiting for me. If that is true, then I want to meet him.
Over the years I have tried to change this contract as some psychics have said it’s possible to do so. I meditate and believe in a higher power and
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How To Be More Confident So When You’re Ready To Date, You Have A Better Shot At Finding Love
It can feel daunting to start dating again after taking a break. You don’t know how the rules have changed or what they were to begin with. You might feel intimidated by new technologies. Ultimately, you just want to know how to be more confident when you’re ready to date so that you can show up fully and not afraid of rejection.
The fear of rejection is the biggest concern that stops you from taking action and risking your heart. Love is always a risk, even in the healthiest of relationships. Being open and vulnerable to another person is a gamble, but if you want to be loved for who you really are you have to show up as who you really are.
Having healthy
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