You’ve likely heard the saying, “Men marry their mother, and girls marry their father.” This is just too simplistic when taking into account how complex human beings are. The reality is that both parents and your entire family of origin play a role in Your Love Imprint ® and how you are hard-wired for love.
Whether you know your biological parents or not, whether you were raised by one parent or both, we all learn about intimate relationship in our family of origin.
So if you want to spend the rest of your life with your soulmate, you’re not looking to date more. Your desire is to spend your life with that one special person who really gets you and loves you warts and all.
We don’t
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Overcome Self Sabotage
Self-Care Is NOT Always Sexy…
With news of the Coronavirus spreading around the world, self-quarantines and social distancing becoming the norm for the next several weeks now is a great time to dedicate time to self-care and to keeping your heart open.
Fear can spread faster than any virus. Take these steps to nurture self-love and self-care and you’ll find it is easier to access love and faith when everything around you seems to be falling apart.
To emotionally survive times of fear and chaos, think of yourself as a spiritual warrior bringing love to the world around you (even if you are home alone). Take commonsense actions to protect yourself, your health, and keep a positive attitude. Place your faith in the
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How Can A Negative Attitude Block Me From Finding True Love?
This week's question comes from Mathilda:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I’ve got such a negative attitude about love and relationships these days. I can’t seem to believe that love is in the cards for me and then when I go online I just see a bunch of fake profiles or guys I would never date. I’m sure that people are constantly being scammed on dating sites.
Is there any hope for someone like me? I can’t seem to get over my negative attitude."
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Dear Mathilda,
Thank you for reaching out to us, it’s clear that you are looking for some guidance that will help you feel better. To answer your question, yes it will be more difficult to create lasting love when you have a negative
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Feeling Frustrated With Being Single? Here Are 5 Tips To Shift Your Thoughts And Your Mood
This week's question comes from Vivian:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m feeling so frustrated with being single and super melancholy these days. I love my life, I love my independence, I have great friends and family… what I don’t have is my Beloved.
As I look around it seems everyone is partnered up. My friends and co-workers are all with their special someone. This time last year I vowed I would find that special guy this year and now I find myself coming to grips that is not very likely as I start another year in my life.
What to do when I’m feeling blue? I’d love to get back into the groove in my life.
I sure hope you pick my question to answer because I’m ready to do whatever you
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Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Men?
This week's question comes from Laura:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am so glad I found you – you give the best dating advice. Its no doubt the universe pointed me in your direction just as I really need you!
I have been addicted to emotionally unavailable men for 20 years and in the past few years, have pulled myself away – like an alcoholic coming off liquor. But, the feelings are still there – like the alcoholic smelling alcohol and being consumed by the longing for it! My current situation involves a male friend, with whom I’ve got close to (as friends) quickly over the last few months. He’s in a difficult emotional situation himself and in a relationship that he does not have much time
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How To Feel Good About Yourself And Leave The Past In The Past
It happens to everyone, sometimes in life you just feel stuck. Nothing seems to work and it all feels like it’s your fault or like the world is conspiring against you. It’s like you’re stuck at red light, after red light, after red light. You just wish you knew how to feel good about yourself and your life so you can finally leave the past in the past.
Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness can show up any time in your life, but they can be commonplace during a break-up. The problem is, it can be difficult to take action when you feel this way. You end up telling yourself that you’ll do what you need to do when you feel better.
Unfortunately you won’t magically feel better one day.
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