One of the most enjoyable parts about dating is getting to know someone new and discovering what makes them tick. Asking the right questions to get to know someone can reveal a lot about who they are at a soul level and allow the two of you to connect deeply.
If you want to make a connection with someone you’ve just met, avoid small talk and discussing likes and dislikes. Keeping things on a superficial level isn’t going to create the connection you’re looking for.
Ask questions that are revealing and either create rapport or give you the information you need to deselect the person who is not a good match. Questions about their job or their past dating experiences
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What Is Real Love Like When Two People Are Actually Honest About Everything?
What is real love like? When you ponder this question what comes to mind? A scene from a romantic movie? A wedding? A scene from your life? Do you still believe in real love?
Real love stands the test of time. It’s when two people accept one another warts and all and commit to a life together. They weather the storms and enjoy the tranquility of the good times.
In order for real love to flourish, both people have to be brave enough to be themselves. So ultimately, real love is when two people share all of who they are with each other and continue to evolve and grow together rather than apart.
Here’s what real love is like when two people are actually honest about
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How To Love A Man So He Stays With You Forever
If you want to know how to love a man so that he loves and adores you, and never wants to leave, you’ll want to take time to discover what a man really needs from a relationship.
We’re not here to tell you how to love a man by being more feminine or to smile and laugh more. You’re a smart, successful woman. You don’t want to be condescended to, and the truth is men and women are different and have different needs in relationship.
Acting like your man’s brain is the same as yours isn’t going to get you the lasting love you desire. Just because men and women are equal and deserve respect doesn’t mean that they are the same.
Men and women are different.
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Meeting Long Distance For The First Time? 10 Tips To Meet Someone For The First Time
This week's question comes from Nancy:
“Hello Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for the opportunity to ask for help in my search for love. I really value your advice. I am going to meet someone for the first time and I need help.
Hopefully I have found the man of my dreams through a dating app. I want to meet him at a special place (this is a long distance meeting). I’ve never gone to them first and I don’t usually pursue, but I am feeling like I really want to this time. Is this ok?
I’m not worried about my safety (even though this will be our first meeting). I have two weeks to get my self-esteem together and do the right thing.
I’m so fearful about screwing
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“He Keeps Cancelling Our Dates.” What To Do When He Cancels Last Minute.
This week's question comes from Julie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
How should you respond to a man that cancels last minute? He first did this months ago and it took me a while to agree to another date. I have now agreed and today, the day of the date, he has another reason. I know that you must set the rules early for how you will allow to be treated and I won’t stand for this. He keeps cancelling our dates. My time is valuable, and I deserve respect. So, how should I respond to him in a manner that is not emotional but will let him know this? He has asked if we can reschedule for Sat, but I won’t agree to that.
Thank you"
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Dear Julie,
We know it can be
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11 Relationship Goals For Grownups Ready For True Love
Now that you’re older and ready to approach love differently, do you know what your relationship goals are? Creating healthy, lasting love doesn’t just happen magically. It comes from learning new love and relationship skills.
Whether your relationship status is divorced, single, or complicated, you recognize that the way you’ve been approaching love and relationship hasn’t been working for you. The simple answer is that the people you’ve been in relationship with just aren’t ready for the kind of love you desire.
Or you could look deeper and see if you can discover how your strategies and beliefs have been contributing to your struggles.
The myth of accidental
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