This week's question comes from Marcie:
“Dear Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been dating a great guy for a few months and he’s really different from the type of man I’ve dated in the past. He clearly loves me deeply and has a sensitive heart. At times I feel like he is so in tune with how I’m feeling and it feels really incredible.
The men I used to date didn’t ever seem to care about me at all, really a bunch of insensitive jerks.
I am so grateful to have him in my life and I don’t want to
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Effective Communication
Do Smart Women Suffer More In Love?
This week's question comes from Rachel:
"Hi O&M,
I love your emails and work; I have been on your list for years. I enjoy watching you two interact with one another. I know I’m a smart woman, perhaps too smart for my own good.
I find I’m always questioning my choices in men. I’m constantly wondering if he is the right guy for me or not. So what happens is that I get overly critical and nitpicky looking for mistakes. And yet I know deep down that I don’t want to settle for just okay.
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Sacrificing your happiness for someone else’s comfort?
This week's question comes from Rheena:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me. I am 58, relatively attractive, healthy, really interesting and smart – everyone in my family are nice people, my children, my siblings, my parents, all of us really nice people. I've been divorced 5 years and I recently ran into my ex at a close friend’s daughter’s wedding (we were her godparents when we were together so we were both invited to the wedding).
I knew he had remarried, but I had never
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How Do I Get My Expectations Met?
This week's question comes from Tiffany:
Hey Orna and Matthew, I have a quick question about expectations. I know that one should have a "no expectations" attitude towards those they love (family, friends, partners, etc.), but how do you distinguish expectations from standards and requirements?
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Dear Tiffany,
Great question! Let's just get right to it. Expectations are desires that are not expressed. We expect our man to be able to anticipate our needs. We expect our family
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I don’t want to regress into my old patterns…
This week's question comes from Susana:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thanks for the opportunity to get your help and advice. My question is: I've done all my work and I have started dating someone totally different and very special. This means I have changed. But how do I keep from going back to my old ways and make sure this relationship lasts?
Thanks!"
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Dear Susana,
How exciting! We love to hear when someone in our community has broken old patterns and created a new kind of
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Is This a Dealbreaker?
This week's question comes from Tamlyn
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
I never would have thought I would be writing for advice on this issue because I've always perceived complaints about a lover with poor personal hygiene to be easily resolvable.
I recently met a man whose heart and worldview match my own. I care about him and see him as someone I could build a future with. The problem is that his teeth are in a really bad condition and he often looks greasy and uncared for. I find this
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