This week's question comes from Nancy:
“Hello Orna and Matthew,
I have questions about how to meet someone for the first time who doesn’t live near me.
Hopefully, I have found the man of my dreams through a dating app. I want to meet him at a special place (like I said, this is a long-distance meeting). I’ve never gone to them first and I don’t usually pursue, but I am feeling like I really want to this time. Is this ok?
I’m not worried about my safety (even though this will be our first meeting). I have two weeks to get my self-esteem together and do the right thing.
I’m so fearful about screwing this up. Please help me!”
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Dear Nancy,
When you
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Telling someone you don’t like them isn’t the same as being told by someone they aren’t interested in you, but that doesn’t make it any more pleasant. You’ve probably been dumped by someone who didn’t do it in the nicest way, and you don’t want that kind of dating karma on your hands. Mastering the uncomfortable conversation is one of the skills you’ll need to develop for a loving partnership to
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Getting your needs met is not optional. But are you asking too much of him? How do you know the difference between being needy or being with a man who is incapable of meeting your needs?
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“He Keeps Canceling Our Dates.” What To Do When He Cancels Last Minute.
This week's question comes from Julie:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
How should I respond to a man that cancels last minute? He first did this months ago and it took me a while to agree to another date. I have now agreed and today, the day of the date, he has another reason. I know that it’s important to set the rules early for how you will allow yourself to be treated and I won’t stand for this. He keeps canceling our dates. My time is valuable, and I deserve respect. So, how should I respond to him in a manner that is not emotional but will let him know this? He has asked if we can reschedule for Saturday, but I won’t agree to that.
Thank you”
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Dear Julie,
It
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