As wildfires rage around California we are grateful that many in our Love On Purpose Community have reached out to ask if we are okay. Yes, we are safe and sound thank goodness, however many of our friends are displaced from their homes and several have lost theirs. It’s tragic.
We have been offering support in many ways and we wanted to let you know two things:
We are safe.
Self-care is not optional.
Here we are with N95 masks as the air quality all around Los Angeles is very poor
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Effective Communication
Why Do We Keep Fighting Even Though We Love Each Other?
This week's question comes from Makena:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been dating a great guy for the last year. Recently we moved in together and it has created a lot of friction between us. I love him and he loves me, but we fight all the time. I don't want to break up.
What should I do?"
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Hi Makena,
Fighting with someone you love can be one of the most heartbreaking situations. Our love goes out to the two of you.
We want you to know that fighting is not only common in
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You & The Empathic Man…
This week's question comes from Marcie:
“Dear Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been dating a great guy for a few months and he’s really different from the type of man I’ve dated in the past. He clearly loves me deeply and has a sensitive heart. At times I feel like he is so in tune with how I’m feeling and it feels really incredible.
The men I used to date didn’t ever seem to care about me at all, really a bunch of insensitive jerks.
I am so grateful to have him in my life and I don’t want to
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Do Smart Women Suffer More In Love?
This week's question comes from Rachel:
"Hi O&M,
I love your emails and work; I have been on your list for years. I enjoy watching you two interact with one another. I know I’m a smart woman, perhaps too smart for my own good.
I find I’m always questioning my choices in men. I’m constantly wondering if he is the right guy for me or not. So what happens is that I get overly critical and nitpicky looking for mistakes. And yet I know deep down that I don’t want to settle for just okay.
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Sacrificing your happiness for someone else’s comfort?
This week's question comes from Rheena:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me. I am 58, relatively attractive, healthy, really interesting and smart – everyone in my family are nice people, my children, my siblings, my parents, all of us really nice people. I've been divorced 5 years and I recently ran into my ex at a close friend’s daughter’s wedding (we were her godparents when we were together so we were both invited to the wedding).
I knew he had remarried, but I had never
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How Do I Get My Expectations Met?
This week's question comes from Tiffany:
Hey Orna and Matthew, I have a quick question about expectations. I know that one should have a "no expectations" attitude towards those they love (family, friends, partners, etc.), but how do you distinguish expectations from standards and requirements?
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Dear Tiffany,
Great question! Let's just get right to it. Expectations are desires that are not expressed. We expect our man to be able to anticipate our needs. We expect our family
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