Your heart was broken but you just met the next man or woman of your dreams. How do you know if this is a rebound relationship or if it could be the real thing? Rebound love is real and it can be just the thing to help you find the lasting love you’re looking for.
What is rebound love? It’s that feeling you get when you meet the perfect person to distract you from the pain of your break-up. It may seem like the two of you are meant to be, but when you look more closely, you see that the relationship isn’t something deep or meaningful. It’s just a passing fancy to keep your mind off your ex.
The problem with rebound love is that you are not emotionally ready for a
Read More
Blocks to Love
Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Men?
This week's question comes from Laura:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am so glad I found you. It’s no doubt the universe pointed me in your direction just as I really need you!
I have been addicted to emotionally unavailable men for 20 years and in the past few years, have pulled myself away – like an alcoholic coming off liquor. But the feelings are still there – like the alcoholic smelling alcohol and being consumed by the longing for it! My current situation involves a male friend, with whom I’ve got close to (as friends) quickly over the last few months. He’s in a difficult emotional situation himself and in a relationship that he does not have much time for (but is
Read More
40 Red Flags For Dating Over 40
Dating over 40 can feel very different than it did when you were younger and carefree. While it was easy to connect when most everyone you met was unmarried and looking, now you may find yourself looking for red flags to protect yourself from heartbreak. You may meet more divorcés, or find yourself worrying and wondering why someone has never been married.
Dating doesn’t have to be an obstacle course where you’re constantly hurdling over or attempting to dodge emotional baggage. Showing up with a positive attitude and a curious mindset can keep dating fun and interesting. However, you can’t afford to let attraction be the deciding factor for whether you enter into a
Read More
Am I Destined To Be Alone?
This week's question comes from Maggie:
“Hello Orna and Matthew,
I worry that I am destined to be alone. It’s been so long since I’ve had a relationship that I often think I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life. I have been told by some very good psychics that I made a life contract that is solid, and I am not to have a love partner this lifetime. The only glimmer of hope and the reason for this email is that a few of the psychics said there is someone waiting for me. If that is true, then I want to meet him.
Over the years I have tried to change this contract as some psychics have said it’s possible to do so. I meditate and believe in a higher power and
Read More
Soulmate By Magic? Does This Soulmate Theory Actually Work?
This week's question comes from Michelle:
“Dear Orna and Matthew,
I heard a controversial idea from an interview the other day. ‘Stop looking for your Soulmate! Direct your attention on becoming and living as the most authentic you and creating the life and work you love to live and do…and in doing THAT you will meet your soulmate as if by magic.’ What do think about that soulmate theory?”
—
Dear Michelle,
Great question! It certainly sounds like an appealing soulmate theory. Focus on living a happy life and becoming your authentic self and BAM out of nowhere your soulmate will just magically appear.
Let’s break this soulmate theory down and see if it
Read More
8 Signs You Are Emotionally Unavailable For Love Even If Mr. Perfect Walked Into Your Life
Do you ever worry and wonder if you are emotionally unavailable for love? Even if Mr. Perfect walked into your life tomorrow would you be able to make it last?
Long-lasting love requires more than just attraction and desire. Intimate relationships are nourished by emotional intimacy. If you are unable to comfortably share your emotions, navigate conflicts, and take responsibility, then you will have trouble creating and maintaining a healthy connection with your partner.
Do you use sarcasm to protect yourself? Do you find it difficult to trust others with your innermost thoughts and feelings? Do you confuse physical intimacy with emotional intimacy?
These are all
Read More