This week's question comes from Jen:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have a question about getting over unrequited love. You see, I met my soulmate a couple of years ago. I knew it the moment I met him. It was like my soul had opened up and I finally knew what love could be.
The problem is he didn’t feel the same way. I don’t really understand how that could be possible. He told me that he had never felt so comfortable with anyone before. Our connection was so strong.
He met someone else, and I heard through a friend that he is engaged. I feel devastated. It’s like my heart is being crushed. How could I meet my soulmate and he not feel the same way as me?
I don’t
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Blocks to Love
7 Reasons Why You Feel Emotionally Distant From The Guy You’re Dating And What It Means For Your Future With Him
One of the best parts of the early stage of dating is discovering each other and creating emotional connection and intimacy. Opening your heart to someone new has so much hope and possibility for what you can create together. But what if you start to feel emotionally distant or emotionally detached from the guy you’re dating?
Does feeling emotionally detached mean that the relationship is doomed, or can the two of you rekindle the connection?
Many things can cause you to feel emotionally distant from your guy. Life has a way of intruding on your love story. You can get busy with work or have family issues come up. Perhaps it’s been difficult for the two of you to
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How To Let Go Of Hurt And Betrayal In Ways That Actually Motivate You To Walk Away From Your Ex
Your partner has broken your trust. You struggle to stop spinning about it. It hurts to take a deep breath with that giant pit in your stomach, and your heart feels broken beyond repair. Ever wonder how to let go of hurt and betrayal so you can move on with your life? Is it possible to open your heart so you can love again?
Getting over hurt and betrayal is not something that is going to happen overnight. But if you take a conscious approach to walking away from your ex and healing your heart, you can create a greater love and a stronger partnership than the one you lost.
It is so easy to get stuck between two opposing feelings. On the one hand, you want to get back
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11 Reasons Why Dating Coaches Believe You’re Self-Sabotaging Your Chances At Love (Plus How To Fix It Now)
Do you notice that your relationships start out with a great connection, but then fall apart before there is exclusivity? Are you always finding fault with the people you date, deselecting them for superficial reasons, and not letting anyone get too close to you? These could be signs that you’re self-sabotaging your chances for love.
Understanding why this keeps happening and what to do about it are the keys to breaking the pattern of self-sabotaging relationships and creating the long-lasting love you desire.
Self-sabotage is a tricky issue because ultimately it is you that is causing the relationship to fall apart, even when it seems like the problem is the other
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Rebound Love? 7 Signs You’re In A Rebound Relationship And What To Do About It
Your heart was broken but you just met the next man or woman of your dreams. How do you know if this is a rebound relationship or if it could be the real thing? Rebound love is real and it can be just the thing to help you find the lasting love you’re looking for.
What is rebound love? It’s that feeling you get when you meet the perfect person to distract you from the pain of your break-up. It may seem like the two of you are meant to be, but when you look more closely, you see that the relationship isn’t something deep or meaningful. It’s just a passing fancy to keep your mind off your ex.
The problem with rebound love is that you are not emotionally ready for a
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Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Men?
This week's question comes from Laura:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am so glad I found you. It’s no doubt the universe pointed me in your direction just as I really need you!
I have been addicted to emotionally unavailable men for 20 years and in the past few years, have pulled myself away – like an alcoholic coming off liquor. But the feelings are still there – like the alcoholic smelling alcohol and being consumed by the longing for it! My current situation involves a male friend, with whom I’ve got close to (as friends) quickly over the last few months. He’s in a difficult emotional situation himself and in a relationship that he does not have much time for (but is
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