Do you have a pattern of toxic relationships? You meet a guy who is so amazing at the start – charismatic, charming, and so into you. But as soon as you get hooked, he starts becoming controlling and critical. Do you ever ask yourself, “Why do I attract narcissists and selfish guys? What can I do to finally break this pattern?”
The first step is to understand why you are attracting narcissists in the first place. Then you can begin to change your strategies for finding love.
While your pattern of attracting narcissists may leave you feeling hopeless about your prospects for lasting love, the truth is you can break this pattern by developing new dating strategies to
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Blocks to Love
How Can A Negative Attitude Block Me From Finding True Love?
This week's question comes from Mathilda:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I’ve got such a negative attitude about love and relationships these days. I can’t seem to believe that love is in the cards for me and then when I go online I just see a bunch of fake profiles or guys I would never date. I’m sure that people are constantly being scammed on dating sites.
Is there any hope for someone like me? I can’t seem to get over my negative attitude."
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Dear Mathilda,
Thank you for reaching out to us, it’s clear that you are looking for some guidance that will help you feel better. To answer your question, yes it will be more difficult to create lasting love when you
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What if he ghosts you?
This week's question comes from Gail:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
What if he ghosted you and 7 weeks later a one-sentence text and photo comes out of the blue? Respond? Don’t respond? Do I wait to respond?
I’m confused as to what this means. Is he interested in me again? Should I text a guy who ghosted me? I’m really tired of games and this seems to be a common behavior with men and new relationships.
My friends say he ghosted you so just ignore him. But I want a relationship and he could be interested. I just don’t know.
Clearly, I need some help with dating. I’m tired of feeling like I didn’t get the memo.
Help!”
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Hi Gail,
We agree that situations
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7 Red Flags In A New Relationship That Are Persistent Signs It’s Not Going To Work Out
A new relationship is exciting and intoxicating. It’s easy to put on rose-colored glasses and see your new partner as perfect when all the feel-good chemicals are flowing. Don’t let your desire for this relationship to work out obscure your common sense. Ignoring red flags in a new relationship will ultimately lead you to frustration and likely Heartbreak Hotel.
There are no guarantees in love. Having a stringent deal-breaker list only keeps you from risking your heart. The best-case scenario is to keep an eye out for issues that indicate this new relationship is headed in the wrong direction while tucking those rose-colored glasses into a drawer for use later on if
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How To Get Over A Breakup And Actually Leave Your Ex In The Past
When you feel like the rug has been pulled out from under you because the relationship you thought would stand the test of time – didn’t – here’s how to get over a breakup and turn the heartbreaker into just someone you used to know. Trust us, it’s better than opening another pint of ice cream and scrolling through your ex’s social media.
Falling in love is the easy part of a relationship. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been with someone for 3 months, 3 years, or 3 decades, getting over a breakup is hard. For some people, the pain is so intense it’s physical.
Heartbreak can feel like it is the end of the world, so it’s important to remind your brain that the world will
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Why Do I Attract Married Men? Is There A Way To Repel Them So They Stop Wasting My Time?
This week’s question comes from Patricia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me break this pattern I seem stuck in. Why do I attract married men? There must be a way to repel them, so they stop wasting my time.
I must confess, when I was younger, I was the other woman in a few relationships, and I feel terrible about it. So, I swore off married men and promised myself that I wouldn’t be part of that kind of situation ever again. I truly want to be in a real relationship.
Six months ago, I met a great guy and we hit it off right away. I had such a strong attraction to him and I thought I’d finally found The One. Then I discovered that he’s married. Of
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