All couples fight, even happy couples. There is no getting around this fact. Many people have a dream that one day they will meet the perfect person who just gets them and the two of them will never have a conflict.
This dream is a fantasy that is undermining your ability to maintain harmony in an intimate relationship, and could possibly be keeping you from identifying an ideal match to share your life with.
When you are ready to accept that even happy couples argue, then you can become curious about happy couples and what they know about arguing and making up that you haven’t figured out yet.
Unhappy as well as happy couples:
Sometimes scream and yell at each other.
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Blocks to Love
Will I Ever Find Love Again?
This week's question comes from Naomi:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Will I ever find love again?
I hope you can help me. I’ve been a long time reader and really think you give great advice. I have been feeling a lot of despair lately with the state of the world. Dating really scares me and I’m not sure where to get started. I married young and he passed unexpectedly in an accident several years ago. I have been alone since and haven’t dated anyone seriously.
As a single mom, I often wonder if any man would ever be interested in me, as I have to put my children first.
What are your thoughts? Do you think that people get a second chance at love?"
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Hi Naomi,
We’re sorry to
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7 Ways That Being A Cynical Person Is Keeping You Single
It’s been said that inside every cynical person is a disappointed romantic. It’s okay to be suspect if you have reason to be, but what if that cynicism is keeping you single?
Everyone has had disappointments in life. Not every relationship works out the way you wanted it to. But that doesn’t mean that you have to become cynical about life and love.
If you’re a disappointed romantic and finding it difficult to reconcile your own desire to share your life with someone alongside the experiences you’ve had that broke your heart, it’s time to take a look at how your own self-fulfilling prophecy is keeping you from the one thing you desire most of all – someone to share your life
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If A Soulmate Is Your Goal, You Need To Know Your Love Imprint & How It’s Affecting You
You’ve likely heard the saying, “Men marry their mother, and girls marry their father.” This is just too simplistic when taking into account how complex human beings are. The reality is that both parents and your entire family of origin play a role in Your Love Imprint ® and how you are hard-wired for love.
Whether you know your biological parents or not, whether you were raised by one parent or both, we all learn about intimate relationship in our family of origin.
So if you want to spend the rest of your life with your soulmate, you’re not looking to date more. Your desire is to spend your life with that one special person who really gets you and loves you warts and all.
We don’t
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How Can A Negative Attitude Block Me From Finding True Love?
This week's question comes from Mathilda:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I’ve got such a negative attitude about love and relationships these days. I can’t seem to believe that love is in the cards for me and then when I go online I just see a bunch of fake profiles or guys I would never date. I’m sure that people are constantly being scammed on dating sites.
Is there any hope for someone like me? I can’t seem to get over my negative attitude."
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Dear Mathilda,
Thank you for reaching out to us, it’s clear that you are looking for some guidance that will help you feel better. To answer your question, yes it will be more difficult to create lasting love when you have a negative
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7 Ways To Heal A Broken Heart And Move On Energetically So You Stop Attracting The Same Kind Of Men
Break-ups can be devastating, especially when it happens with that guy that you really thought was The One. You find yourself searching Google for ways to heal a broken heart and move on. Reading every article you can get your hands on hoping that this horrible feeling will just go away.
Well stop your search. We’re here to help you not only move on from your broken heart but also to make sure you finally stop repeating your pattern of heartbreak with that guy that feels so right yet always seems to go so wrong.
What is it about certain guys that seem to have your number, and yet they always turn out to be the biggest disappointments?
The truth is we all have a pattern in our intimate
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