A new relationship is exciting and intoxicating. It’s easy to put on rose-colored glasses and see your new partner as perfect when all the feel-good chemicals are flowing. Don’t let your desire for this relationship to work out obscure your common sense. Ignoring red flags in a new relationship will ultimately lead you to frustration and likely Heartbreak Hotel.
There are no guarantees in love. Having a stringent deal-breaker list only keeps you from risking your heart. The best-case scenario is to keep an eye out for issues that indicate this new relationship is headed in the wrong direction while tucking those rose-colored glasses into a drawer for use later on if
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Blocks to Love
How To Get Over A Breakup And Actually Leave Your Ex In The Past
When you feel like the rug has been pulled out from under you because the relationship you thought would stand the test of time – didn’t – here’s how to get over a breakup and turn the heartbreaker into just someone you used to know. Trust us, it’s better than opening another pint of ice cream and scrolling through your ex’s social media.
Falling in love is the easy part of a relationship. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been with someone for 3 months, 3 years, or 3 decades, getting over a breakup is hard. For some people, the pain is so intense it’s physical.
Heartbreak can feel like it is the end of the world, so it’s important to remind your brain that the world will
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Why Do I Attract Married Men? Is There A Way To Repel Them So They Stop Wasting My Time?
This week’s question comes from Patricia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me break this pattern I seem stuck in. Why do I attract married men? There must be a way to repel them, so they stop wasting my time.
I must confess, when I was younger, I was the other woman in a few relationships, and I feel terrible about it. So, I swore off married men and promised myself that I wouldn’t be part of that kind of situation ever again. I truly want to be in a real relationship.
Six months ago, I met a great guy and we hit it off right away. I had such a strong attraction to him and I thought I’d finally found The One. Then I discovered that he’s married. Of
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Why Did I Push A Nice Guy Away?
This week's question comes from Denise:
"Please help me. I’m afraid I acted crazy and pushed him away.
I was dating a man two months ago that broke up with me because I just wasn't spending enough time with him. After the first date he emailed me and told me he stayed awake all night thinking of me and he really thought I was the one. He gave me a dozen red roses on our next date, called me beautiful, sweetie, and baby. I told him he needed to slow down, asked him to stop calling me these names every second and kept thinking I just was not used to a nice guy.
My gut said something was not right, but I tried. He would text me 20 times a day during work, would fly
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5 Reasons Why Soulmate Relationships Are Difficult
This week's question comes from Tamar:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me figure out why soulmate relationships are difficult. It seems that whenever I have a great connection with a man I am easily triggered, and I overthink everything.
Being in my 40s I’ve been around the block; I know relationships take work. I just wonder why the deeper the connection the more I seem off-kilter. Perhaps I should be with a completely different kind of guy than I think…?
Curious about your thoughts on this. I am a long-time reader of your blog.”
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Hi Tamar,
Thank you for asking this common quandary: why are Soulmate relationships difficult. Yes, it’s true
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Why Is Love So Hard To Find? How Getting Over Unrequited Love Can Change Your Love Life For Good
This week's question comes from Jen:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have a question about getting over unrequited love. You see, I met my soulmate a couple of years ago. I knew it the moment I met him. It was like my soul had opened up and I finally knew what love could be.
The problem is he didn’t feel the same way. I don’t really understand how that could be possible. He told me that he had never felt so comfortable with anyone before. Our connection was so strong.
He met someone else, and I heard through a friend that he is engaged. I feel devastated. It’s like my heart is being crushed. How could I meet my soulmate and he not feel the same way as me?
I don’t
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