This week's question comes from Vicki:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been delving into so much of what you two share and I’m realizing so much about myself. The truth is I'm still afraid of losing myself in a relationship. How do I ensure that I won’t go back to that behavior again?"
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Dear Vicki,
You’ve already taken the first step, which is to recognize this pattern of losing yourself in a relationship. How you show up in your relationships isn’t going to magically change one day, it’s a process. The good news is that identifying your negative patterns puts you in the driver's seat to make the changes you desire.
Digging deeper into the reasons you are
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Blocks to Love
Why Am I Attracted To The Wrong People And How Do I Change It?
This week's question comes from Anonymous:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
Why am I attracted to the wrong people? I am attracted to not only non-committal men but to mean, moody, and nasty men.
My father was mean, moody, and nasty. He yelled at me and called me names my entire life up until about three years before he died. Those are the same type of men I have chemistry with.
My last boyfriend was mean, moody, and often said hurtful things to me. I felt like a mere convenience and rarely stood up for myself. I broke up with him a year ago but am still hoping he’ll beg me to come back. We had such good chemistry, and he was so into me the first year when I wasn't so
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Getting To The Facts: Are You Needy Or Is He Emotionally Unavailable?
You’re in what started out as a great relationship, but now you find yourself constantly wondering whether he loves you or loves you as much as you love him. You keep asking yourself, “Am I needy or is he emotionally unavailable?” You begin to wonder if your relationship is healthy and become worried that it won’t last.
Getting your needs met is not optional. But are you asking too much of him? How do you know the difference between being needy or being with a man who is incapable of meeting your needs?
Maybe you are crowding him with your need for closeness. Or maybe he just needs more cave time alone to recharge. Navigating your differences is the key to lasting
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If A Soulmate Is Your Goal, You Need To Know Your Love Imprint & How It’s Affecting You
You’ve likely heard the saying, “Men marry their mother, and girls marry their father.” This is just too simplistic when considering how complex human beings are. The reality is that your caregivers and your entire family of origin play a role in Your Love Imprint® and how you are hard-wired for love.
Whether you ever had a stable family unit or not, whether you were raised by one parent or both, you learned about intimate relationships from the people that raised you.
So, if you want to spend the rest of your life with your soulmate (a person that you can count on to stand by you) you’ll need to know what drives your choices in love.
If you’ve done the work of
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How To Let Go Of Someone Who Hurt You & Move On With Your Life
Heartbreak sucks. Especially when the person you loved treated you badly on the way out. You want to move on. You want to know how to let go of someone who hurt you. But you feel stuck and you’re in pain.
Letting go of someone who hurt you takes time and doesn’t happen overnight. But if you take a conscious approach to letting go and moving on from a painful situation, you can heal your heart and create greater love than the one you lost. The silver lining is you’ll be more resilient from heartbreak through the process.
Your heart feels shattered because someone you love has betrayed your trust. Your head is spinning, constantly asking, “Why? Why would someone you
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Feeling Intense Sexual Chemistry & Worried It’s A Bad Sign For Your New Relationship?
Is intense sexual chemistry a sign that the two of you are meant to be? Or is it a signal that you’re going down a familiar path leaving you heartbroken again? How can you tell if intense sexual chemistry is love vs. lust?
The rush of connecting with someone new when it seems you’re naturally in sync can be exhilarating! The conversation flows easily, you have butterflies in your stomach, and when you finally kiss the chemistry is off the charts. Next thing you know you’re obsessing about him constantly and it feels like you’re walking on air.
How do you know if he’s your soulmate, or if he’s just another guy who’s going to break your heart?
While chemistry is an
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