Do you tolerate people in your life who don’t treat you with respect (hoping they will change)? Do agree to do things for others wishing you’d have said, “No?” Or maybe you have a pattern of apologizing for your behavior when really there is nothing to apologize for?
These are clear examples of behavior that stem from a lack of self-respect. Wondering what self-respect has to do with creating lasting love?
Excellent question! One key element to having a healthy, loving future with your beloved is having a healthy, loving relationship with yourself. In order to break the pattern of unhealthy, unsatisfying, or even toxic relationships, it’s imperative that you learn
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Blocks to Love
25 Limiting Beliefs That Interfere With Finding True Love (Plus How To Turn Them Around)
Dating is hard. Love doesn’t last. True love is just a fantasy. Whatever your limiting beliefs about love and relationship are, they are interfering in your search for lasting love.
Your limiting beliefs get in the way of you staying positive and motivated about love and dating. They cause you to take self-sabotaging actions and to work against yourself. Ultimately, they leave you feeling hopeless and frustrated about the possibility of ever finding “The One.”
The truth about love is that it is always available to you. Love can be easy while at the same time requiring effort to make it last. Creating lasting love with your soulmate can be one of the most satisfying
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If You Believe You’re Too Old For Love, This Mistaken Belief Is Keeping You Single
Afraid that you are too old for love? It doesn’t matter if you are 35 or 75, the belief that love has passed you by can cause you to give up hope that you’ll find the love you desire.
The feeling that love is passing you by can leave you feeling lonely and alone. It doesn’t matter if you are feeling the pressure to start a family, or whether you’re entering your Golden Years and afraid you’re going to spend them alone. Your belief that you are too old for love can cause you to lose hope, become cynical, and give up looking.
Don’t let your fears and your limiting beliefs stop you from discovering the joys of sharing your life with an ideal partner. Instead of
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How To Get Over A Breakup And Actually Leave Your Ex In The Past
When you can’t stop thinking about the person who broke your heart and you’re struggling with how to get over a breakup, start taking deliberate steps to heal your heart and move on. Trust us it’s better than opening another pint of ice cream and looking through your ex’s Facebook feed.
Falling in love is the easy part of a relationship. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been with someone for 3 months, 3 years, or 3 decades, getting over a breakup is hard. For some people, the pain is so intense it’s physical.
Heartbreak can feel like it is the end of the world, so it’s important to remind your brain that the world is not stopping. The sun will continue to rise and set,
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Am I Destined To Be Alone?
This week's question comes from Maggie:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
I believe I am destined to be alone.
I am alone in this world and I am going to be that way for the rest of my life. I have been told by some very good psychics that I made a life contract that is solid, and I am not to have a love partner this lifetime. The only glimmer of hope and the reason for this email is that a few of the psychics said there is someone waiting for me. If that is true, then I want to meet him.
Over the years I have tried to change my contract as some psychics have said it was possible. I meditate and believe in a higher power and the power of our inner beings to guide us. Up
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Why Is Unrequited Love So Hard To Get Over?
This week's question comes from Jen:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have a question about unrequited love. You see, I met my soulmate a couple of years ago. I knew it the moment I met him. It was like my soul had opened up and I finally knew what love could be.
The problem is he didn’t feel the same way. I don’t really understand how that could be possible. He told me that he had never felt so comfortable with anyone before. Our connection was so strong.
He met someone else and I heard through a friend that he is engaged. I feel devastated. It’s like my heart is being crushed. How could I meet my soulmate and he not feel the same way as me?
I don’t know why this
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