You’ve been talking over Zoom and things have been fun and flirty – you’re feeling Zoom chemistry. You’re starting to feel like you two know each other. It’s easy to think that this relationship has legs. Now that the world is opening back up with more and more people getting vaccinated, the next step is meeting for the first time in person.
Your expectations for meeting for the first time can say a lot about what happens next…
Meeting for the first time in person is different when you’ve already spent time getting to know each other over Zoom. You believe you’re meeting with someone you know and not a total stranger. Without knowing it, you probably feel more
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Dating from the C-Suite
No Chemistry? How Long Should You Wait For Attraction?
This week's question comes from Julia:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
Question: If I have no chemistry with a guy I’ve met, how long do I wait to see if attraction develops between us?
I have met a very nice man. We share some of the same hobbies, like books and music. He is retired and has tons of time; I work full time and also have a photography business and am very busy with limited time. This is sometimes a problem, but my real question is about sexual attraction. How soon do you think you know?
I thought we had some chemistry but now I’m not so sure (at least on my part). He says he is attracted to me, but I am having trouble recognizing his cues. He is a very
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The Myth of the Quality Man – 6 Reality Checks Every Single Woman Needs To Take To Heart
This week's question comes from Nicole:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have a question for your blog. I think you have good advice and I want to hear what you think about finding a quality man to date. It’s also nice to hear from a couple that is truly in love.
I’ve done a ton of personal growth and spiritual work and the more I evolve and grow the more it seems finding a quality man just keeps getting harder and harder. I don’t want to sound critical but the men I meet just don’t match up with me.
The good ones are not online. The men I meet online are mostly blue-collar men or guys who don’t have their life together. I don’t want to be some man’s mother and I really
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Does Resiliency Block You From Love?
This week's question comes from Mary:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been sitting on this question for you two for a while now because I’m not sure how to ask it or if you’d understand me. I know I’m a smart, sophisticated, and sensual woman and to put it bluntly, I’m exhausted.
I am tired of doing everything. I am the responsible one. I get shit done.
I’ve overcome a lot of adversity in my life. I pride myself on being resilient.
I’m the one everyone comes to when they need help. I’m capable – highly capable.
My adrenal glands are burnt out. I’ve crashed and burned. My health has suffered and my sanity has suffered.
I don’t want to be some passive meek
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Dating in the workplace
This week's question comes from Jill:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I would love your insights on my situation. At work I’m the boss. I manage a fairly large team and there is a guy I find attractive who works for the company, but does not report directly to me.
He seems interested in me, and even though I wouldn’t describe him as shy he hasn’t yet made a move. I know he’s single. I’ve read and studied about masculine/feminine dynamics and I am really clear that I want a man to lead in a relationship.
How do I do something (if anything) to see if there is something there for me with my co-worker?
Hoping for a connection."
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Hi Jill,
Thank you for
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Do Smart Women Suffer More In Love?
This week's question comes from Rachel:
"Hi O&M,
I love your emails and work; I have been on your list for years. I enjoy watching you two interact with one another. I know I’m a smart woman, perhaps too smart for my own good.
I find I’m always questioning my choices in men. I’m constantly wondering if he is the right guy for me or not. So what happens is that I get overly critical and nitpicky looking for mistakes. And yet I know deep down that I don’t want to settle for just okay. I want the real deal.
I really hate that I get so judgey with the men I’m dating and I can’t seem to break the pattern!
I like that I have a brain and yet I feel like my
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