This week's question comes from Julia:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
Question: If I have no chemistry with a guy I’ve met, how long do I wait to see if attraction develops between us?
I have met a very nice man. We share some of the same hobbies, like books and music. He is retired and has tons of time; I work full time and also have a photography business and am very busy with limited time. This is sometimes a problem, but my real question is about sexual attraction. How soon do you think you know?
I thought we had some chemistry but now I’m not so sure (at least on my part). He says he is attracted to me, but I am having trouble recognizing his cues. He is a very
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Dating from the C-Suite
The Myth of the Quality Man – 6 Reality Checks Every Single Woman Needs To Take To Heart
This week's question comes from Nicole:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have a question for your blog. I think you have good advice and I want to hear what you think about finding a quality man to date. It’s also nice to hear from a couple that is truly in love.
I’ve done a ton of personal growth and spiritual work and the more I evolve and grow the more it seems finding a quality man just keeps getting harder and harder. I don’t want to sound critical but the men I meet just don’t match up with me.
The good ones are not online. The men I meet online are mostly blue-collar men or guys who don’t have their life together. I don’t want to be some man’s mother and I really
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Does Resiliency Block You From Love?
This week's question comes from Mary:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been sitting on this question for you two for a while now because I’m not sure how to ask it or if you’d understand me. I know I’m a smart, sophisticated, and sensual woman and to put it bluntly, I’m exhausted.
I am tired of doing everything. I am the responsible one. I get shit done.
I’ve overcome a lot of adversity in my life. I pride myself on being resilient.
I’m the one everyone comes to when they need help. I’m capable – highly capable.
My adrenal glands are burnt out. I’ve crashed and burned. My health has suffered and my sanity has suffered.
I don’t want to be some passive meek
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Dating in the workplace
This week's question comes from Jill:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I would love your insights on my situation. At work I’m the boss. I manage a fairly large team and there is a guy I find attractive who works for the company, but does not report directly to me.
He seems interested in me, and even though I wouldn’t describe him as shy he hasn’t yet made a move. I know he’s single. I’ve read and studied about masculine/feminine dynamics and I am really clear that I want a man to lead in a relationship.
How do I do something (if anything) to see if there is something there for me with my co-worker?
Hoping for a connection."
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Hi Jill,
Thank you for
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Do Smart Women Suffer More In Love?
This week's question comes from Rachel:
"Hi O&M,
I love your emails and work; I have been on your list for years. I enjoy watching you two interact with one another. I know I’m a smart woman, perhaps too smart for my own good.
I find I’m always questioning my choices in men. I’m constantly wondering if he is the right guy for me or not. So what happens is that I get overly critical and nitpicky looking for mistakes. And yet I know deep down that I don’t want to settle for just okay. I want the real deal.
I really hate that I get so judgey with the men I’m dating and I can’t seem to break the pattern!
I like that I have a brain and yet I feel like my
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Does being a perfectionist keep me from love?
This week's question comes from Danielle:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
You two are the cutest couple and I wait every Monday to read your newsletter. You have best dating advice for women. So here’s my question…
I’m a pretty A-Type personality kind of woman. I know this about myself. I love my career, my kids are mostly grown and don’t need me as much.
I have no trouble getting dates, that’s not an issue. I get asked out all the time, I know how to flirt; I’ve learned to let the man lead – not something I’m completely comfortable with yet.
The problem for me is that once I’m in a relationship it doesn’t last past 6-8 months. I know I have high standards for
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