This week's question comes from Nicole:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have a question for your blog. I think you have good advice and I want to hear what you think about finding a quality man to date. It’s also nice to hear from a couple that is truly in love.
I’ve done a ton of personal growth and spiritual work and the more I evolve and grow the more it seems finding a quality man just keeps getting harder and harder. I don’t want to sound critical but the men I meet just don’t match up with me.
The good ones are not online. The men I meet online are mostly blue-collar men or guys who don’t have their life together. I don’t want to be some man’s mother and I really want a man who can
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Dating from the C-Suite
Does Resiliency Block You From Love?
This week's question comes from Mary:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been sitting on this question for you two for a while now because I’m not sure how to ask it or if you’d understand me. I know I’m a smart, sophisticated, and sensual woman and to put it bluntly, I’m exhausted.
I am tired of doing everything. I am the responsible one. I get shit done.
I’ve overcome a lot of adversity in my life. I pride myself on being resilient.
I’m the one everyone comes to when they need help. I’m capable – highly capable.
My adrenal glands are burnt out. I’ve crashed and burned. My health has suffered and my sanity has suffered.
I don’t want to be some passive meek housewife. I do want
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Dating in the workplace
This week's question comes from Jill:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I would love your insights on my situation. At work I’m the boss. I manage a fairly large team and there is a guy I find attractive who works for the company, but does not report directly to me.
He seems interested in me, and even though I wouldn’t describe him as shy he hasn’t yet made a move. I know he’s single. I’ve read and studied about masculine/feminine dynamics and I am really clear that I want a man to lead in a relationship.
How do I do something (if anything) to see if there is something there for me with my co-worker?
Hoping for a connection."
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Hi Jill,
Thank you for reaching out and we want
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Do Smart Women Suffer More In Love?
This week's question comes from Rachel:
"Hi O&M,
I love your emails and work; I have been on your list for years. I enjoy watching you two interact with one another. I know I’m a smart woman, perhaps too smart for my own good.
I find I’m always questioning my choices in men. I’m constantly wondering if he is the right guy for me or not. So what happens is that I get overly critical and nitpicky looking for mistakes. And yet I know deep down that I don’t want to settle for just okay. I want the real deal.
I really hate that I get so judgey with the men I’m dating and I can’t seem to break the pattern!
I like that I have a brain and yet I feel like my intelligence is my
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Does being a perfectionist keep me from love?
This week's question comes from Danielle:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
You two are the cutest couple and I wait every Monday to read your newsletter. You have best dating advice for women. So here’s my question…
I’m a pretty A-Type personality kind of woman. I know this about myself. I love my career, my kids are mostly grown and don’t need me as much.
I have no trouble getting dates, that’s not an issue. I get asked out all the time, I know how to flirt; I’ve learned to let the man lead – not something I’m completely comfortable with yet.
The problem for me is that once I’m in a relationship it doesn’t last past 6-8 months. I know I have high standards for myself, and I don’t want
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Why did I push a nice guy away?
This week's question comes from Denise:
"I was dating a man two months ago that broke up with me because I just wasn't spending enough time with him. After the first date he emailed me and told me he stayed awake all night thinking of me and he really thought I was the one. He gave me a dozen red roses on our next date, called me beautiful, sweetie, and baby. He also gave me Xmas gifts after knowing me three weeks and wanted me to spend the weekend with his older children at the beach for New Years. I told him he needed to slow down, asked him to stop calling me these names every second and kept thinking I just was not use to a nice guy.
My gut said something was not right but I tried.
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