When you feel like the rug has been pulled out from under you because the relationship you thought would stand the test of time – didn’t – here’s how to get over a breakup and turn the heartbreaker into just someone you used to know. Trust us, it’s better than opening another pint of ice cream and scrolling through your ex’s social media.
Falling in love is the easy part of a relationship. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been with someone for 3 months, 3 years, or 3 decades, getting over a breakup is hard. For some people, the pain is so intense it’s physical.
Heartbreak can feel like it is the end of the world, so it’s important to remind your brain that the world will
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Dating After Divorce
Help! I Can’t Stop Thinking About My Ex & It’s Ruining My Life
This week’s question comes from Neena:
“Dear Orna and Matthew,
Help! I can’t stop thinking about my ex and it’s ruining my life! I obsess over him to the point that I can’t focus at work. I’m driving all my friends crazy because I keep going over all the details to find out what went wrong.
At night I have trouble sleeping because I can’t stop replaying our arguments over and over in my head or scanning his social media to see what he’s up to. What do I need to do to stop thinking about him? I know that our relationship wasn’t healthy and that we weren’t good together, but part of me really wants him back. It’s like I’m craving him.
Please help me so I can get
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Why Did I Push A Nice Guy Away?
This week's question comes from Denise:
"Please help me. I’m afraid I acted crazy and pushed him away.
I was dating a man two months ago that broke up with me because I just wasn't spending enough time with him. After the first date he emailed me and told me he stayed awake all night thinking of me and he really thought I was the one. He gave me a dozen red roses on our next date, called me beautiful, sweetie, and baby. I told him he needed to slow down, asked him to stop calling me these names every second and kept thinking I just was not used to a nice guy.
My gut said something was not right, but I tried. He would text me 20 times a day during work, would fly
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Don’t Be Fooled By ZOOM Chemistry! 7 Mistakes To Avoid When Meeting For The First Time
You’ve been talking over Zoom and things have been fun and flirty – you’re feeling Zoom chemistry. You’re starting to feel like you two know each other. It’s easy to think that this relationship has legs. Now that the world is opening back up with more and more people getting vaccinated, the next step is meeting for the first time in person.
Your expectations for meeting for the first time can say a lot about what happens next…
Meeting for the first time in person is different when you’ve already spent time getting to know each other over Zoom. You believe you’re meeting with someone you know and not a total stranger. Without knowing it, you probably feel more
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7 Reasons Why You Feel Emotionally Distant From The Guy You’re Dating And What It Means For Your Future With Him
One of the best parts of the early stage of dating is discovering each other and creating emotional connection and intimacy. Opening your heart to someone new has so much hope and possibility for what you can create together. But what if you start to feel emotionally distant or emotionally detached from the guy you’re dating?
Does feeling emotionally detached mean that the relationship is doomed, or can the two of you rekindle the connection?
Many things can cause you to feel emotionally distant from your guy. Life has a way of intruding on your love story. You can get busy with work or have family issues come up. Perhaps it’s been difficult for the two of you to
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Do Dating Coaches Really Work? 6 Date Coaching Case Studies That Ended In Happily Ever After
This week's question comes from Amber:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
Do dating coaches really work? I am about to turn 40, single, never married. I always thought that I’d just meet the right person and we’d figure it together, but so far that hasn’t happened for me. Lately, I have become curious about dating coaches and life coaches. No one I know has ever hired someone to help them in this way so I’m a bit skeptical. (Maybe my friends haven’t shared with me that they have… that’s certainly a possibility.)
How do I know if I need a dating coach? I rather like that you two call yourselves soulmate coaches because having a mate for life is what I truly want. If I ever get
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