One of the most enjoyable parts about dating is getting to know someone new and discovering what makes them tick. Asking the right questions to get to know someone can reveal a lot about who they are at a soul level and allow the two of you to connect deeply.
If you want to make a connection with someone you’ve just met, avoid small talk and discussing likes and dislikes. Keeping things on a superficial level isn’t going to create the connection you’re looking for.
Ask questions that are revealing and either create rapport or give you the information you need to deselect the person who is not a good match. Questions about their job or their past dating experiences
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Attract Your Soulmate
No Chemistry? How Long Should You Wait For Attraction?
This week's question comes from Julia:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
Question: If I have no chemistry with a guy I’ve met, how long do I wait to see if attraction develops between us?
I have met a very nice man. We share some of the same hobbies, like books and music. He is retired and has tons of time; I work full time and also have a photography business and am very busy with limited time. This is sometimes a problem, but my real question is about sexual attraction. How soon do you think you know?
I thought we had some chemistry but now I’m not so sure (at least on my part). He says he is attracted to me, but I am having trouble recognizing his cues. He is a very
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If You Believe You’re Too Old For Love, This Mistaken Belief Is Keeping You Single
Afraid that you are too old for love? It doesn’t matter if you are 35 or 75, the belief that love has passed you by can cause you to give up hope that you’ll find the love you desire.
The feeling that love is passing you by can leave you feeling lonely and alone. It doesn’t matter if you are feeling the pressure to start a family, or whether you’re entering your Golden Years and afraid you’re going to spend them alone. Your belief that you are too old for love can cause you to lose hope, become cynical, and give up looking.
Don’t let your fears and your limiting beliefs stop you from discovering the joys of sharing your life with an ideal partner. Instead of
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What Is Real Love Like When Two People Are Actually Honest About Everything?
What is real love like? When you ponder this question what comes to mind? A scene from a romantic movie? A wedding? A scene from your life? Do you still believe in real love?
Real love stands the test of time. It’s when two people accept one another warts and all and commit to a life together. They weather the storms and enjoy the tranquility of the good times.
In order for real love to flourish, both people have to be brave enough to be themselves. So ultimately, real love is when two people share all of who they are with each other and continue to evolve and grow together rather than apart.
Here’s what real love is like when two people are actually honest about
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How To Date After Divorce (Even If You’d Just Rather Give Up)
Dating after divorce can be an overwhelming experience, especially if you were married for a long time. You may go on a few bad dates and think that it might be easier to just give up and stay single. Don’t despair! Instead, discover how to date after divorce so that you actually find love again.
If you’ve taken time to heal your heart and you feel ready to put yourself out there again you may wonder what’s changed. Most of all what has likely changed is: You.
Decide what you’re looking for when you start dating so that you’re clear on what you want. Maybe you’re just curious to meet new people and you want to keep things casual, or perhaps you know you want another
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How do I attract my soulmate?
This week's question comes from Dina:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
Here’s my question: How do I attract my soulmate?
I’m new to your work and I like what I’ve seen so far. I don’t think I’ve ever really thought about finding a soulmate. I’ve never been married and while I date a lot I’ve never dated a man that I wanted to marry. I guess I’ve been dating by accident ;).
Now that I’m thinking about actually wanting to get married, how do I identify and attract a soulmate into my life?
Thanks!”
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Hello Dina,
Thanks for reaching out to us! So much of what you can achieve in your life begins with making a decision that you really want something. Shifting your
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