Are you looking to change your patterns of dating emotionally unavailable toxic men? Do you want to create a healthy masculine and feminine dynamic with your man? Can you recognize a man with healthy masculine energy? Understanding the difference between positive and negative masculine traits will help you be more discerning in your dating, and give you a guide for creating lasting love.
In a healthy relationship, there is a balance of masculine and feminine energy that compliments each other. Both men and women have masculine energy and feminine energy, however, one of those energies tends to be more dominant in each person. Masculine energy is not exclusive to men
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Lasting Love
8 Signs You Are Emotionally Unavailable For Love Even If Mr. Perfect Walked Into Your Life
Do you ever worry and wonder if you are emotionally unavailable for love? Even if Mr. Perfect walked into your life tomorrow would you be able to make it last?
Long-lasting love requires more than just attraction and desire. Intimate relationships are nourished by emotional intimacy. If you are unable to comfortably share your emotions, navigate conflicts, and take responsibility, then you will have trouble creating and maintaining a healthy connection with your partner.
Do you use sarcasm to protect yourself? Do you find it difficult to trust others with your innermost thoughts and feelings? Do you confuse physical intimacy with emotional intimacy?
These are all
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13 Dating Red Flags He’s In Lust With You, Not In Love
It’s exciting when you meet someone new and you can’t keep your hands off each other. Just the thought of seeing him again has those butterflies fluttering inside of you. But when you’re looking for something lasting, how do you know what’s possible, or even likely, rather than just feeling hot and bothered? Are there dating red flags you can look for that let you know the difference between lust and love?
Attraction and chemistry are important ingredients for lasting love. However, they are not the only ingredients that matter. There has to be more between the two of you than a mutual turn-on in order for love to last. You can think of attraction like yeast in bread,
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25 Limiting Beliefs That Interfere With Finding True Love (Plus How To Turn Them Around)
Dating is hard. Love doesn’t last. True love is just a fantasy. Whatever your limiting beliefs about love and relationship are, they are interfering in your search for lasting love.
Your limiting beliefs get in the way of you staying positive and motivated about love and dating. They cause you to take self-sabotaging actions and to work against yourself. Ultimately, they leave you feeling hopeless and frustrated about the possibility of ever finding “The One.”
The truth about love is that it is always available to you. Love can be easy while at the same time requiring effort to make it last. Creating lasting love with your soulmate can be one of the most satisfying
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When Someone Asks ‘Are We Compatible’ Is It A Sign The Relationship Is Going Someplace Or Headed For A Breakup?
This week's question comes from Lacie:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
When someone asks, “Are we compatible?” is it a sign the relationship is going someplace or headed for a breakup?
I’m dating this guy and I don’t know how I feel about him. He’s really nice and we get along well, but I’m not feeling the excitement that I want to feel. He seems obsessed with our compatibility. He keeps going on about how much alike we are.
I don’t know what to think. How do I know if this relationship is going someplace or if we are headed for a breakup?
I look forward to your advice."
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Dear Lacie,
Thanks for reaching out to us. We understand that you are confused about
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How Long Does It Take To Fall In Love For Real?
This week's question comes from Isabel:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
How long does it take to fall in love for real? I’m confused and I hope you can help me!
My boyfriend of 3 months keeps telling me that he is so in love with me. He’s always saying how much he loves me. I’m not sure I’ve had enough time to know how I feel about him. I’m afraid he is hurt by my not telling him yet and I don’t want him to go find someone else. I think I just need more time to know for sure before I say the L-word.
He’s a great guy and I find him attractive. We met online and he pursued me right away. I just don’t know if he’s the one. Should I know right away?
I’m so confused.
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