A new relationship is exciting and intoxicating. It’s easy to put on rose-colored glasses and see your new partner as perfect when all the feel-good chemicals are flowing. Don’t let your desire for this relationship to work out obscure your common sense. Ignoring red flags in a new relationship will ultimately lead you to frustration and likely Heartbreak Hotel.
There are no guarantees in love. Having a stringent deal-breaker list only keeps you from risking your heart. The best-case scenario is to keep an eye out for issues that indicate this new relationship is headed in the wrong direction while tucking those rose-colored glasses into a drawer for use later on if
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Lasting Love
Help! I Can’t Stop Thinking About My Ex & It’s Ruining My Life
This week’s question comes from Neena:
“Dear Orna and Matthew,
Help! I can’t stop thinking about my ex and it’s ruining my life! I obsess over him to the point that I can’t focus at work. I’m driving all my friends crazy because I keep going over all the details to find out what went wrong.
At night I have trouble sleeping because I can’t stop replaying our arguments over and over in my head or scanning his social media to see what he’s up to. What do I need to do to stop thinking about him? I know that our relationship wasn’t healthy and that we weren’t good together, but part of me really wants him back. It’s like I’m craving him.
Please help me so I can get
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What Happens When You Meet Your Soulmate That Changes You Forever
If you’ve ever had the experience of meeting a person you thought was your soulmate and have it end tragically, then you’ve probably torn yourself up wondering what went wrong. Maybe you’ve never felt that kind of connection with another person and wonder if soulmates even exist.
What happens when you meet your soulmate? How is it different than all the other relationships you’ve had?
Traditionally, a soulmate is someone you spend your life with. More recently, there seems to be a growing idea that soulmates are designed to break your heart. Many people have a fairytale fantasy of what a soulmate is. They expect a normal human being to come with mind-reading powers
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7 Kinds Of Healthy Masculine Energy That Inspires True Love To Grow
Are you looking to change your patterns of dating emotionally unavailable toxic men? Do you want to create a healthy masculine and feminine dynamic with your man? Can you recognize a man with healthy masculine energy? Understanding the difference between positive and negative masculine traits will help you be more discerning in your dating, and give you a guide for creating lasting love.
In a healthy relationship, there is a balance of masculine and feminine energy that compliments each other. Both men and women have masculine energy and feminine energy, however, one of those energies tends to be more dominant in each person. Masculine energy is not exclusive to men
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8 Signs You Are Emotionally Unavailable For Love Even If Mr. Perfect Walked Into Your Life
Do you ever worry and wonder if you are emotionally unavailable for love? Even if Mr. Perfect walked into your life tomorrow would you be able to make it last?
Long-lasting love requires more than just attraction and desire. Intimate relationships are nourished by emotional intimacy. If you are unable to comfortably share your emotions, navigate conflicts, and take responsibility, then you will have trouble creating and maintaining a healthy connection with your partner.
Do you use sarcasm to protect yourself? Do you find it difficult to trust others with your innermost thoughts and feelings? Do you confuse physical intimacy with emotional intimacy?
These are all
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13 Dating Red Flags He’s In Lust With You, Not In Love
It’s exciting when you meet someone new and you can’t keep your hands off each other. Just the thought of seeing him again has those butterflies fluttering inside of you. But when you’re looking for something lasting, how do you know what’s possible, or even likely, rather than just feeling hot and bothered? Are there dating red flags you can look for that let you know the difference between lust and love?
Attraction and chemistry are important ingredients for lasting love. However, they are not the only ingredients that matter. There has to be more between the two of you than a mutual turn-on in order for love to last. You can think of attraction like yeast in bread,
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