This week's question comes from Ann
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
My story is rather long and complicated so I'll keep this as brief as possible. I grew up in a very dysfunctional alcoholic household. There were absolutely no boundaries. I've had lots of help and even attend a 12-step group. All this has been very helpful and it has really come down to me taking action, which has been scary. My relationships with men have been dysfunctional and it has been a slow learning process in how to have a
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Lasting Love
Should I get back with my ex?
This week's question comes from Lisa:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me. My ex wants to get back together with me. We've been broken up for 3 months and I've been focusing on myself, on my own healing. I'm starting to feel really good about myself. And that's the problem. He has noticed the changes I'm making and we've been getting along really well lately. I'm so confused. How do I know what to do? I still love him and I feel encouraged by the way we've been getting along.
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It’s not just how he treats you…
This week's question comes from Bianca:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been dating this guy for about 4 months and he is unlike any of the men I’ve dated in the past. He is kind, thoughtful, and he seems to really like me. He says he wants to be with me and I believe him.
After reading a bunch of books and listening to webinars I know that how the guy treats me is one thing to pay attention to.
It’s clear to me that this man is a good and kind man. His behavior shows me that I am a
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I don’t want to regress into my old patterns…
This week's question comes from Susana:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thanks for the opportunity to get your help and advice. My question is: I've done all my work and I have started dating someone totally different and very special. This means I have changed. But how do I keep from going back to my old ways and make sure this relationship lasts?
Thanks!"
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Dear Susana,
How exciting! We love to hear when someone in our community has broken old patterns and created a new kind of
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What If I Don’t Feel That Excitement?
This week's question comes from Bekah:
Hello Orna and Matthew!
I really enjoy your emails and feel that what you say really resonates with me.
I would say over the past few years I have struggled with being in relationships that I have not had strong feelings for the person and then being in relationships where my feelings were more intense, but the person lacked the level of commitment that I am interested in. This is where I am struggling with listening to what feels like
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Pushing away good men?
This week's question comes from Tracy:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really love reading your newsletter. It gives me so much hope that I can figure out my crazy love life.
I’ve done a lot of work to identify my patterns and I hope you can help me break them. I feel like I push away good men because deep inside I don’t really love myself. Also, I stay too long with nice men who just aren’t right for me.
How do I figure out how to love myself more/enough such that I don’t continue to be
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