Not being able to keep your hands off each other can certainly leave you feeling breathless. Just the thought of seeing him again has those butterflies fluttering inside of you. But when you’re looking for a relationship that lasts, how can you know if the passion is good or not so good for the long-term prognosis? Are there dating red flags you can look for that let you know if he’s just feeling lust, not love?
Attraction and chemistry are important ingredients for lasting love. However, they are not the only ingredients that matter. There must be more between the two of you than a mutual turn-on for love to last. You can think of attraction like yeast in bread,
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Meeting Long Distance For The First Time? 10 Tips To Meet Someone For The First Time
This week's question comes from Nancy:
“Hello Orna and Matthew,
I have questions about how to meet someone for the first time who doesn’t live near me.
Hopefully, I have found the man of my dreams through a dating app. I want to meet him at a special place (like I said, this is a long-distance meeting). I’ve never gone to them first and I don’t usually pursue, but I am feeling like I really want to this time. Is this ok?
I’m not worried about my safety (even though this will be our first meeting). I have two weeks to get my self-esteem together and do the right thing.
I’m so fearful about screwing this up. Please help me!”
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Dear Nancy,
When you
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Afraid of Losing Yourself?
This week's question comes from Vicki:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been delving into so much of what you two share and I’m realizing so much about myself. The truth is I'm still afraid of losing myself in a relationship. How do I ensure that I won’t go back to that behavior again?"
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Dear Vicki,
You’ve already taken the first step, which is to recognize this pattern of losing yourself in a relationship. How you show up in your relationships isn’t going to magically change one day, it’s a process. The good news is that identifying your negative patterns puts you in the driver's seat to make the changes you desire.
Digging deeper into the reasons you are
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Why Am I Attracted To The Wrong People And How Do I Change It?
This week's question comes from Anonymous:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
Why am I attracted to the wrong people? I am attracted to not only non-committal men but to mean, moody, and nasty men.
My father was mean, moody, and nasty. He yelled at me and called me names my entire life up until about three years before he died. Those are the same type of men I have chemistry with.
My last boyfriend was mean, moody, and often said hurtful things to me. I felt like a mere convenience and rarely stood up for myself. I broke up with him a year ago but am still hoping he’ll beg me to come back. We had such good chemistry, and he was so into me the first year when I wasn't so
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6 Signs Your Casual Relationship Is Actually Getting Serious
Most dating experiences aren’t straightforward journeys from your first meet to romantic engagement dinner. And many daters don’t have great communication habits, so their intentions and desires aren’t obvious. It can be confusing trying to figure out where things are going or if they’re even going anywhere at all. So, what are the signs that a casual relationship is getting serious, and how do you avoid misinterpreting signals?
The desire to dissect your date’s behavior to discern the subtle shift from casual dating to exclusivity may lead you to make assumptions. Either missing an obvious clue that things are going well or misinterpreting a casual remark to mean
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No Chemistry? Here’s How To Get The Chemistry Back Or Know For Sure It’s Time To Walk Away
The beginning of a relationship is incredibly intoxicating. During the initial falling in love stage of relationship you just can’t keep your hands off each other, and your brain is flooded with feel-good chemicals. But what do you do when the excitement wears off and suddenly there seems to be no chemistry between the two of you? How do you get the chemistry back in a relationship?
All intimate relationships experience droughts of chemistry, particularly when your mundane daily existence together has the two of you in a rut. There is a natural ebb and flow throughout the course of a relationship. But how do you know if you’re just in a rut, or if the spark has gone
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