This week’s question comes from Patricia:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me break this pattern I seem stuck in. Why do I attract married men? There must be a way to repel them, so they stop wasting my time.
I must confess, when I was younger, I was the other woman in a few relationships, and I feel terrible about it. So, I swore off married men and promised myself that I wouldn’t be part of that kind of situation ever again. I truly want to be in a real relationship.
Six months ago, I met a great guy and we hit it off right away. I had such a strong attraction to him and I thought I’d finally found The One. Then I discovered that he’s married. Of
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What Happens When You Meet Your Soulmate That Changes You Forever
If you’ve ever had the experience of meeting a person you thought was your soulmate and have it end tragically, then you’ve probably torn yourself up wondering what went wrong. Maybe you’ve never felt that kind of connection with another person and wonder if soulmates even exist.
What happens when you meet your soulmate? How is it different than all the other relationships you’ve had?
Traditionally, a soulmate is someone you spend your life with. More recently, there seems to be a growing idea that soulmates are designed to break your heart. Many people have a fairytale fantasy of what a soulmate is. They expect a normal human being to come with mind-reading powers
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Why Did I Push A Nice Guy Away?
This week's question comes from Denise:
"Please help me. I’m afraid I acted crazy and pushed him away.
I was dating a man two months ago that broke up with me because I just wasn't spending enough time with him. After the first date he emailed me and told me he stayed awake all night thinking of me and he really thought I was the one. He gave me a dozen red roses on our next date, called me beautiful, sweetie, and baby. I told him he needed to slow down, asked him to stop calling me these names every second and kept thinking I just was not used to a nice guy.
My gut said something was not right, but I tried. He would text me 20 times a day during work, would fly
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5 Reasons Why Soulmate Relationships Are Difficult
This week's question comes from Tamar:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me figure out why soulmate relationships are difficult. It seems that whenever I have a great connection with a man I am easily triggered, and I overthink everything.
Being in my 40s I’ve been around the block; I know relationships take work. I just wonder why the deeper the connection the more I seem off-kilter. Perhaps I should be with a completely different kind of guy than I think…?
Curious about your thoughts on this. I am a long-time reader of your blog.”
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Hi Tamar,
Thank you for asking this common quandary: why are Soulmate relationships difficult. Yes, it’s true
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Why Is Love So Hard To Find? How Getting Over Unrequited Love Can Change Your Love Life For Good
This week's question comes from Jen:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have a question about getting over unrequited love. You see, I met my soulmate a couple of years ago. I knew it the moment I met him. It was like my soul had opened up and I finally knew what love could be.
The problem is he didn’t feel the same way. I don’t really understand how that could be possible. He told me that he had never felt so comfortable with anyone before. Our connection was so strong.
He met someone else, and I heard through a friend that he is engaged. I feel devastated. It’s like my heart is being crushed. How could I meet my soulmate and he not feel the same way as me?
I don’t
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Don’t Be Fooled By ZOOM Chemistry! 7 Mistakes To Avoid When Meeting For The First Time
You’ve been talking over Zoom and things have been fun and flirty – you’re feeling Zoom chemistry. You’re starting to feel like you two know each other. It’s easy to think that this relationship has legs. Now that the world is opening back up with more and more people getting vaccinated, the next step is meeting for the first time in person.
Your expectations for meeting for the first time can say a lot about what happens next…
Meeting for the first time in person is different when you’ve already spent time getting to know each other over Zoom. You believe you’re meeting with someone you know and not a total stranger. Without knowing it, you probably feel more
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