Most dating experiences aren’t straightforward journeys from your first meet to romantic engagement dinner. And many daters don’t have great communication habits, so their intentions and desires aren’t obvious. It can be confusing trying to figure out where things are going or if they’re even going anywhere at all. So, what are the signs that a casual relationship is getting serious, and how do you avoid misinterpreting signals?
The desire to dissect your date’s behavior to discern the subtle shift from casual dating to exclusivity may lead you to make assumptions. Either missing an obvious clue that things are going well or misinterpreting a casual remark to mean
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No Chemistry? Here’s How To Get The Chemistry Back Or Know For Sure It’s Time To Walk Away
The beginning of a relationship is incredibly intoxicating. During the initial falling in love stage of relationship you just can’t keep your hands off each other, and your brain is flooded with feel-good chemicals. But what do you do when the excitement wears off and suddenly there seems to be no chemistry between the two of you? How do you get the chemistry back in a relationship?
All intimate relationships experience droughts of chemistry, particularly when your mundane daily existence together has the two of you in a rut. There is a natural ebb and flow throughout the course of a relationship. But how do you know if you’re just in a rut, or if the spark has gone
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Are You Depressed About Being Single For So Long?
Feeling blue about being single? When things haven’t gone your way in love it’s easy to get sorrowful, sad, and cynical. Longing for a meaningful connection with another human being is valid and honorable, however, when sorrow consumes your thoughts and daily activities it’s time to admit you are depressed about being single.
This longing can feel a lot like grief; like you’re missing someone who’s not in your life yet. And the most mundane experiences can trigger feelings of loss. Simple activities like going to the movies, out to dinner, biking, or going on a walk, can all feel like they lack something when you don’t have a special someone to share it with.
The
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How To Date For Your Soulmate
This week's question comes from Nora:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m tired of dating and meeting guys who aren’t serious about a relationship. Please tell me how do you date for your soulmate?
I am reaching out, as I’m a hot 40-something-year-old woman who has a lot to give. I know I’m a catch and yet all the men I go out with don’t really pursue me or don’t even seem interested in a relationship. In the beginning, it seems as if they are really into me, but it peters out quickly and I’m left wondering what is going on.
Apparently, there is something I don’t know about how to find the right guy for me. I don’t need a man; I simply want to share my life with my
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How To Tell A Guy You Don’t Like Him Without Being Mean Or Cruel
One of the hardest parts of dating is telling a guy who is asking you out again that you don’t like him. You’re clear that the two of you are not a match, and you don’t want to come across as mean or cruel. How do you tell a guy you don’t like him without hurting his feelings?
Telling someone you don’t like them isn’t the same as being told by someone they aren’t interested in you, but that doesn’t make it any more pleasant. You’ve probably been dumped by someone who didn’t do it in the nicest way, and you don’t want that kind of dating karma on your hands. Mastering the uncomfortable conversation is one of the skills you’ll need to develop for a loving partnership to
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Getting To The Facts: Are You Needy Or Is He Emotionally Unavailable?
You’re in what started out as a great relationship, but now you find yourself constantly wondering whether he loves you or loves you as much as you love him. You keep asking yourself, “Am I needy or is he emotionally unavailable?” You begin to wonder if your relationship is healthy and become worried that it won’t last.
Getting your needs met is not optional. But are you asking too much of him? How do you know the difference between being needy or being with a man who is incapable of meeting your needs?
Maybe you are crowding him with your need for closeness. Or maybe he just needs more cave time alone to recharge. Navigating your differences is the key to lasting
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