All couples fight, even happy couples. There is no getting around this fact. Many people have a dream that one day they will meet the perfect person who just gets them and the two of them will never have a conflict.
This dream is a fantasy that is undermining your ability to maintain harmony in an intimate relationship, and could possibly be keeping you from identifying an ideal match to share your life with.
When you are ready to accept that even happy couples argue, then you can become curious about happy couples and what they know about arguing and making up that you haven’t figured out yet.
Unhappy as well as happy couples:
Sometimes scream and yell at each other.
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What Does Real Love Feel Like?
This week's question comes from Roma:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
What does real love feel like? I don’t know if I’ve really been in love with someone. I just turned 33 and I want a family and I know I don’t want to settle for just anyone. My parents had a terrible relationship and I don’t want to repeat their mistakes.
I’m very cautious about getting into a committed relationship. I’ve dated quite a few guys but most of them didn’t really excite me or give me the feelings of love that other people talk about.
The couple of times I thought it was true love, it ended horribly. I guess I don’t trust myself to pick a good match.
I’m not sure I even know what love is supposed to feel
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The Truth About How Opposites Attract & Relationship Compatibility
What is relationship compatibility and is it contradictory to the idea that opposites are attracted to each other? As you search for your soulmate should you focus on compatibility or on differences? What truly makes for a happy relationship?
Most dating sites use an algorithm that matches you with people who have similar interests as you. It’s common for people to end up in relationship with someone who is the same race, economic, or educational background. Are these the characteristics you should focus on?
When it comes to lasting love there is something more powerful going on when you look at how attraction and relationship compatibility work together.
Similar interests and
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How To Find Love When You’re Too Old To Play Games
Are you tired of playing games when it comes to love? Feel like you’re too old to put up with the emotional drama that you experienced in your youth? You just want to know how to find love and make it last.
The good news is that you can learn how to find love in a new way!
By making a few adjustments in your thinking and in taking new actions, you can transform your frustration into lasting love.
How To Find Love When You’re Too Old To Play Games
People play emotional games in their relationships because they aren’t emotionally aware or mature enough to take responsibility for their behavior. If you feel like you’ve done the work and are ready for something different, then here is a
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Will I Ever Find Love Again?
This week's question comes from Naomi:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Will I ever find love again?
I hope you can help me. I’ve been a long time reader and really think you give great advice. I have been feeling a lot of despair lately with the state of the world. Dating really scares me and I’m not sure where to get started. I married young and he passed unexpectedly in an accident several years ago. I have been alone since and haven’t dated anyone seriously.
As a single mom, I often wonder if any man would ever be interested in me, as I have to put my children first.
What are your thoughts? Do you think that people get a second chance at love?"
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Hi Naomi,
We’re sorry to
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Why Do We Keep Fighting Even Though We Love Each Other? 7 Steps To Stop Fighting With Your Partner
Fighting with someone you love can be one of the most heartbreaking situations. You want to stop fighting with your partner but you can’t seem to figure out how. Instead of breaking up, or separating to cool off, let us share with you how to stop the bickering and get back to loving on one another.
Disagreeing, fighting, bickering, or whatever your label of choice is not only common in intimate relationships, but when done properly can lead to a deeper connection between the two of you. In order for that to happen, you both have to have the same goal in mind.
Conflict is a natural occurrence in all relationships, and when you understand the common stages that all relationships go
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