Feeling blue about being single? When things haven’t gone your way in love it’s easy to get sorrowful, sad, and cynical. Longing for a meaningful connection with another human being is valid and honorable, however, when sorrow consumes your thoughts and daily activities it’s time to admit you are depressed about being single.
This longing can feel a lot like grief; like you’re missing someone who’s not in your life yet. And the most mundane experiences can trigger feelings of loss. Simple activities like going to the movies, out to dinner, biking, or going on a walk, can all feel like they lack something when you don’t have a special someone to share it with.
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How To Date For Your Soulmate
This week's question comes from Nora:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m tired of dating and meeting guys who aren’t serious about a relationship. Please tell me how do you date for your soulmate?
I am reaching out, as I’m a hot 40-something-year-old woman who has a lot to give. I know I’m a catch and yet all the men I go out with don’t really pursue me or don’t even seem interested in a relationship. In the beginning, it seems as if they are really into me, but it peters out quickly and I’m left wondering what is going on.
Apparently, there is something I don’t know about how to find the right guy for me. I don’t need a man; I simply want to share my life with my
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How To Tell A Guy You Don’t Like Him Without Being Mean Or Cruel
One of the hardest parts of dating is telling a guy who is asking you out again that you don’t like him. You’re clear that the two of you are not a match, and you don’t want to come across as mean or cruel. How do you tell a guy you don’t like him without hurting his feelings?
Telling someone you don’t like them isn’t the same as being told by someone they aren’t interested in you, but that doesn’t make it any more pleasant. You’ve probably been dumped by someone who didn’t do it in the nicest way, and you don’t want that kind of dating karma on your hands. Mastering the uncomfortable conversation is one of the skills you’ll need to develop for a loving partnership to
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Getting To The Facts: Are You Needy Or Is He Emotionally Unavailable?
You’re in what started out as a great relationship, but now you find yourself constantly wondering whether he loves you or loves you as much as you love him. You keep asking yourself, “Am I needy or is he emotionally unavailable?” You begin to wonder if your relationship is healthy and become worried that it won’t last.
Getting your needs met is not optional. But are you asking too much of him? How do you know the difference between being needy or being with a man who is incapable of meeting your needs?
Maybe you are crowding him with your need for closeness. Or maybe he just needs more cave time alone to recharge. Navigating your differences is the key to lasting
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If A Soulmate Is Your Goal, You Need To Know Your Love Imprint & How It’s Affecting You
You’ve likely heard the saying, “Men marry their mother, and girls marry their father.” This is just too simplistic when considering how complex human beings are. The reality is that your caregivers and your entire family of origin play a role in Your Love Imprint® and how you are hard-wired for love.
Whether you ever had a stable family unit or not, whether you were raised by one parent or both, you learned about intimate relationships from the people that raised you.
So, if you want to spend the rest of your life with your soulmate (a person that you can count on to stand by you) you’ll need to know what drives your choices in love.
If you’ve done the work of
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What’s Going On When You Feel Magnetically Drawn To Someone?
There are moments when you feel magnetically drawn to someone that sets you off thinking you may have met your soulmate. So, what’s going on when this happens? Is a feeling really a sign from the universe that you’ve finally met The One, or is there something more important going on?
You know the experience, you walk into a room of people you don’t know, and one person stands out from the rest – like they’ve got a white-hot spotlight on them… And everyone else is just background extras in your own personal movie (they don’t pop for you at all).
You and this stranger connect, and the conversation flows easily – it’s almost as if you’ve known each other forever.
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