This week's question comes from Paula:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me!
Here's my pattern...every single time I allow myself to TRULY love a man and trust/become vulnerable/believe he loves me back - he leaves!
All different types of men, wildly variable circumstances and timelines, but each time I chose to love – they leave. Of course the ones I don't care about I can't get rid of.
I just want to know, do men only want what they can't have?!?
Help!"
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Hello Paula,
Thanks for reaching out to us with this question that is clearly causing you a lot of frustration. The belief that men want what they can’t have is actually a limiting
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Get Ready for Love
Want a Deep Soul Connection?
This week's question comes from Michele:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
My name is Michele and I hope you can help. I long for a deep soul connection with a man. I have been divorced for 6 years. In a nutshell, my marriage ended because my husband was unfaithful. I raised my 2 children on my own. I must admit I did a fine job. They are 2 amazing young adults!
Once I was divorced, I put myself out there. I met many great guys and quite a few who were truly ready to commit. Some even looking for marriage. In the end, I usually ended the relationships. Nothing I could say went wrong, they just were not ‘The One.’ Friends shake their heads. Wondering how I can pass up
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Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Men?
This week's question comes from Laura:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am so glad I found you – you give the best dating advice. Its no doubt the universe pointed me in your direction just as I really need you!
I have been addicted to emotionally unavailable men for 20 years and in the past few years, have pulled myself away – like an alcoholic coming off liquor. But, the feelings are still there – like the alcoholic smelling alcohol and being consumed by the longing for it! My current situation involves a male friend, with whom I’ve got close to (as friends) quickly over the last few months. He’s in a difficult emotional situation himself and in a relationship that he
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5 Hacks To Rewire Your Brain So You Stop Blocking Love From Your Life
It can be so frustrating when lasting love feels elusive like someone or something is blocking love from you. Like the universe is telling you that you’re not supposed to have love this time around; as if there is some invisible force micromanaging your life making sure that YOU don’t get love.
While it’s unlikely that karma or fate are blocking love, your strategies for giving and receiving love probably are.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”- Rumi
This Rumi quote is one of our favorite quotes about love because it’s spells out so simply what is truly blocking you if
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Understanding How A Man Thinks Can Make Or Break Your Relationship
Understanding how a man thinks is the key to knowing if he is ready to take the next step with you, or if it’s time to move along. It’s important to evaluate his behavior to see if the two of you are on the same page. When you understand how a man thinks, you’ll never have to ask him, “Where is this going?”
Don't date backwards by giving the benefit of the doubt to a stranger on a date. Just because you have chemistry doesn’t mean you two have the same values. A man has to earn the benefit of the doubt with you first.
Understanding how a man thinks about dating and mating assists with your being discerning through the dating process ultimately so you can select an
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Can A Soulmate Be A Twin Flame?
This week's question comes from Marissa:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m confused about the differences between a soulmate and a twin flame. Can a soulmate be a twin flame? I’ve read that your twin flame is someone that you have a soul connection with. Isn’t that also a soulmate?
Aren’t twin flame relationships supposed to be healing but difficult? What about a soulmate?
I really want to find that special kind of relationship. I meet a lot of guys who are nice and seem like good men, but I don’t feel that spark of recognition that everyone describes.
I’ve had relationships but none of them felt super fulfilling, I guess I was lukewarm about them. How can I know if
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