Do you tolerate people in your life who don’t treat you with respect (hoping they will change)? Do agree to do things for others wishing you’d have said, “No?” Or maybe you have a pattern of apologizing for your behavior when really there is nothing to apologize for?
These are clear examples of behavior that stem from a lack of self-respect. Wondering what self-respect has to do with creating lasting love?
Excellent question! One key element to having a healthy, loving future with your beloved is having a healthy, loving relationship with yourself. In order to break the pattern of unhealthy, unsatisfying, or even toxic relationships, it’s imperative that you learn
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Get Ready for Love
The Complete Guide To Dating After Divorce At Any Age, After Any Length Of Time
Divorce is one of the top five most stressful events a person can experience, and it takes a toll both physically and emotionally. It can leave you feeling like a failure and wondering if you really know how to create lasting love. Have no fear! You can take a new approach to dating after divorce that helps you create a whole new relationship with yourself and an ideal partner for life.
Fear of repeating the same mistakes, concern over dating apps and dating in general, plus confusion about when to introduce your children are some of the biggest concerns you may have. If you desire another romantic relationship you’ll want to take a more conscious approach to choosing
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How To Tell If A Guy Likes You So You Stop Wasting Time On Unavailable Men
It can be so maddening dating an emotionally unavailable man. Investing time, energy, and effort into a relationship only to find out weeks or even months later that he is not actually ready for a long-term relationship. Would you like to know how to tell if a guy likes you so that you stop wasting your precious time?
Dating can be daunting and frustrating and many women just swear off dating rather than upgrade their dating skills. Spending hours screening dates by perusing social media and googling may lead to a future career as a private detective but will do little for your love life.
If you want to steer clear of emotionally unavailable men, instead of trying
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How Do I Get What I Want? 5 Ways To Get What You Want From Your Partner
This week's question comes from Lena:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
How do I get what I want from my guy?
I’ve been in a relationship with a great guy for the last 8 months. He’s funny and nice and I know he is very loyal to me. We have so many things in common, including bigger life goals. I think I really love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him.
There is one thing that really kind of holds me back from making a deeper commitment with him (not that he’s asking for it yet). I have a lot of small doubts that add up because there are things I wish he did differently. I love to give gifts to him, but I rarely get any in return. He doesn’t compliment me
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How Long Does It Take To Fall In Love For Real?
This week's question comes from Isabel:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
How long does it take to fall in love for real? I’m confused and I hope you can help me!
My boyfriend of 3 months keeps telling me that he is so in love with me. He’s always saying how much he loves me. I’m not sure I’ve had enough time to know how I feel about him. I’m afraid he is hurt by my not telling him yet and I don’t want him to go find someone else. I think I just need more time to know for sure before I say the L-word.
He’s a great guy and I find him attractive. We met online and he pursued me right away. I just don’t know if he’s the one. Should I know right away?
I’m so confused.
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Stop Settling for Crumbs!
This week’s question comes from Tameka:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
My sister-in-law keeps telling me to stop settling but I don’t think I am. I would love your advice.
My “friend” is a former coworker that I have an amazing bond with. He’s a recent divorcee. His hitch is that his wife cheated on him, so in his own words, he’s a bit “dead on the inside” right now, but we have a great time together. I told him that I had feelings for him, and he said he just needed more time to get past the one-year mark. The confusing part of the situation is that he doesn’t let me pay for anything. Doesn’t that make it a date? (I personally refer to it as hangouts.) We hang out a few
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