This week's question comes from Julia:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
Question: If I have no chemistry with a guy I’ve met, how long do I wait to see if attraction develops between us?
I have met a very nice man. We share some of the same hobbies, like books and music. He is retired and has tons of time; I work full time and also have a photography business and am very busy with limited time. This is sometimes a problem, but my real question is about sexual attraction. How soon do you think you know?
I thought we had some chemistry but now I’m not so sure (at least on my part). He says he is attracted to me, but I am having trouble recognizing his cues. He is a very
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When A Man Falls In Love He Shows His True Feelings In These 11 Ways
When a man falls in love with you it won’t be a mystery. He will show his feelings to you in very specific ways. And you won’t have to be a mind reader if you pay attention to his not so subtle way of falling for you.
How many times have you met a great guy and it doesn’t go anywhere? He’s attractive and the two of you have a lot in common and you start to hope you’ll be a match, but then the relationship never goes anywhere. He doesn’t reach out or text you, but responds to you when you reach out. The relationship runs hot-cold until eventually it just fizzles out, and you find yourself single, heartbroken, and confused, yet again.
Do you find yourself constantly
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If You Believe You’re Too Old For Love, This Mistaken Belief Is Keeping You Single
Afraid that you are too old for love? It doesn’t matter if you are 35 or 75, the belief that love has passed you by can cause you to give up hope that you’ll find the love you desire.
The feeling that love is passing you by can leave you feeling lonely and alone. It doesn’t matter if you are feeling the pressure to start a family, or whether you’re entering your Golden Years and afraid you’re going to spend them alone. Your belief that you are too old for love can cause you to lose hope, become cynical, and give up looking.
Don’t let your fears and your limiting beliefs stop you from discovering the joys of sharing your life with an ideal partner. Instead of
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What Is Real Love Like When Two People Are Actually Honest About Everything?
What is real love like? When you ponder this question what comes to mind? A scene from a romantic movie? A wedding? A scene from your life? Do you still believe in real love?
Real love stands the test of time. It’s when two people accept one another warts and all and commit to a life together. They weather the storms and enjoy the tranquility of the good times.
In order for real love to flourish, both people have to be brave enough to be themselves. So ultimately, real love is when two people share all of who they are with each other and continue to evolve and grow together rather than apart.
Here’s what real love is like when two people are actually honest about
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Stop Settling for Crumbs!
This week’s question comes from Tameka:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
My sister-in-law keeps telling me to stop settling but I don’t think I am. I would love your advice.
My “friend” is a former coworker that I have an amazing bond with. He’s a recent divorcee. His hitch is that his wife cheated on him, so in his own words, he’s a bit “dead on the inside” right now, but we have a great time together. I told him that I had feelings for him, and he said he just needed more time to get past the one-year mark. The confusing part of the situation is that he doesn’t let me pay for anything. Doesn’t that make it a date? (I personally refer to it as hangouts.) We hang out a few
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How To Date After Divorce (Even If You’d Just Rather Give Up)
Dating after divorce can be an overwhelming experience, especially if you were married for a long time. You may go on a few bad dates and think that it might be easier to just give up and stay single. Don’t despair! Instead, discover how to date after divorce so that you actually find love again.
If you’ve taken time to heal your heart and you feel ready to put yourself out there again you may wonder what’s changed. Most of all what has likely changed is: You.
Decide what you’re looking for when you start dating so that you’re clear on what you want. Maybe you’re just curious to meet new people and you want to keep things casual, or perhaps you know you want another
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