Forgiving yourself can be one of the most difficult steps you take on your journey to lasting love – it can also be one of the most worthwhile endeavors. This journey of self-discovery and growth will lead you to a more fulfilling life, happy and healthy relationships, and a love that will stand the test of time.
You may have heard us say, “You are the common denominator in all of your relationships.” This realization comes with a lot of power; the power to change your unhealthy patterns, to make new decisions, and to create new habits and behaviors (ones that serve you and create a life you love).
There is a dark side to this realization as well. If you are the
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Attract Your Soulmate
What Should I Look For In A True Soul Partner?
This week's question comes from Jody:
“Dear Orna and Matthew,
What should I look for in a true soul partner?
I’ve been around the block a few times, still single over 50 and never married. I’ve been engaged and I tried to make that work out but it didn’t and when/if I ever do get married I want to do that only once.
I do want to share my life with someone and I think I know what I want, but maybe my focus is on the wrong things. You two are a shining example of what I desire. The love between you two is so strong and palpable. When I see how you look at one another I want that… I want someone to look at me like that even after a decade together. So please let me
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8 Signs Your Partner Has Too Much Emotional Baggage For A Relationship
How do you know if the man you’re dating has too much emotional baggage for a relationship?
If you have a strong attraction to him, you can fall into the trap of excusing his bad behavior and ignoring red flags. You want it to work, so you overlook issues that you wouldn’t tolerate in a friend.
Your brain keeps telling you that he must be your soulmate because of how strong your chemistry is together. If you can just get him to treat you better, then you will live happily ever after.
Disregarding the signs that he has too much emotional baggage for a relationship will ultimately lead to heartbreak.
Most people date backwards and give the man they are attracted
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Why Are Soulmate Relationships So Intense?
Why are soulmate relationships so intense? Thanks to how Elizabeth Gilbert described soulmates in her mega-bestseller “Eat, Pray, Love,” a lot of people are afraid to meet their soulmate.
In her description “A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you and then leave.”
Ms. Gilbert got it wrong. Many people show up in your life to teach you and guide you to grow, but a soulmate is the one who sticks around for a lifetime through the good and bad
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If You’re Tired Of Being Lonely But Don’t Want Another Bad Relationship, Here’s What You Need To Do
There is nothing worse than feeling tired of being lonely and yet afraid you’ll make the same mistakes if you get into a relationship again. It feels like you are stuck between a rock and a hard place – part of you longing for love and another part afraid you’ll make the same mistakes again.
We call this situation being stuck in a double bind. Two parts inside of you want what appears to be opposing things and these two parts are at a standoff. It's like you are arm-wrestling yourself and each part is equally strong, so you never get anywhere – you’re just stuck.
If you stay stuck too long then you’ll end up unmotivated and ambivalent about ever creating love. Your
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Understanding A Man: 7 Essential Tools For Women
Understanding a man has been a quandary for women in general, and the editors of Cosmopolitan Magazine in particular for decades. We receive plenty of very specific questions from our Love On Purpose Community™ about a man’s behavior and why he did or did not do something, or what this or that may mean about him.
We feel your struggle and want to help you better understand a man and what his behavior really means.
It’s difficult to write about men or women as if every individual person fits into a box. We are all unique snowflakes, however, there are some general rules that apply to most men or women. Please remember this as we share these 7 tools for women to
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