This week's question comes from Michele:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
My name is Michele and I hope you can help. I long for a deep soul connection with a man. I have been divorced for 6 years. In a nutshell, my marriage ended because my husband was unfaithful. I raised my 2 children on my own. I must admit I did a fine job. They are 2 amazing young adults!
Once I was divorced, I put myself out there. I met many great guys and quite a few who were truly ready to commit. Some even looking for marriage. In the end, I usually ended the relationships. Nothing I could say went wrong, they just were not ‘The One.’ Friends shake their heads. Wondering how I can pass up
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Attract Your Soulmate
Understanding How A Man Thinks Can Make Or Break Your Relationship
Understanding how a man thinks is the key to knowing if he is ready to take the next step with you, or if it’s time to move along. It’s important to evaluate his behavior to see if the two of you are on the same page. When you understand how a man thinks, you’ll never have to ask him, “Where is this going?”
Don't date backwards by giving the benefit of the doubt to a stranger on a date. Just because you have chemistry doesn’t mean you two have the same values. A man has to earn the benefit of the doubt with you first.
Understanding how a man thinks about dating and mating assists with your being discerning through the dating process ultimately so you can select an
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Can Love Heal A Broken Heart? The Truth About Rebound Relationships
When a relationship ends you may find yourself rushing to meet someone new wondering, “Can love heal a broken heart?”
Experiencing heartbreak is one of the most painful experiences in life. A relationship starts with so much hope and when it ends, it can feel like something inside of you has died.
You begin to question everything you thought you knew about love. You really connected with this person at the beginning, and now it’s over when you thought it would last. Can you really trust your heart next time? Is your picker broken? Did other people get the memo about love that you missed somehow?
When a relationship ends, there are two different strategies that
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Could My Unresolved Emotional Baggage Be Holding Me Back From Finding True Love?
This week's question comes from Madeline:
"Dear O&M,
My goodness you two are the best! I’ve been following you for years and I admit I’ve learned so much about myself and my current state by how I respond to whatever you put out in the world.
Because you encourage people to be authentic I’m going to give it to you straight:
On my good days I revel in your advice and admire your relationship.
On my bad days I notice how angry I get at the two of you and I want to argue with you (plus, I secretly hope to find out that you’ve given up on each other and are splitting up).
So either you’re really helping me figure myself out or I’m schizophrenic.
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Can A Soulmate Be A Twin Flame?
This week's question comes from Marissa:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m confused about the differences between a soulmate and a twin flame. Can a soulmate be a twin flame? I’ve read that your twin flame is someone that you have a soul connection with. Isn’t that also a soulmate?
Aren’t twin flame relationships supposed to be healing but difficult? What about a soulmate?
I really want to find that special kind of relationship. I meet a lot of guys who are nice and seem like good men, but I don’t feel that spark of recognition that everyone describes.
I’ve had relationships but none of them felt super fulfilling, I guess I was lukewarm about them. How can I know if
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Why Do Men Have Blind Spots For A Woman When They’re In Love, But Otherwise Want A Perfect Woman?
This week's question comes from Anita:
“Hi Orna and Matthew,
Why do men have blind spots for a woman when they’re in love, but otherwise want a perfect woman? I met a great man and for the first few months everything was great. He was so romantic and always gave me compliments on my appearance. He seemed to love and accept me.
But then we moved in together and everything changed. He is so critical of how I do everything. I don’t do the dishes correctly. I don’t dress nice enough for him. It seems like I can’t do anything right anymore.
Please help me! I love him so much and I want things to go back to the way they were. I almost wish I hadn’t moved in with
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