How do you know if the man you’re dating has too much emotional baggage for a relationship?
If you have a strong attraction to him, you can fall into the trap of excusing his bad behavior and ignoring red flags. You want it to work, so you overlook issues that you wouldn’t tolerate in a friend.
Your brain keeps telling you that he must be your soulmate because of how strong your chemistry is together. If you can just get him to treat you better, then you will live happily ever after.
Disregarding the signs that he has too much emotional baggage for a relationship will ultimately lead to heartbreak.
Most people date backwards and give the man they are attracted
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Blocks to Love
Why Are Soulmate Relationships So Intense?
Why are soulmate relationships so intense? Thanks to how Elizabeth Gilbert described soulmates in her mega-bestseller “Eat, Pray, Love,” a lot of people are afraid to meet their soulmate.
In her description “A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you and then leave.”
Ms. Gilbert got it wrong. Many people show up in your life to teach you and guide you to grow, but a soulmate is the one who sticks around for a lifetime through the good and bad
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Do All Men Cheat? 5 Steps For Overcoming Betrayal
This week's question comes from Becky:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m writing to you because I think I know what my problem is. I’ve been cheated on by almost every boyfriend, and four years ago that’s exactly what happened with my now ex-husband. Do all men cheat? Why can’t I just finally meet a man who is faithful?
I’ve done a lot of healing, but I still think every guy will cheat. How do I overcome what must be my #1 block to love?
You two have to be the most adorable couple! You give me hope. Can you help me?"
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Hi Becky,
Thank you for the compliment and for reaching out to us. It makes sense considering what you’ve been through to wonder, “Do all men
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Are You Afraid To Date Again? 7 Strategies For Getting Back Out There
This week's question comes from Tami:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have not been in a real relationship in over 20 years and I’m really afraid to date again.
My personality takes a while to unfold with new people (I'm an introvert), so in today's speed dating kind of world, I feel quite lost and afraid to get out there.
I've had a few coffee dates that don't go anywhere and based on my past history, I don't really trust myself to meet anyone decent anyway. How do I get the confidence to even try? I find it's just easier to be happy with me & my cats.
Sincerely,
The middle-aged crazy cat lady ;)"
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Hello Tami,
Thanks for sharing that you’re
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5 Steps You Need To Take Now To Heal A Broken Heart
You’re not thinking about how to heal a broken heart when you first discover that your relationship has ended for good. You’re too busy reeling from the discovery that your happily ever after isn’t, and probably wishing you could just curl up and make all the pain go away.
A broken heart can pull the rug out from under you and have you on your knees rethinking every step you’ve made in the dance of relationship.
Going on a journey of healing after a heartbreak can feel daunting at first, but we know that you have the ability to heal a broken heart and create love again with another.
How you approach healing a broken heart is one of the most profound experiences
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5 Things To Remember When You Get Tired Of Being Single
When you get tired of being single it’s important to keep up the hope that you’ll connect with your soulmate. However, hope is not a plan – you need more than just hope to take you all the way to your goal of long-lasting love.
Sitting around and waiting for things to be different is not a strategy. Waiting for someone to discover how amazing you are won’t just magically happen. Contrary to popular colloquialisms love won’t just happen when you least expect it.
Here are 5 things to remember when you get tired of being single:
You Are Not Destined To Be Alone
We hear from women around the globe who hold this false belief. They’ve suffered heartache after
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