This week's question comes from Jame:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I'm a weekly reader of your Love Notes and have found much value in your advice. I've learned a lot but I’m still struggling because something happened and he stopped chasing me. I don’t know why he’s not pursuing me anymore.
Overall I find that the men I’m interested in seem to lose interest and stop pursuing me. It’s like I’m left holding the bag. Not exactly being ghosted, because if I reach out he’ll respond, but he’s no longer initiating contact.
This has happened enough times that I am seeing it as my pattern, but now I don’t know what to do with that information. So what’s next? How do I get a
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Blocks to Love
5 Hacks To Rewire Your Brain So You Stop Blocking Love From Your Life
It can be so frustrating when lasting love feels elusive like someone or something is blocking love from you. Like the universe is telling you that you’re not supposed to have love this time around; as if there is some invisible force micromanaging your life making sure that YOU don’t get love.
While it’s unlikely that karma or fate are blocking love, your strategies for giving and receiving love probably are.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”- Rumi
This Rumi quote is one of our favorite quotes about love because it’s spells out so simply what is truly blocking you if
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How important is chemistry between two people for lasting love?
This week's question comes from Bianca:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have a question about the importance of chemistry between two people.
I’ve been dating this guy for about 4 months and he is unlike any of the men I’ve dated in the past. He is kind, thoughtful, and he seems to really like me. He says he wants to be with me and I believe him.
After reading a bunch of books and listening to webinars I know that how the guy treats me is the thing to pay attention to.
It’s clear to me that this man is a good and kind man. His behavior shows me that I am a priority for him.
I want to know if you think that is enough?
I’ve made mistakes choosing guys I had a lot
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Can Love Heal A Broken Heart? The Truth About Rebound Relationships
When a relationship ends you may find yourself rushing to meet someone new wondering, “Can love heal a broken heart?”
Experiencing heartbreak is one of the most painful experiences in life. A relationship starts with so much hope and when it ends, it can feel like something inside of you has died.
You begin to question everything you thought you knew about love. You really connected with this person at the beginning, and now it’s over when you thought it would last. Can you really trust your heart next time? Is your picker broken? Did other people get the memo about love that you missed somehow?
When a relationship ends, there are two different strategies that
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Could My Unresolved Emotional Baggage Be Holding Me Back From Finding True Love?
This week's question comes from Madeline:
"Dear O&M,
My goodness you two are the best! I’ve been following you for years and I admit I’ve learned so much about myself and my current state by how I respond to whatever you put out in the world.
Because you encourage people to be authentic I’m going to give it to you straight:
On my good days I revel in your advice and admire your relationship.
On my bad days I notice how angry I get at the two of you and I want to argue with you (plus, I secretly hope to find out that you’ve given up on each other and are splitting up).
So either you’re really helping me figure myself out or I’m schizophrenic.
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8 Signs You’re Tired Of Being Single
How do you know when you are finally ready to make the leap and change your dating strategies? You first must recognize the signs you’re tired of being single.
Do you feel conflicted with jealousy and joy when your friends get engaged?
Are you stuck in the dating desert and just want to meet your guy so you can get on with the rest of your life as you planned?
Do you fear being left behind by your group of friends who are all getting married and having babies?
These feelings are signs that you’re tired of being single and are ready to break through to something lasting in your love life.
One of the biggest mistakes people make is that they don’t take
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