When you get tired of being single it’s important to keep up the hope that you’ll connect with your soulmate. However, hope is not a plan – you need more than just hope to take you all the way to your goal of long-lasting love.
Sitting around and waiting for things to be different is not a strategy. Waiting for someone to discover how amazing you are won’t just magically happen. Contrary to popular colloquialisms love won’t just happen when you least expect it.
Here are 5 things to remember when you get tired of being single:
You Are Not Destined To Be Alone
We hear from women around the globe who hold this false belief. They’ve suffered heartache after
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How do I get a man to pursue me?
This week's question comes from Jame:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I'm a weekly reader of your Love Notes and have found much value in your advice. I've learned a lot but I’m still struggling because something happened and he stopped chasing me. I don’t know why he’s not pursuing me anymore.
Overall I find that the men I’m interested in seem to lose interest and stop pursuing me. It’s like I’m left holding the bag. Not exactly being ghosted, because if I reach out he’ll respond, but he’s no longer initiating contact.
This has happened enough times that I am seeing it as my pattern, but now I don’t know what to do with that information. So what’s next? How do I get a
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5 Hacks To Rewire Your Brain So You Stop Blocking Love From Your Life
It can be so frustrating when lasting love feels elusive like someone or something is blocking love from you. Like the universe is telling you that you’re not supposed to have love this time around; as if there is some invisible force micromanaging your life making sure that YOU don’t get love.
While it’s unlikely that karma or fate are blocking love, your strategies for giving and receiving love probably are.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”- Rumi
This Rumi quote is one of our favorite quotes about love because it’s spells out so simply what is truly blocking you if
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How important is chemistry between two people for lasting love?
This week's question comes from Bianca:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have a question about the importance of chemistry between two people.
I’ve been dating this guy for about 4 months and he is unlike any of the men I’ve dated in the past. He is kind, thoughtful, and he seems to really like me. He says he wants to be with me and I believe him.
After reading a bunch of books and listening to webinars I know that how the guy treats me is the thing to pay attention to.
It’s clear to me that this man is a good and kind man. His behavior shows me that I am a priority for him.
I want to know if you think that is enough?
I’ve made mistakes choosing guys I had a lot
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Understanding How A Man Thinks Can Make Or Break Your Relationship
Understanding how a man thinks is the key to knowing if he is ready to take the next step with you, or if it’s time to move along. It’s important to evaluate his behavior to see if the two of you are on the same page. When you understand how a man thinks, you’ll never have to ask him, “Where is this going?”
Don't date backwards by giving the benefit of the doubt to a stranger on a date. Just because you have chemistry doesn’t mean you two have the same values. A man has to earn the benefit of the doubt with you first.
Understanding how a man thinks about dating and mating assists with your being discerning through the dating process ultimately so you can select an
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The Myth of the Quality Man – 6 Reality Checks Every Single Woman Needs To Take To Heart
This week's question comes from Nicole:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have a question for your blog. I think you have good advice and I want to hear what you think about finding a quality man to date. It’s also nice to hear from a couple that is truly in love.
I’ve done a ton of personal growth and spiritual work and the more I evolve and grow the more it seems finding a quality man just keeps getting harder and harder. I don’t want to sound critical but the men I meet just don’t match up with me.
The good ones are not online. The men I meet online are mostly blue-collar men or guys who don’t have their life together. I don’t want to be some man’s mother and I really
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