This week's question comes from Vivian:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m feeling so frustrated with being single and super melancholy these days. I love my life, I love my independence, I have great friends and family… what I don’t have is my Beloved.
As I look around it seems everyone is partnered up. My friends and co-workers are all with their special someone. This time last year I vowed I would find that special guy this year and now I find myself coming to grips that is not very likely as I start another year in my life.
What to do when I’m feeling blue? I’d love to get back into the groove in my life.
I sure hope you pick my question to answer because I’m
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What Should I Look For In A True Soul Partner?
This week's question comes from Jody:
“Dear Orna and Matthew,
What should I look for in a true soul partner?
I’ve been around the block a few times, still single over 50 and never married. I’ve been engaged and I tried to make that work out but it didn’t and when/if I ever do get married I want to do that only once.
I do want to share my life with someone and I think I know what I want, but maybe my focus is on the wrong things. You two are a shining example of what I desire. The love between you two is so strong and palpable. When I see how you look at one another I want that… I want someone to look at me like that even after a decade together. So please let me
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Tired Of Being Lonely And Alone For The Holidays?
This week's question comes from Lily
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am so tired of being lonely and alone and with the Holidays coming up I don’t know what to do.
This time of year is a really hard time for me. My husband filed for divorce just before Christmas 8 years ago and I can’t forgive him for ruining this time for me. He said he felt like I didn’t give him any space to be himself – I made more money than him and he was always resentful of that.
We didn’t have any children so I can’t make the holidays about them. We got married in our early 20’s and now it feels like time is running out for me. Lately, I find myself avoiding my family as much as possible. I’m
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8 Signs Your Partner Has Too Much Emotional Baggage For A Relationship
How do you know if the man you’re dating has too much emotional baggage for a relationship?
If you have a strong attraction to him, you can fall into the trap of excusing his bad behavior and ignoring red flags. You want it to work, so you overlook issues that you wouldn’t tolerate in a friend.
Your brain keeps telling you that he must be your soulmate because of how strong your chemistry is together. If you can just get him to treat you better, then you will live happily ever after.
Disregarding the signs that he has too much emotional baggage for a relationship will ultimately lead to heartbreak.
Most people date backwards and give the man they are attracted
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Why Are Soulmate Relationships So Intense?
Why are soulmate relationships so intense? Thanks to how Elizabeth Gilbert described soulmates in her mega-bestseller “Eat, Pray, Love,” a lot of people are afraid to meet their soulmate.
In her description “A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you and then leave.”
Ms. Gilbert got it wrong. Many people show up in your life to teach you and guide you to grow, but a soulmate is the one who sticks around for a lifetime through the good and bad
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If You’re Tired Of Being Lonely But Don’t Want Another Bad Relationship, Here’s What You Need To Do
There is nothing worse than feeling tired of being lonely and yet afraid you’ll make the same mistakes if you get into a relationship again. It feels like you are stuck between a rock and a hard place – part of you longing for love and another part afraid you’ll make the same mistakes again.
We call this situation being stuck in a double bind. Two parts inside of you want what appears to be opposing things and these two parts are at a standoff. It's like you are arm-wrestling yourself and each part is equally strong, so you never get anywhere – you’re just stuck.
If you stay stuck too long then you’ll end up unmotivated and ambivalent about ever creating love. Your
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