This week's question comes from Yvonne:
"Hi Orna and Matthew!
I love your weekly Love Notes! They are so inspiring. Thanks for this opportunity to get your advice. I do have a question.
How can I stay with appreciation and value for myself and for the other person even when I’m triggered? I know my core wound is about my worth and not feeling valued. How do I stay open-hearted for my own good, and give this man the opportunity to win with me?
I do my best to stay positive and not let my triggered feelings to get in the way, but sometimes I can’t help it. I feel so bad when I act out this way.
And if he's not able to win with me, let him go... so this or
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Identify A Relationship Ready Man
This week's question comes from Virginia:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
What is the most telling indication---going in---that let's you know a man is sincere and coming from a "relationship" sort of place in life?"
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Dear Virginia,
Thank you for your very direct question. However, you cannot know “going in” whether anyone is sincere about wanting a relationship. There aren’t any secret signs that signal one man is more relationship ready than another. You’ll actually have to spend some time getting to know him to see what his intentions are.
There are, however, signs you can look for while you’re dating him (and hopefully other men as well) to know what he
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How Do I Create What I Want?
This week's question comes from Natalia:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for all the love you have put into The Soulmate Shortcut, your generosity is so apparent in this book.
I will share with you what I found about my Love Imprint:
After going through about 1/3 of your book and reflecting on my life as a little girl it’s clear to me that my father was emotionally unavailable to me and also to my mother.
I think that my Love Imprint is unavailable men that I fear will bring division in my life. Either I don’t exist for them, or they don’t exist for themselves, or he is incompatible with my life. I am afraid that my therapy practice will suffer
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The Power Of Intention
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really love your weekly notes; they always brighten my day and give me a new way to think about love and dating. As this year draws to a close, I’m wondering what I can do to start off 2017 to set myself up for success in love and all other areas of my life.
Do you know any rituals or things that I can do?
Happy Holidays!"
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Hi Joanne,
Thank you for your positive feedback. We love hearing from our Love On Purpose Community.
We do believe in the power of ritual and even more important the power of INTENTION.
So much suffering in the world occurs from abdicating our own power. We commend you for asking for guidance to start
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I’m ready, where is he?
This week's question comes from Carrie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
After years of bad relationships (including an ugly divorce in my 20's), I just decided one day to stop the madness! And I took some time for myself and really stopped dating. Now, I've been single for several years and I feel good on my own, really good. I don't need someone to complete me or anything like that. I've taken some time to check in with myself and keep asking myself what do I want and I DO want to share my life with someone. I've done everything I can think of in terms of working on myself and my guy is still not here. What am I supposed to do? I'm not impatient but I keep wondering where is
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Why do victims of abuse choose abusers?
This week's question comes from CJ:
"Hi! I want to know if you can help me understand something. Why is it that being abused in your life helps you choose people that have abusive tendencies? And how do you get yourself to a place where you can find happiness and comfort?"
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Dear CJ,
Thank you for coming forward to ask for help in understanding why this happens. We learn to receive love at a very young age. And as we grow older how we learned to receive love becomes what our subconscious mind identifies as “love.”
The subconscious doesn’t have the ability to judge, it simply identifies what is Known and what is Unknown.
When we are raised in an
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