This week's question comes from Carol:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me. I’m stuck in fear and don’t know what to do.
I'm in a relationship where we use each other. He uses me as a part time companion whom he'll never marry (he's never been married and never will). I use him because we have a wonderful physical life together and we go out to places and events I enjoy. We do care a great deal for each other though I know I care more for him than he does me.
I have been single and dating in Los Angeles for at least 12 years now. I've met some very nice men where there is just friendship but no physical attraction. I've done the dance scene, the
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Attract Your Soulmate
How can I attract a match?
This week's question comes from Jahari:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
I really need your help! I’m reaching out because I think you two give the best dating advice… here’s my story:
I have been single for 15 years. I've "peeked out" periodically to try forming relationships with a few men who seemed eligible. A couple men were emotionally unavailable and seemed to want a relationship, but I soon figured out they wanted sex without commitment.
I have a LOT on the ball. I am very giving, while being able to receive as well. I am attractive, look and feel much younger than my chronological years, am a health professional (Raw Vegan Chef/Health & Nutrition Coach).
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How do I know if I should commit to him?
This week's question comes from Joan:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I love your newsletter and read it regularly! You guys rock! I really hope you can help me out.
I’ve been dating a guy for a while and I’m not sure how to know if I should commit more deeply to him or not. He’s been in my circle of friends for a few years and reached out to me for a date.
I was flattered and know him to be a good guy so I said yes. He clearly likes me and I know he has good intentions so I want to give him a chance and it’s clear he wants to move things forward with me, and I’m not so sure…
There are a couple of issues that have me confused. First off, he is not my usual physical
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What’s the deal with Soulmates?
This week's question comes from Tina:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for your weekly notes, I feel like I learn from you every single week. I’m reaching out because I’m really struggling as I work with a guy that I have a very strong connection with – I feel that we are soulmates. As long as I’ve known him he’s been in a relationship. Working together it’s obvious there is chemistry between us, and we are friends too.
I do my best to be respectful of the fact that he is unavailable. Recently they broke up and I felt myself feeling distant, I just didn’t want to get hurt. Nothing happened between us, I was really torn because I care about him, and I also have
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How do I know when to commit?
This week's question comes from Zoe:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am a bit puzzled about the dating process. I have just started dating again, after an 18-year relationship. The person I dated twice is a very kind gentleman who likes me very much. I also like him and enjoy his company, although I am reluctant to date any further, as I feel I need to have more dating experiences with other people, given that I am new to the dating world. He has asked me about my likes, dislikes and to see if we are compatible with regards to various activities and I found that in general, I was. I feel that my other hesitation has to do with physical attributes and when he started to grab
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The myth of “Accidental Love”
This week's question comes from Brenda:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been reading your newsletter for a while and I hear what you are saying about working on love and I’m skeptical. Won’t I just meet the right guy? Won't things just work out for me when I meet him?
That’s how it’s worked for most of my friends. They were single, or struggling, until they met Mr. Right. So I’m a bit confused what you mean about love strategies… would you please clarify? I am 37 and I really do want to share my life with someone and so far that hasn’t worked for me. I don’t see any patterns, all the guys I’ve dated are all very different.
Can you help me?"
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