This week's question comes from Helen:
"I've been listening to your interviews and appreciate them so much. Feel I am wiser for them. My question is this: If a man I haven't heard from in one month (he often backs off this long) still has not contacted me, does it constitute chasing to email him and say that the museum exhibit we talked about is over, but there is another one now I would be interested in seeing. (We have talked about the issue that his membership expired, but mine is still in effect and that he could go on my card.)
I would also say I hope he is doing well. No more. I feel he has hurt me by backing away for periods of time before, and I told
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Attract Your Soulmate
Will he love me if I’m sick?
This week's question comes from Tami
"Hi there Orna and Matthew!
I look forward to and love receiving your emails, thank you!
I have a question that may seem odd, but here goes anyway, haha.
I am a single woman, 50 years old, with a fun and active social life. I've, in the past made a few bad man decisions, but have learned a lot from each experience. That being said, I still have one major concern. I'm a very severe type 1 juvenile diabetic. I take very good care of myself, am a runner, play lots, and don't allow it to hold me back. However, it would be a mistake to not acknowledge the fact that at times, due to my life long chronic illness, I get sick. I just
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No longer yearning, now what?
This week's question comes from Nilla
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I receive your inspiring newsletters & every so often think seriously about not only why I am still single, 16 years now, but more importantly why I do not even attract or meet anyone!
Briefly, my background is: Married for 18 years, with 2 wonderful daughters. Then was in a relationship for 12 years, totally head over heels in love with my soul mate, and apparently he felt the same... then things became complicated with his children & ex wife.
Everyone has advice, where to go to meet single men, online etc, but it all feels unnatural. Have met lots of inappropriate matches.
For a long time
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Why am I stuck and still alone?
This week's question comes from Eileen
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thanks much for your Love On Purpose Revolution®. I am learning some great tips. But frankly, I am tired of seeking, I feel incapable of really getting it, when I try to use the advice it feels unnatural and contrived, even manipulative, and I am feeling hopeless.
I am 7th of 11 children, while it was fun with all those siblings, my parents were busy and unavailable emotionally. I was married for 20 years, with 2 girls, but communication was not great and it got abusive at the end.
I have been on a spiritual path since then, another 20 years now. I tried everything, The Work, Now, Dyer, Secret, ACIM,
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How can I keep having hope?
This week's question comes from Silvia
"Hello to two of the most inspiring people!
I was in a 5 year relationship with a man I loved, I thought he loved me but now I realize maybe it was not love. I could not feel like a woman in that relationship, he always needed more than me emotionally and later financially. When I expressed my needs he left and found somebody else immediately. I still have not been able to find a new partner with whom to create a more equal relationship. I have done a lot of spiritual work and still that special person does not appear. How can I keep having hope?"
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Dear Silvia,
Thank you for sharing your situation so boldly and
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Should I date men with kids?
This week's question comes from Kris:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
I've long admired your column here and the on point dating advice! Which brings me to the following question...
For some time, I had been in a committed relationship with a man who didn't have/didn't want kids. That was fine with me because I've chosen to not have kids either.
Now that that relationship is over and I'm dating again, I've been meeting divorced men who do have children. That's fine, but I also need to be a priority in my (future) boyfriend's life. For example, I had two phone calls with a man who has young daughters. The conversation was entirely about his children, and he asked me
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