This week's question comes from Krista:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for your wonderful work!
Is it okay to ask someone to change their behavior in a relationship? Is this the same thing as trying to change who someone is? I am confused about whether it's okay to ask for what I want, when it in essence requires the other person to change.
Thank You
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Dear Krista,
What a great question! We hear this from a lot of our clients. “How can I get this man I love to behave differently?”
Well, there is no magic template for getting a person to behave differently. If you discover it, please share it with us… as we would like to use it with some
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HELP! How do I online date?
This week's question comes from Michelle:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have been divorced for about 1 1/2 years now, and dated one man (that I met in "real life") for approximately three months - we had amazing chemistry, but he broke it off. I was heartbroken, but now I am pretty much over him.
A couple of months after I quit seeing that guy, I started online dating. I have been at it a little over a year now. I have had a ton of dates (I would estimate approximately 15 - 20 different guys so far) mostly very nice guys with a lot going for them, but I just did not feel chemistry with them. I really try, and I dated a few of them multiple times (one for 1 1/2 months!)
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What About The List?
This week's question comes from Beth:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have a question for you as I’m really starting to see things differently since I started listening to you talk about how to create love.
After my divorce I got really clear on the kind of person I wanted to be in relationship with, I made ‘The List.’ Soon after I met a man who was an exact fit to my list. He even drove the kind of car I had written down!
I was truly amazed that this seemed to work! Exactly the kind of man I described in my list was now in my life and pursuing me for a relationship. After 6 months he proposed and I said ‘Yes!’ I really thought I had things figured out.
During
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What if it’s not meant to be?
This week's question comes from Annie:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m really struggling right now and I hope you can help me. I know that I am attracted to unavailable men. I ended my most recent relationship because I constantly wanted more from him… more time, more attention. I want to feel like I am a priority, and well, I didn’t. So now it’s over.
After giving it a good cry and some time, I started online dating again. Nothing happening there either… just feeling icky and I’m really starting to wonder if a great love relationship was just not meant to be for me.
What are your thoughts?
Trying not to lose hope.
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Hi Annie,
Thank you for your
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Single for a long time?
This week's question comes from Veronica:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can give me some advice to help me!
I have been single and without a relationship for the last 8 years (since my divorce).
Sometimes I really feel alone and it is getting sad. :( I am 36 now and don’t want to be alone for the rest of my life.
I don’t know what to do. I am pretty, smart, and kind but I don’t know what else to do.
Thanks for your comments and your help.
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Dear Veronica,
This is a pretty big question and seeing as you didn’t give us much information we’ll have to cover a lot of ground. We want to start by saying that 36 is still really young. We didn’t meet
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Why can’t I find someone?
This week's question comes from Claudine:
I enjoy your newsletter every week! I have not been in a relationship in more than ten years and I feel that something is blocking me. I am a 46 year-old professional woman. I have tried asking people to fix me up and dating online. I do have a ten-year old son and I work a lot (during certain times of the year). However, I have been able to make myself available for dating. I look around and say . . . "Everyone can find someone, why can't I?"
I do not have a defeatist attitude normally, but I am starting to feel that maybe it is just not in the cards for me. I do not want to feel that way but it has been such a long time
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