This week's question comes from Penny:
Orna and Matthew,
I am writing to you because I really admire you both. I have listened to many of your interviews and I’m clear that I want what you have. I have been on and off again with a guy...and I am clear that I want it to work out between us. I hear you say, "Don't settle" and I don't feel like I am, I really love this guy and in my heart I feel he is my soulmate. He recently broke it off with me saying that he needed time to focus on his career and that I was a distraction. I'm giving him space, but I'm not sure what else to do... in a way I feel like I'm waiting for him to realize what we have together. You two say I
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Love at any age – Part II
This week's question comes from Sheila:
Thank you. I know that's the answer yet I just don't know how! That lack of truly understanding how is what cages me in, blocking me from having the self-confidence to be open to the possibility of love. Having been soooo devastated by actions of primary relationship (parents) that it destroyed my marriage. My resentment and inner rage, and the guilt and shame I clothe myself in, keeps me lonely and hungry for love. I want out of my cage into life's freedom.
Thank you for hearing me!
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Hi Sheila,
We know that you didn’t actually send in a traditional question as you responded to one of our recent Love Notes Weekly
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I lose myself in my relationships…
This week's question comes from Andrea:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really love your advice for women who are getting over their divorce. I was finally able to get out of an unhealthy marriage when I discovered my voice and started asking for what I wanted. It turns out he didn’t like that.
I’ve been doing a lot of work on myself and I’ve discovered my pattern but I don’t know what to do from here.
I have a tendency to be a rescuer in my relationships. Because of this I become more involved in my partner's life and I lose myself and what I'm about. Could you please suggest something I can do to avoid this in the future?
Thank you for your insight!
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When do you say no more?
This week's question comes from Tina:
Hello Orna and Matthew
I am in a 7-year relationship. When we met I was very busy with a new business and to be honest I was not attracted to him. He was persistent and so kind to me. Slowly his kindness started to allure me. The first time he held my hand I felt irritated then I felt I didn't really want him to let my hand go. My attraction to him grew in a way I was not familiar with. I so loved the way he adored me, and there was something I had never experienced, an aroma that I was so drawn to. I wanted to be so close to him.
This has been 7 years of pure confusion. Within a year the man that adored me, started
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Should I leave?
This week's question comes from Confused:
Hi Orna and Matthew, I have a question and would really appreciate some insight. I have been with my partner for three years now. During this time we have broken up a few times for up to 1 month. We were both miserable during the break ups and ended up talking about our issues and getting back together. BUT nothing really changes. We have the same issue again a few months later. My partner has been married before for 7 years and she left him. He is older than me at 39 and I am 31. The issue has always been around commitment. I know he loves me and he spends all of his free time with me. He is a great boyfriend in the sense
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Truth! Beauty! Freedom! …& above all things – LOVE!
This week's question comes from Mindy:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I really love the advice that you give and I think I’m stuck and I need your help. You always say that it’s important to select someone for a relationship that you share the same values with and I thought I did that, but it seems I didn’t.
I wrote out a list of the kind of guy I was looking for and within 2 weeks he showed up – even the kind of car that I had written down! It was like magic. Unfortunately, he seemed interested in me for a while, but his interest waned and now I find that I’m feeling anxious, and texting him all the time. Sometimes he’ll take a week to even get back to me.
So how do
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