This week's question comes from Alexandra:
Greetings Orna and Matthew,
I've enjoyed your love notes weekly.
My question is: How do I not lose faith/ inspiration that Love is out there for me?
Live Well.
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Dear Alexandra,
This is an important question and one that we’re sure many of our readers struggle with. Really what you’re asking is how do you keep hope alive, or where can you find inspiration.
The truth is that what we believe to be true, is what is true for us.
Yes – YOU are that powerful!
Each of us was given Free Will and it is the most powerful force in the universe. Most people want to abdicate their power because with that power
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How Do I Find A Good Man?
This week's question comes from Christina:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
How do I balance trying to find a good man with the need to be attracted to him? I'm trying to be open but am getting frustrated because I try to focus more on the profile online but find that I'm not physically attracted to most of them when we meet.
Thanks for your help!
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Dear Christina,
Keep the faith! You will find love. Keep making adjustments when you are not getting the results you want with online dating.
So many people write to us about their struggles with online dating. Many swear they will never use it again to find love. Others share their horror stories with us about the
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Can I turn a friend into more?
This week's question comes from Lynnie:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
I recently attended Mary Morrissey’s Dream builder live weekend. I am going after my dream this year of finding the man of my dreams who I marry and share a supportive, passionate, and growing relationship with.
Here is the interesting part, the man who frequents my dreams is actually someone who is a good friend, has been for over five years. We hike, bike, and occasionally share a dinner out. This is very random, usually more in the summer due longer days.
I have dated a few men while we have remained friends. I asked about 3 years ago if he was interested in anything more. He was not; he said he
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Isn’t accidental love more romantic?
This week's question comes from Patricia:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
Isn’t it more romantic when you meet someone out of the blue and sparks fly? The idea of doing all this work to find my soulmate sounds exhausting!
I would love to know what you have against romance.
Do you really believe that there’s any difference between falling in love and loving someone? If so, what is it?
Seriously confused.
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Hello Patricia,
Thanks for jumping in and giving us a challenge! We’ve heard this a lot and while Creating Love On Purpose® might sound unromantic, just the opposite is true.
Here’s what we know about the accidental, “Whoops! I slipped on a banana peel
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Can chemistry change?
This week's question comes from Kimberley:
Orna and Matthew,
I have been reading your weekly Love Notes for a few years now and I think I’m getting clearer on why my marriage did not work, and what I can do differently.
The problem for me is that most men I’m attracted to are much younger than me (by at least a decade and more), and they are players. I know they are not looking for a relationship. The men around my age are nice men, but I just don’t find them attractive.
My dad was a very attractive man who I now know was a womanizer. He wasn’t much for settling down and my parents divorced when I was very young. This must be part of my love blueprint and why
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Can I find lasting love at my age?
This week's question comes from Anonymous:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
First of all a big thank you for what you're doing! I have been following you for some time and you give the best straight-forward advice.
I have a few questions I've been wondering about.
First: I've been doing this work on my own about a year and have grown tremendously and I'm so glad I took this path. However I met somebody (lets say: "Z") last fall but found out that "Z" was taken (I then discovered that my attraction for unattainable people was just my own fear of physical intimacy and the possibility of rejection). I think I'm clear of what I want in love and in relationships. I do
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