This week's question comes from Therese:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
My enthusiasm is waning. Being a 58 year-old gal that sees the positive aspects of online dating is the sole thing that allows me to not give up hope. I have yet to meet or find any man that has any prospect of a solid relationship in my time that I have participated in online dating. This would be more than 5 years. The dating "gurus" continue to extoll that finding an eligible man is still possible. I yearn for a man that is decent, honest and interested in dating that would lead to a partnership in life.
Perhaps you can offer some guidance or words of encouragement?
Gratefully
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Online Dating Troubles?
This week's question comes from Angela:
Hi Orna Matthew,
I love the Love Note each week. They are beautiful notes which teach us how to live in everyday life. I appreciate it.
I like the concept of feminine and masculine energy. Society has mixed these up. I can feel that some men have the initiative energy and some men are weak in having the driving force.
I have some met some men on the internet recently. I wonder how I can balance this feminine energy and welcoming energy in terms of how soon and long I reply to them. I am a passive person. Also, I understand that email contact is not a relationship.
How can I reflect that feminine energy is a receptive
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Is This a Dealbreaker?
This week's question comes from Tamlyn
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
I never would have thought I would be writing for advice on this issue because I've always perceived complaints about a lover with poor personal hygiene to be easily resolvable.
I recently met a man whose heart and worldview match my own. I care about him and see him as someone I could build a future with. The problem is that his teeth are in a really bad condition and he often looks greasy and uncared for. I find this totally off-putting, not just for aesthetic reasons but because to me its a sign of somebody who doesn't care for himself. If he doesn't take care of himself how can I trust and respect
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Tired of being lonely…
This week's question comes from Kama:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
I’m a 37 yr old woman and I’ve never been married. I’ve dated a lot, but I’ve never had a relationship last much longer than a year. For some reason, whatever feelings I have for a man when we start dating don’t seem to last. I get bored or frustrated with the situation and I end the relationship.
The problem is I really want to spend my life with my soulmate, but I’m afraid I’m never going to find him. I’m just so tired of being lonely. Part of me believes I should just settle for the next decent guy who wants to marry me…
I don’t know what to do, and would appreciate any help you can send my
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Like Minded Men?
This week's question comes from Linda
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I am an attractive, fit 64 female and want a life companion and friend/lover. Have not dated in years, how do I connect with like-minded men?"
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Dear Linda,
Thank you for your direct question. We get asked this question a lot, and not to sound off putting, but you meet "like-minded men" at all the same places that you meet any other kind of man: Out in the world. There is not some special Starbucks or supermarket that all the enlightened, like-minded men hang out at.
We believe that the purpose of an intimate relationship is to grow together personally and spiritually. That the dating process
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Is long-lasting love in the cards for me?
This week's question comes from Anna
"Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for your Love Notes. I hope you can help me.
I’m in my mid-40s and I’m starting to think that a great relationship is not in the cards for me…
I was married briefly in my 20’s, but that was just foolish young love. We broke it off after less than a year. Since then, I’ve struggled to find a man who is willing or able to commit to me. Honestly, I’ve put most of my energy into my career the last 15 years.
Because of that, I’ve been successful, but it has been at the expense of my personal relationships. I have great friends, however, I really struggle when it comes to allowing a man to get close
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