This week's question comes from Fern
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have been divorced for 22 yrs. - have focused on raising my children and now that they are all on their own - I want to find a love partner. I have read many books - John Gray - did the 'Call in the One' program - Surrendered Singles - have a dating couch with them and am on bi-weekly calls. I have had clearing energy work done and energy massages, asked all my friends to keep me in mind etc. etc. etc....
I also go to lots of social events, smile and give eye contact. I am 6' tall, attractive and very friendly.
I have not met my love partner and I have been doing everything all the experts say to do. I
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Willing To Take A Small Loss For HUGE Gains?
This week's question comes from Deborah:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
It’s funny to think this is the first time I’m writing directly to you as I feel like I’ve known you both for many years now through your online events and webinars.
From all that I’ve heard from you, I’m pretty sure you’ll tell me to move along and let him go, and maybe that is what I need to do… yet I find myself holding on to hope. Maybe you can show me what I did wrong.
There’s a guy I know through my small community and he is exactly what I want. He’s a prominent member of the community, smart, funny, articulate – when I see him I feel like a schoolgirl with a crush.
Basically he invites
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Told You Are TOO Emotional?
This week's question comes from Nikki:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I am really struggling, and I hope you can help me. I seem to be stuck in a pattern of attracting men who seem like a good fit to start, but the relationships only last about 3-6 months. By that point, I always thought I’m supposed to relax in the relationship… when I do, the men leave me.
They all tell me some version of being drawn to my self-esteem and my confidence, and that they now find that I’m “too emotional.” It seems that when I express my true self and let my guard down, they don’t like who I really am. That I am somehow too much for them to handle.
I don’t feel that I am any more emotional
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How do I not mess it up?
This week's question comes from Sylvia:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
I would like to know about a man I'm interested in. I met a man online and we seemed to hit it off. We've been chatting online and I finally wrote an email to him but he hasn't answered me yet. He told me he wanted to meet and then I haven't heard from him. I really like him and I don't want to mess this up. What do I do!?!
Thank you.
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Dear Sylvia,
Thanks for reaching out to us. First off, know that you can't "mess this up." What we mean is that you cannot say or do the wrong thing with the right man. The key is how you approach it from the start.
First off, you must understand that a
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Can We Escape Past Trauma?
This week's question comes from Lisa:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I've enjoyed your work for a while now and have a question.
I’ve been on the self-growth and healing path for most of my lifetime and specifically working on relationship stuff for the past 5 years.
After healing through my divorce in 2012 and a toxic relationship later. I believe I've met someone really truly sent for me. We've been seeing each other about 6 months and it is by far and away the healthiest relationship I've ever had, and probably the first with a self-responsible, emotionally fluent, quality MAN. It’s been an interesting road for me in learning how to trust and receive and I'm proud of
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Do I intimidate men?
This week's question comes from Debi:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have been following the two of you for a very long time and I just love seeing how you relate to each other. It’s obvious how much you love each other and I think you’re such a great example of a loving couple.
I’m curious about your thoughts about what men want. I hear from all my friends that because I’m a powerful woman that I intimidate men.
It’s clear that Orna is a powerful woman and since here you both are – one man, one woman – I thought I’d ask you if this is true.
I am so tired of doing it all even though I love my job and my kids, it’d be really great to share my life with one special
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