This week's question comes from Melissa:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been reading your newsletter for years now and I really think that of all the relationship experts out there you two really tell it like it is, without all the hype and B.S.
I’ve been overcome with sadness recently thinking that perhaps my soulmate doesn’t exist and that I’m being too picky… which is something my friends and family have been telling me for years.
How do I know if I’m being too picky? That my soulmate is out there? What can I do to connect with my Beloved sooner rather than later (if he really exists).
I thank you for your honest response and I really hope you choose my
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How Do I Keep the Faith?
This week's question comes from Jackie:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I recently came out of a 4-year relationship in which I felt I had so much and in the end I had to walk away from it, as he never came through with his intentions. I believe he had stopped wanting to try and stayed in the relationship for a period of time before we split, waiting for me to make decision. He moved on very quickly which hurt me even more.
I have been spending so much time trying to heal and deal with my grief, I believe the decision was right and that I will love and be loved again but it is so hard when meeting that person appears hard for me and has been so easy for him.
Can
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How Do I Know If He’s ‘The One?’
This week's question comes from Donna:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for your teleclasses and webinars. I'm learning so much from you both. I have a question, I've been dating this guy for about 4 months, I like him a lot, he seems to like me a lot. How do I know if he is 'The One?'
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Hi Donna,
Great question! Pay attention to how you FEEL when you are spending time with him. Are you comfortable with him? Do you feel like you can be yourself? Does he inspire you? Can the two of you communicate clearly with one another? Pay attention to how he speaks with you. When you share how you feel, does he then tell you how he feels? Does he judge your
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Does Love Equal Sacrifice?
This week's question comes from Ramada:
"Hi Orna and Matthew, I have a really wrong concept of love. I keep thinking that it means to sacrifice oneself and one's own interests and giving in to another person just to be nice. It is just very subconscious but I can feel that is just what I believe, so I have discovered that if I just change that word and stop using it at all, it becomes easier to me to know what I am feeling. I decided to change love for FUN. Because fun is always good and always the best for me and that way I can easily notice what I would like as opposed to what I think I should do. Do you have any suggestions on how to let go of the fusion I (and
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Overcoming Loss
This week's question comes from Brina:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
How do you move on with your life, when the love of your life, your best friend and the father of your child has passed away?
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Dear Brina,
Thank you for asking this question as this is true for anyone going through the loss of a relationship under any circumstance. The first step is to feel the loss and allow yourself time to mourn.
The mourning process takes time. Time is your best friend right now - take the time you need to feel the pain. We know that what we are asking you to do is not pleasant, nor easy, however, moving through this pain will allow you to release it and move on.
You
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Craving what you can’t have?
This week's question comes from Bridget:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hear you when you say that I am the common denominator in all of my relationships. I understand that like attracts like so that there must be something inside of me that is off because I only seem to be attracted to men I can’t have.
I know that I’m attractive and I have no problem getting dates – it’s just that the guys who like me and want a relationship with me, I’m not very interested in.
Then I meet a guy who I think is HOT – and inevitably, he is unavailable.
Why do I only want what I cannot have? How do I change whatever it is so I can settle down and start a family?
Please
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