This week's question comes from Anonymous:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have been in and out of relationships for the past two years. I want to fall in love again. I am tired of one night stands! Please help me, I need to know how to attract love. I miss loving!"
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Dear Anonymous,
We hear you, and we want you to know that we've been where you are. Wanting love, desiring love, and feeling like it is no where to be found. So here are several suggestions for you to begin creating love on purpose immediately:
1. If you don't like one night stands - STOP HAVING THEM! (We feel there is no more to share on this subject as this is pretty darn clear. Simply
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I don’t want to regress into my old patterns…
This week's question comes from Susana:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thanks for the opportunity to get your help and advice. My question is: I've done all my work and I have started dating someone totally different and very special. This means I have changed. But how do I keep from going back to my old ways and make sure this relationship lasts?
Thanks!"
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Dear Susana,
How exciting! We love to hear when someone in our community has broken old patterns and created a new kind of loving relationship. Brava!
We are here to support your desire to not slip back into those old ways of being in this new relationship.
Here are a few thoughts we have about how to
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What If I Don’t Feel That Excitement?
This week's question comes from Bekah:
Hello Orna and Matthew!
I really enjoy your emails and feel that what you say really resonates with me.
I would say over the past few years I have struggled with being in relationships that I have not had strong feelings for the person and then being in relationships where my feelings were more intense, but the person lacked the level of commitment that I am interested in. This is where I am struggling with listening to what feels like my heart or feelings, and stepping back and noticing a pattern and wanting to be involved with a different type of person and relationship.
I am currently dating someone that I
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Did I mess it up?
This week's question comes from EB:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
Last summer, I filled three pages of my journal with all the traits I want in my man.
Two days later, I met him! I was amazed at how he was just what I wanted. We were together for seven wonderful months. He wasn't perfect, but he was just right for me.
He was a confident, masculine man who treated me like a queen. After we hit a small rough patch, he broke up with me. Via e-mail. I was devastated. I had done all this work on myself to clear my blocks.
A week later he reached out and admitted that he just got scared. He said being in love makes him feel thrown off. It's overwhelming. He
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Does IQ Matter?
This week's question comes from JJ:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I am so grateful to you both for your willingness to share your own personal experiences to allow others to learn and grow. I look forward to your Monday newsletters because I know I will find something worthy to ponder and explore in my own life.
I’m struggling with an on-going issue in my current 16-month relationship and hope you can shed some light. I was married for 30 years to a man who decided to leave me for a woman he took up with out of the blue. My ex is a highly intelligent guy but something snapped in him at age 51 and he took this other path. I was devastated because I felt we had a very
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Pushing away good men?
This week's question comes from Tracy:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really love reading your newsletter. It gives me so much hope that I can figure out my crazy love life.
I’ve done a lot of work to identify my patterns and I hope you can help me break them. I feel like I push away good men because deep inside I don’t really love myself. Also, I stay too long with nice men who just aren’t right for me.
How do I figure out how to love myself more/enough such that I don’t continue to be stuck in this pattern? I am trying to say nice things to myself like, “I deserve love,” but it doesn’t seem to be making a difference.
Please share your thoughts and
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