This week's question comes from Amy:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am fairly new to your community and I am gobbling up all the great new insights on your website and in your blog. After my BF of over 7 years broke up with me I’ve been doing my best to put myself back together and I don’t want to repeat the mistakes I’ve made in the past.
Would you please let me know what you believe is the reason I’m attracted to a particular man instead of another?
I relate to everything you share about how I am the common denominator in all of my relationships and when I look backwards I don’t necessarily see a commonality in the men I’ve been in relationship with – the only thing
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How Do I Get Him to Change?
This week's question comes from Suzanne:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I am a faithful reader of all your information you send out and follow all your advice. I have read The Soulmate Shortcut™ several times. So here is my situation in a nutshell.
I am 51 years old divorced 8 years was married for 27. I have had a best male friend my whole life since we were 15 years old. We have been each other’s rock and constant through out life. Dated in high school, college, after college, right after our divorces, and are presently now. We have always had a strong bond and connection with each other like no one else in our lives. The connection is there physically, spiritually, and
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Will I Always Feel Like I’m Broken?
This week's question comes from Ann
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
My story is rather long and complicated so I'll keep this as brief as possible. I grew up in a very dysfunctional alcoholic household. There were absolutely no boundaries. I've had lots of help and even attend a 12-step group. All this has been very helpful and it has really come down to me taking action, which has been scary. My relationships with men have been dysfunctional and it has been a slow learning process in how to have a healthy relationship much less be able to imagine one.
It seems the men I am most drawn to are into me in the beginning, we move too fast then I feel like I am tossed to the side.
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Is There Something For You TO DO?
This week's question comes from Amanda:
"Hi O&M,
I’ve been a huge fan for many years, way back when you would host your Love On Purpose Revolution event. I have enjoyed seeing you two interact with each other. You give me hope that I can one day have what you have – a soul partnership.
I’m 47 years old and I haven’t been in a relationship for some time, could be over a decade since my last serious relationship. My friends tell me that I’m a catch, that my guy will find me and there is nothing that I need 'to do.'
What are your thoughts on this?
I am at a place in my life where I really value myself, I am confident, capable, and it’s not that I need a
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Should I get back with my ex?
This week's question comes from Lisa:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me. My ex wants to get back together with me. We've been broken up for 3 months and I've been focusing on myself, on my own healing. I'm starting to feel really good about myself. And that's the problem. He has noticed the changes I'm making and we've been getting along really well lately. I'm so confused. How do I know what to do? I still love him and I feel encouraged by the way we've been getting along. Should I get back together with him? How do I know he won't hurt me again?
Thank you for your time."
Hi Lisa,
Thank you for reaching out to us for guidance. The first question
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How Do I Stop Attracting the Wrong Man?
This week's question comes from Tami:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for your work! I truly enjoy and have learned so much from your emails. I'm not dating at the moment; I'm in a bit of a self-imposed learning and recovery about my past relationships mode. When I am putting myself out there I either attract one of two kinds of men, the clingy, needy man or the player. I know… they are the opposite sides of the same coin. Both groups of these men are emotionally unavailable and very selfish. I hear you say all the time that I am the common denominator in all of my relationships… So, since I am the common denominator and the only one I can control or
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