This week's question comes from Sandi:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really love the dating advice you give and hope, hope, hope that you can help me!
I just seem to be attracted to jerks and I’m sick of it. I’ve stopped dating altogether and have resigned myself to just being alone until I can figure this out.
My ex-husband was just mean to me in so many ways. He’d make fun of me or call me names. He had a nickname for me that was so not nice or sweet or kind! Always complained about my weight, etc.
I finally woke up and got rid of him, but since then all the men I’ve dated reveal themselves to be jerks at some point. They are demeaning, critical, selfish, and
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Is There Love At First Sight?
This week's question comes from Kerri:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been following you two for years and I love watching you interact with each other. The love between you is so clear and not like anything I’ve ever seen especially after being together for so many years. I didn’t have good role models when it comes to relationships – it seems that both of my parents have had a hobby of collecting marriages.
Do you believe that Love At First Sight Exists?
I’ve recently met a fellow who I feel so attracted to and safe with and he is moving things forward quickly. I have doubts in my head – can I trust him? Is this real?
What do you think? Can we know “The One”
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Why can’t I make love last?
This week's question comes from Leslie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m lucky in that I have no trouble getting dates or even finding men who want to be in a relationship with me. In fact, one of my friends brags that I could get just about any man to propose to me.
BUT… I can’t ever seem to make it last. I’ve been divorced for 10 years, have been proposed to by at least 7 men, and I am constantly dating.
I’m reaching out to you two because I never seem to find the “right” man. Either they are controlling and we fight like crazy, or the spark between us doesn’t last. I feel like I get bored so easily with them.
How do I find someone who I can grow
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The Problem Is NOT Women Or Men
This week's questions comes from HollyAnn:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
Please help!
I’ve been dating for the last 2 years since my divorce and I feel so frustrated with the whole experience.
I always seem to meet men who I date for a couple of months then they unexpectedly break up with me. They seemed to be interested then they disappear. I am never able to form a bond with them. They don’t give it a chance.
Seriously, do MEN ever want anything even close to what women desire? And why don’t men ever try to give women what we need? Women are constantly available emotionally so why are men consistently unavailable and somehow it’s a woman’s fault?
This
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Sacrificing your happiness for someone else’s comfort?
This week's question comes from Rheena:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can help me. I am 58, relatively attractive, healthy, really interesting and smart – everyone in my family are nice people, my children, my siblings, my parents, all of us really nice people. I've been divorced 5 years and I recently ran into my ex at a close friend’s daughter’s wedding (we were her godparents when we were together so we were both invited to the wedding).
I knew he had remarried, but I had never met his new wife. Everything I heard about her had me confused. My children say that she is completely different than me. That she seems to push my ex-husband around and is super
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How long to wait before getting engaged?
This week's question comes from Desiree:
"Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been following you two forever it seems. I think you give the best dating advice for women. I’ve been dating a lovely man for about 3 months now and he hasn’t officially proposed… although he’s asking me questions that are letting me know he’s already thinking about it.
The news is everywhere about Pete Davidson and Ariana Grande getting engaged after dating only 3 weeks! Argh!
I know celebrities don’t follow any “rules” and I'm not about to run off and get married. I am curious about what you two think is the right amount of time to wait for a couple to get engaged and start planning a
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