This week's question comes from Beth:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have a question for you as I’m really starting to see things differently since I started listening to you talk about how to create love.
After my divorce I got really clear on the kind of person I wanted to be in relationship with, I made ‘The List.’ Soon after I met a man who was an exact fit to my list. He even drove the kind of car I had written down!
I was truly amazed that this seemed to work! Exactly the kind of man I described in my list was now in my life and pursuing me for a relationship. After 6 months he proposed and I said ‘Yes!’ I really thought I had things figured out.
During
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Blocks to Love
What if it’s not meant to be?
This week's question comes from Annie:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m really struggling right now and I hope you can help me. I know that I am attracted to unavailable men. I ended my most recent relationship because I constantly wanted more from him… more time, more attention. I want to feel like I am a priority, and well, I didn’t. So now it’s over.
After giving it a good cry and some time, I started online dating again. Nothing happening there either… just feeling icky and I’m really starting to wonder if a great love relationship was just not meant to be for me.
What are your thoughts?
Trying not to lose hope.
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Hi Annie,
Thank you for your
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Single for a long time?
This week's question comes from Veronica:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I hope you can give me some advice to help me!
I have been single and without a relationship for the last 8 years (since my divorce).
Sometimes I really feel alone and it is getting sad. :( I am 36 now and don’t want to be alone for the rest of my life.
I don’t know what to do. I am pretty, smart, and kind but I don’t know what else to do.
Thanks for your comments and your help.
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Dear Veronica,
This is a pretty big question and seeing as you didn’t give us much information we’ll have to cover a lot of ground. We want to start by saying that 36 is still really young. We didn’t meet
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Why can’t I find someone?
This week's question comes from Claudine:
I enjoy your newsletter every week! I have not been in a relationship in more than ten years and I feel that something is blocking me. I am a 46 year-old professional woman. I have tried asking people to fix me up and dating online. I do have a ten-year old son and I work a lot (during certain times of the year). However, I have been able to make myself available for dating. I look around and say . . . "Everyone can find someone, why can't I?"
I do not have a defeatist attitude normally, but I am starting to feel that maybe it is just not in the cards for me. I do not want to feel that way but it has been such a long time
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Is love only for successful people?
This week's question comes from Nita:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
Thank you so much for your honesty and all the wisdom you're sharing in your newsletter and elsewhere. I've learned so much from you. I have also been doing inner child dates after I saw the idea on your website and they are brilliant!
My question for you is about knowing when you're truly ready to make love a priority in your life. I've done a lot of work on releasing the past and I'm proud to say that I'm now at a place where I have taken responsibility for my past relationship experiences and have released the resentment I have felt toward my ex-partners (after all they only reflected back to me
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How do I meet a quality man?
This week's question comes from Rhonda:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
I have a question for you.
I am a 49-year-old female who has been divorced for a year and a half. I was in a 22-year marriage that had more downs than ups. I tried to make it work...I stuck with it, probably for too long, but when I left I was ready and have not looked back. I harbor no ill will towards my ex. I recognize the fact that I went through what I went through in order to make me the person that I am today.
I have done a lot of internal work...have figured out what I want and what I don't want for my next relationship.
My problem is that I am having a very hard time meeting
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