This week's question comes from Nicola:
"Hello Beautiful People!
I met literally by accident a guy on Tinder he told me that he has been divorced three times and was engaged another time to someone else. I am wondering should I meet him or should I run screaming in the other direction? :)
Thanks so much, regards and blessings."
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Dear Nicola,
Yes, it is important to pay attention to how a man shows up so that you can have a clear picture of who he is. The important question is to know what is actually a red flag and what is not.
When we are coaching our private clients through the dating process we always remind them that the men they are dating do
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Dating 101
When is a need too needy?
This week's question comes from Julia:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have been a fan of yours for a long time and the content you are sharing is very inspiring. I have just watched your video “Why Smart Women Stay Single” [link] and I found the points you made totally make sense. However, I have a question after this video…
I understand that a man likes to feel his woman needs him and that he’s her hero, but at the same time when we are too needy? It seems men are scared, feeling lots of pressure, and start running away.
What’s the difference between show him I need him and too needy?
I really appreciate your answer
Thank you."
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Hi Julia,
Thank
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What is it costing you?
This week's question comes from Adrienne:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thank you for all you do to spread love around the globe and help people find love. I really liked how you answered a question a few weeks ago when the person asked some version of why do women have to change, and what about the men who are blocked from love.
I appreciate you sharing that each person has a journey to love regardless of their gender, and how it’s what we don’t know that ends up blocking us from the love we desire.
I want to know your thoughts on my situation… I’m a woman in my early 50s and I’ve had my share of relationships, and right now I feel like I’m finally coming into my own.
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What are the rules of control?
This week's question comes from Karen:
Dear Orna & Matthew,
What do you think about a woman calling a man? Then pulling back? I'm in the first month of a really nicely smoothly moving along friendship with a man. Taking things slow. Almost too slow but I'm okay with it. He is 58, I'm 45. Not younguns....want to be smart about this and not push him away as I've done with all my others. I get very eager and want to control. So what is your opinion on texting, phone calls, inviting a man over......I have read the Rules 50,000 times.....and in one night of reading your book I so see where I've done wrong. The rules made me feel like I was being mean, not taking care
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Friends With Benefits?
This week's question comes from Pauline:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
I know you give the best dating advice so I hope you can help me…
I was dating a man for over 12 months and I often asked him if we were 'ok' as sometimes he was responsive and loving, yet other times, I couldn't even get him to reply to an sms. During the times when he couldn't even look at me when talking, it gave me a reason to feel insecure. A few weeks ago he told me he wasn't 'in love' with me, but had a love for me. We continued seeing each other until Dec 30. I couldn't help but ask how we were and where our relationship was headed, if anywhere. I pretty much pushed him to make a decision i.e.
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Are you creating disconnection?
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m hoping you can help me because I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong. I picked you two because I think you give the best dating advice for women – I’ve read ALL the other blogs. I also like that I get a point of view from each of you.
So here’s where things went wrong…
I met a guy online who lives in another state and after about a month of “Skype Dates” he flew to meet me over a weekend.
The really weird part is that the first night we were out, after having a great time dancing together we stopped into a bar and my ex was there with his wife. I’m over him… but it really through me for a loop.
It was late, we decided to leave and as I
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