This week's question comes from Julie:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am new to your community and I really love what you say about blocks to love. My question is more along the lines of how people create love... does a person have to be lucky to have it?
When I see people that are in healthy relationships (which is not that often) I find myself thinking how lucky they are. I did that when I first found out about you two… I though you were LUCKY to have found each other.
After listening to you both some more I know you say to pay attention to my inner dialog and this is how I discovered this voice in my head about luck.
What can you tell me about luck and love?
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Dating 101
I’m not attracted to the men I meet…
This week's question comes from Christina:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
Hopefully you can help me. I’m getting so frustrated with online dating and am afraid I’ll never meet my soulmate.
My question is - How do I balance trying to find a good man with the need to be attracted to him? I'm trying to be open but am getting frustrated because I try to focus more on the profile online but find that I'm not physically attracted to most of them when we meet.
It all just feels like a waste of time!
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Dear Christina,
It is all too common to feel frustrated with dating, particularly online dating. We hear it all the time from our clients and our
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Where is my hero?
This week's question comes from Kaia:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
I’ve been on a journey of personal growth for a loooong time. ;)
I know that men want to be your hero and I really want to be with a guy like that! And I’m a strong woman who knows who she is and what she wants.
Is this a contradiction?
We all want to be the heroines in our stories, but how can a woman identify a guy who does or doesn't want to be our hero?
Love you two!
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Dear Kaia,
This is a great question! And we’re sure that many women in our community are wondering the same thing – How do I find a man who wants to be my hero?
We believe that many women who, like you, are
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Diagnosing your dates?
This week's question comes from Liz:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I am writing to you because I really like how you give it to the person straight up each week in your ezine. I am divorced for several years, and have dated A LOT! I’ve had a few boyfriends since my divorce and I guess what I want to know is why would I be attracting the same kind of men into my life?
I find that the men who show up for me are either more interested in sex than a relationship, or they are narcissists, sociopaths or a combination of the two. I’ve listened to a few of your webinars and that makes me think that there must be something with me that I’m attracting these men over and over
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Just Pick ONE Thing…
This week's question comes from Kari:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m writing to you as this year is quickly ending and I’m feeling like I did last year… A year ago I was thinking that the New Year would be the year that I finally change things and connect with my Soulmate – sadly, that didn’t happen… yet again.
Being on my own doesn’t bother me, I love my job, I have great friends and family, I would like to share my life with someone.
Yes there are things that I could be better about with my own self care, going to the gym regularly, going on dates more often, taking some time to do some hobbies that I have pushed aside for one reason or another.
When I start
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Can’t Start A Fire Without A Spark
This week's question comes from Dale:
Hi Orna & Mathew,
I am following your letters and attended a webinar that was awesome. I love the depth of your perspective! So much of the info I see on dating is superficial and geared towards what women should be doing to 'attract' men and keep them. I'm tired of hearing everything from this point of view! What we should be wearing, saying, doing and not doing. I'm interested in figuring out what my response is to the men I'm dating and how to know if I should pursue investing in a relationship or not.
I'm a Coach myself and very aware of the fact that who we are attracted to are not always the right person for us.
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