This week's question comes from Deborah:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
It’s funny to think this is the first time I’m writing directly to you as I feel like I’ve known you both for many years now through your online events and webinars.
From all that I’ve heard from you, I’m pretty sure you’ll tell me to move along and let him go, and maybe that is what I need to do… yet I find myself holding on to hope. Maybe you can show me what I did wrong.
There’s a guy I know through my small community and he is exactly what I want. He’s a prominent member of the community, smart, funny, articulate – when I see him I feel like a schoolgirl with a crush.
Basically he invites
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Dating 101
How do I not mess it up?
This week's question comes from Sylvia:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
I would like to know about a man I'm interested in. I met a man online and we seemed to hit it off. We've been chatting online and I finally wrote an email to him but he hasn't answered me yet. He told me he wanted to meet and then I haven't heard from him. I really like him and I don't want to mess this up. What do I do!?!
Thank you.
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Dear Sylvia,
Thanks for reaching out to us. First off, know that you can't "mess this up." What we mean is that you cannot say or do the wrong thing with the right man. The key is how you approach it from the start.
First off, you must understand that a
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How Do I Not Lose Faith?
This week's question comes from Alexandra:
Greetings Orna and Matthew,
I've enjoyed your love notes weekly.
My question is: How do I not lose faith/ inspiration that Love is out there for me?
Live Well.
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Dear Alexandra,
This is an important question and one that we’re sure many of our readers struggle with. Really what you’re asking is how do you keep hope alive, or where can you find inspiration.
The truth is that what we believe to be true, is what is true for us.
Yes – YOU are that powerful!
Each of us was given Free Will and it is the most powerful force in the universe. Most people want to abdicate their power because with that power
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How Do I Find A Good Man?
This week's question comes from Christina:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
How do I balance trying to find a good man with the need to be attracted to him? I'm trying to be open but am getting frustrated because I try to focus more on the profile online but find that I'm not physically attracted to most of them when we meet.
Thanks for your help!
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Dear Christina,
Keep the faith! You will find love. Keep making adjustments when you are not getting the results you want with online dating.
So many people write to us about their struggles with online dating. Many swear they will never use it again to find love. Others share their horror stories with us about the
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Can I find lasting love at my age?
This week's question comes from Anonymous:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
First of all a big thank you for what you're doing! I have been following you for some time and you give the best straight-forward advice.
I have a few questions I've been wondering about.
First: I've been doing this work on my own about a year and have grown tremendously and I'm so glad I took this path. However I met somebody (lets say: "Z") last fall but found out that "Z" was taken (I then discovered that my attraction for unattainable people was just my own fear of physical intimacy and the possibility of rejection). I think I'm clear of what I want in love and in relationships. I do
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Won’t love just happen when I’m ready?
This week's question comes from Monalisa:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I’m wondering if you think one has to look for love, or it will come when you are ready? Is it like work on yourself so you can allow it to find you, or do you have to actively go out there and look and try things?
I think you give the best dating advice for women and so I’m super curious how you will respond. Please pick my question to answer.
All the best!
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Hi Monalisa,
Thank you for your question – and because you asked us to pick you – we did!
Love does not magically happen when someone is "ready." Just like the dishwasher will not magically fix itself one day, or world peace
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