This week's question comes from Joann:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I have a general question about men and pursuing. I’ve heard from a lot of dating and relationship experts who mention that some men are shy and have a difficult time pursuing a woman. I call them the fisherman, and the pursuers I refer to as hunters. I know according to He Is Just Not That Into You, that a woman should never pursue a man. Anyway, what would you say about the fisherman? Do you think it is ok to pursue a man to a certain extent?
Thank you."
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Hi Joann,
Thank you for your very straightforward question. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman pursing a man as long as
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Dating 101
How do I start dating again?
This week's question comes from Nickie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really need the best dating advice to help me with this situation. I hope you can help.
I have been out of a long-term relationship for about 3 months though it was over about a year before. I know it is over and see why it could not work with us. A couple of nights ago friends introduced me to a man who seemed completely into me and we just clicked and he was so easy to talk to. The problem is we had such a great time and after a little too much alcohol we got intimate. Have I completely ruined the chance of a possible relationship? Will he never respect me? And if he does call how can I change this
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Is your love-ability on the line?
This week's question comes from Trudie:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I think you two are awesome! I love watching you interact on your webinars, it’s clear that you are real people who love one another. Thank you for being a shining example of what it is that I want!
Since I read your weekly notes I know that you’re always advising to date A LOT, so that’s what I’ve been doing. Unfortunately, I am not getting the results that I want and I think I may be feeling a bit depressed about it.
I get plenty of action online and offline from guys but nothing seems to really go anywhere. I can’t remember dating someone for longer than a couple of months. Whether I’m crazy
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How do I know if I should commit to him?
This week's question comes from Joan:
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I love your newsletter and read it regularly! You guys rock! I really hope you can help me out.
I’ve been dating a guy for a while and I’m not sure how to know if I should commit more deeply to him or not. He’s been in my circle of friends for a few years and reached out to me for a date.
I was flattered and know him to be a good guy so I said yes. He clearly likes me and I know he has good intentions so I want to give him a chance and it’s clear he wants to move things forward with me, and I’m not so sure…
There are a couple of issues that have me confused. First off, he is not my usual physical
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Are You Dating Like A Teenager?
This week's question comes from Rita:
"Orna and Matthew,
I have been divorced for just over 7 years now and I never in a million years thought that I would still be alone… I like myself fine, however I really want to share my life with someone.
It seems that I cannot get past the 3-4 months in with a man. By that time, I’m starting to worry and wonder if it’s going anywhere… and when I have “the talk” it ends.
Clearly I haven’t figured things out yet and I don’t know what it is that I'm doing wrong. Do you have any advice for a young-at-heart 57 year old that is active and adventurous?"
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Hi Rita,
Thank you for sharing your heartfelt struggle. We
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Do I have to date to find my Beloved?
This week's question comes from Samantha:
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I have been following you two for a while and I really love your very direct responses. I resonate so much with what you two share and I think you give the best dating advice. Now it’s my turn to ask a question. I sure hope you pick mine to answer! (Please pick me!)
I just don’t like dating. In fact, I hate it. I know how to date; I just don’t like it. It feels fake and phony and quite frankly I don’t meet any men that I find remotely attractive. Online is bad enough, and when I go to singles events offline there are always way more women than men and it feels yucky and competitive.
Do I have to
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