This week's question comes from Lynnie:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
I recently attended Mary Morrissey’s Dream builder live weekend. I am going after my dream this year of finding the man of my dreams who I marry and share a supportive, passionate, and growing relationship with.
Here is the interesting part, the man who frequents my dreams is actually someone who is a good friend, has been for over five years. We hike, bike, and occasionally share a dinner out. This is very random, usually more in the summer due longer days.
I have dated a few men while we have remained friends. I asked about 3 years ago if he was interested in anything more. He was not; he said he
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Dating After Divorce
Can chemistry change?
This week's question comes from Kimberley:
Orna and Matthew,
I have been reading your weekly Love Notes for a few years now and I think I’m getting clearer on why my marriage did not work, and what I can do differently.
The problem for me is that most men I’m attracted to are much younger than me (by at least a decade and more), and they are players. I know they are not looking for a relationship. The men around my age are nice men, but I just don’t find them attractive.
My dad was a very attractive man who I now know was a womanizer. He wasn’t much for settling down and my parents divorced when I was very young. This must be part of my love blueprint and why
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Spooked on Dating
This week's question comes from Kathy:
Hello Orna and Matthew,
Rhonda Britten would say synchronicity... I am not sure. I have gone to Rhonda's fearless living seminar a year ago at Kripalu, loved it, did her 12 module/week fearless living workshop with a coach, Larissa. So many things have changed for me in the year. I went back again this past weekend.
I open my email this morning, and I have a newsletter from you! I must have gotten on your list somehow through something in my journey this year.
I am working on it, and still working with Larissa. But during this weekend at Kripalu, Rhonda brought up relationships a few times, and she brought up things that
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Terrified of Commitment?
This week's question comes from Kelli:
Hello to you both,
I love reading your Love Notes Weekly - thank you so much to you both for sharing all of your insights!
Here is where I've become stuck in the dating world: after leaving a relationship of 6+ years, I have found myself in a position where I'm not entirely sure what I want. I've become very good at dating a different variety of guys, very good at being open and warm and flirtatious with men, yet when it comes to the point where we need to 'define' our relationship, I've developed a pattern where I then abandon the relationship out of fear.
On the one hand, I think this may be due to myself and the guy not
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Love at any age – Part II
This week's question comes from Sheila:
Thank you. I know that's the answer yet I just don't know how! That lack of truly understanding how is what cages me in, blocking me from having the self-confidence to be open to the possibility of love. Having been soooo devastated by actions of primary relationship (parents) that it destroyed my marriage. My resentment and inner rage, and the guilt and shame I clothe myself in, keeps me lonely and hungry for love. I want out of my cage into life's freedom.
Thank you for hearing me!
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Hi Sheila,
We know that you didn’t actually send in a traditional question as you responded to one of our recent Love Notes Weekly
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I lose myself in my relationships…
This week's question comes from Andrea:
Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really love your advice for women who are getting over their divorce. I was finally able to get out of an unhealthy marriage when I discovered my voice and started asking for what I wanted. It turns out he didn’t like that.
I’ve been doing a lot of work on myself and I’ve discovered my pattern but I don’t know what to do from here.
I have a tendency to be a rescuer in my relationships. Because of this I become more involved in my partner's life and I lose myself and what I'm about. Could you please suggest something I can do to avoid this in the future?
Thank you for your insight!
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Dear
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