This week's question comes from Rebecca:
"Hello Orna and Matthew,
Thanks in advance for taking my question! I believe that I've met my soulmate but I feel confused about whether he's a romantic soulmate or a friend soulmate. We both feel a strong, unique, and romantic connection with one another but when we dated for a couple months last year it just didn't work.
This summer we spent more time together (not being physical at all) and agreed that we both really enjoyed it but when I express what I want (a deep relationship and partnership with someone) he continues to say he doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship with anyone right now. When we're both open
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Get Ready for Love
The Power Of Intention
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
I really love your weekly notes; they always brighten my day and give me a new way to think about love and dating. As this year draws to a close, I’m wondering what I can do to start off 2017 to set myself up for success in love and all other areas of my life.
Do you know any rituals or things that I can do?
Happy Holidays!"
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Hi Joanne,
Thank you for your positive feedback. We love hearing from our Love On Purpose Community.
We do believe in the power of ritual and even more important the power of INTENTION.
So much suffering in the world occurs from abdicating our own power. We commend you for asking for guidance to start
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Feeling stuck… Where do I begin?
This week's question comes from Susan
"Hi Orna and Matthew,
Thanks so much for all the work you do and for your optimism and support.
At the moment I feel like I have just completely and totally given up hope at all, and even decided I'd be better off on my own, so much to the point that I am now so isolated that I'm scared to go anywhere. I've never been the most social of people anyway and have social anxiety which doesn't help, but this is now ridiculous. I haven't even been seeing my friends.
My last relationship was with a full-blown narcissist who was only with me to get his needs met. It was so horribly hurtful, confusing and draining. It was also very
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No longer yearning, now what?
This week's question comes from Nilla
"Dear Orna and Matthew,
I receive your inspiring newsletters & every so often think seriously about not only why I am still single, 16 years now, but more importantly why I do not even attract or meet anyone!
Briefly, my background is: Married for 18 years, with 2 wonderful daughters. Then was in a relationship for 12 years, totally head over heels in love with my soul mate, and apparently he felt the same... then things became complicated with his children & ex wife.
Everyone has advice, where to go to meet single men, online etc, but it all feels unnatural. Have met lots of inappropriate matches.
For a long time
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How can I keep having hope?
This week's question comes from Silvia
"Hello to two of the most inspiring people!
I was in a 5 year relationship with a man I loved, I thought he loved me but now I realize maybe it was not love. I could not feel like a woman in that relationship, he always needed more than me emotionally and later financially. When I expressed my needs he left and found somebody else immediately. I still have not been able to find a new partner with whom to create a more equal relationship. I have done a lot of spiritual work and still that special person does not appear. How can I keep having hope?"
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Dear Silvia,
Thank you for sharing your situation so boldly and
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Should love feel exciting?
This week's question comes from Heather:
Dear Orna and Matthew,
You have talked about the subconscious seeking what is familiar whether good or bad...
I get that. What I don't understand is how that translates into something "EXCITING" ie : "This is familiar, this is familiar!" How is something familiar... exciting?
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Dear Heather,
Thank you for your question. We see how this can be confusing. The simple answer is that the only difference between fear and excitement is the inner dialog we are having about the experience. When we experience either fear or excitement, we have the same physical reaction. Our heart rate increases, our breath
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